ThatDudeXO Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I never had a problem with being single until I came out my first relationship. I've wanted another one ever since but I never want to force or rush into things. People always tell me to enjoy being single....but I don't know how? I don't like random hookups, one night stands or flings. I'd much rather be with someone in something meaningful. What does a guy like me do to enjoy being single? 1
SensitiveTJ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Come on dude, there's a lot more to life than pining for your next relationship. You need to develop hobbies and interests. Work for a promotion at your job. Expand your social circle. Travel. There's a million things you could,be doing instead of waiting for a girl to walk into your life. Most likely, you'll meet someone along the way if you follow my advice. 1
AMusing Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 When you're single is your chance to really grow as an individual. You should be growing when you're in a relationship too, of course, but now is the time for you to expand in whatever direction(s) you choose. It's your time to be truly self-centered, in the best sense of the word, so take advantage of it. Take time to learn a new hobby you've always wanted to try but never had the time/money for. Work on reaching your peak fitness, whether that's getting a 6-pack, finishing a marathon, or achieving any other fitness goal of your choosing. Take a class in something you're weak in but want to do better (dancing, cooking, or a new language, for example). Make your old friends a priority again. Make new friends. Save money. Take a vacation by yourself. Volunteer for a worthy organization. Rescue a pound puppy. Get 8 hours of sleep each night. Stay up all night with the guys without worrying about explaining where you were to a SO. Read great novels. Spend the entire weekend watching a tv marathon, just because you can. Dedicate more time to advancing your career. Change your career path if your current one isn't making you happy. The option are endless. 3
superb Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I like this question because I ask myself the same thing too...some people don't "want" to be alone or are not content with that. Some people need to love and be loved in order to feel good. And honestly after years and years of it, it gets frustrating.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 The way to enjoy being single is to stay busy. One reason relationships make us happy is because we don't have a lot of down time. Being bored sucks. 1
AMusing Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 There is nothing as good as the feeling of being in a relationship. No matter what anyone says, relationships feel good when they are good for obvious reasons. I don't think many people here would argue with you: being in love is awesome. The OP didn't ask which was better, though, single or coupled; he asked how to enjoy his single life. There are times in most people's life when being in a relationship isn't the healthiest choice (or isn't an option). I'm an advocate for learning to enjoy those single periods, rather than struggle to get coupled up again as quickly as possible.
clia Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 There is nothing as good as the feeling of being in a relationship. No matter what anyone says, relationships feel good when they are good for obvious reasons. This might be true if you are in the right relationship. Unfortunately, the majority of the relationships I see don't seem to be all that right or happy. I mean, just read this forum. Look around. Many people go through a lot of ridiculous nonsense in their relationship just because they want to be in a relationship. Being single isn't scary or depressing. In fact, it's pretty damn awesome. I think you are more likely to end up in a better relationship if you are happy being single rather than if you cling to a need to be a couple and focus all of your energy on that. As many people above have suggested, being single is a great time to try new things, take classes, travel, read, go to movies and shows, and generally find out what makes you happy. 1
Celleste Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I’ve been single for 3 years and I love it. It’s the dating part that sucks for me (I hate it). Everything else is pretty good. You have to learn to enjoy being single. Have a guy’s night out. Go out with all your single friends, maybe to a bar or club. Have fun trying to use corny pick up lines to pick up the next hot girl. Keep yourself occupied. Sitting around the house all day will make you feel lonely. Get out there .It's nice to be able to interact with other people. Go to a single’s cruise, volunteer, widen your social circle. Enjoy your freedom. Do something new or exciting. Do something that you always wanted to do. Find a new hobby. Just enjoy life as much as you can. I realize when I’m busy enjoying my life, staying positive and growing every day into a better person. I attract better options of men to date. People gravitate towards happiness.
Casablanca Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Easy, I have great friends and dont need someone else in my life to make me feel worth wild. Now do I want a relationship? Yeah, do I miss the companionship and the physicalness? Yes, but I can live without those, we all lived usually around 16+ years without.
pbjbear Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 (edited) Well most guys do casual sex, hookups and ONS Me? I... -spend time with friends and family members -cook -bake -read -watch movies -play the piano -write music -download new music -skate, run, workout, cycle, rock climb, snowboard -work on my Spanish (almost fluent) -volunteer at an animal shelter -go to museums, concerts, shows -go on trips -hope a decent man will come across my path I bolded the first one because thats what has helped me the most Oh...and a vibrator too. Ive been happy doing this than trying to date the quality of men that exist today Edited January 28, 2013 by pbjbear
El Brujo Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 The way to enjoy being single is to stay busy. One reason relationships make us happy is because we don't have a lot of down time. Being bored sucks. ^That.^ It's the primary reason why I have a cat, a dog, and so damn many hobbies.
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