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Have been married a little over 3 years. During that time I was using Vicodin and ended up in rehab. Sober now, thank goodness. Put him through some horrid experiences with lying, stealing money. Going through a bankruptcy now and wanting to get our home up for sale. He says he loves me he's just not in love with me. He says he's in a funk and that we shouldn't never have gotten married because we are both so irresponsible.

 

I want him back. What should I do...counseling? Work on healing myself with therapy? Exercise?

 

I need help. I am devastated.

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I'd first like to say that, being in love is the feeling associated with loving someone. During rough times, or depressing times, it can disappear. It can be brought back.

 

I can see why he'd regret it; why it seems that way even. But it's not over yet, and you still have a chance. Seek marriage counseling. Seek constant help for yourself, until you feel as though you have beaten this wholly. Work at it. You and him need to communicate, and express.

 

A marriage counselor can help you in this; another in you helping yourself. You have to prove that you are matured past this, to your husband as well. I am afraid you will have to take the first step and see. Talk to him about first giving counseling a try, rather then completely giving up on this marriage.

 

But changes must be made, and I wish you the best.

 

Come back for advice, comment back. Do not handle this alone, you can have help.

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