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What are your strategies for kissing a new girl for the first time? Do you wait for what seems like the perfect moment? Do you strike randomly? Do you say anything right before it? Do you seek permission? Do you go part of the way toward her lips and hope she'll go the rest of the way? Do you try touching her elsewhere first as a buildup? Do you wait until the end of the date? Do you start with a peck, then try for a longer, more intimate kiss immediately after?

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What are your strategies for kissing a new girl for the first time? Do you wait for what seems like the perfect moment? Do you strike randomly? Do you say anything right before it? Do you seek permission? Do you go part of the way toward her lips and hope she'll go the rest of the way? Do you try touching her elsewhere first as a buildup? Do you wait until the end of the date? Do you start with a peck, then try for a longer, more intimate kiss immediately after?

 

If it's a date, I wait until the end. If it's a party, I wait until we're alone.

 

Before, I've put my hand on her shoulder and rubbed it, and see if she brushes me off. If she doesn't I'll go in for the kill. Believe it or not, I've had girls allow me to massage them, and refuse the kiss.

 

I've been rejected around 20 times this way. Success 4 times.

 

I've verbally asked a few times too. Rejected every time.

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What are your strategies for kissing a new girl for the first time? Do you wait for what seems like the perfect moment? Do you strike randomly? Do you say anything right before it? Do you seek permission? Do you go part of the way toward her lips and hope she'll go the rest of the way? Do you try touching her elsewhere first as a buildup? Do you wait until the end of the date? Do you start with a peck, then try for a longer, more intimate kiss immediately after?

 

I always feel like there is definitely some sexual tension in the air when I'm about to kiss a new girl for the first time. You could cut it with a knife. It's SO obvious, and you can USUALLY tell when a girl feels it too.

 

If I'm not sure, I'll look at her and decide. Girls tend to stare out in space (almost pensively, probably thinking about what it would be like to kiss you OR 'OH NO IS HE INTERESTED IN ME?), bite their lips, touch themselves a lot OR (my favorite), look her in the eyes, she'll look right back, move her hair out of her face, if she reacts positively to this (which she will if she's looking at you in the eyes), put your hand behind her neck, go in for the kiss, and ESCALATE ESCALATE ESCALATE.

 

Also, if her hand is on your chest, shoulder, or legs, that's usually a good tell HAHA.

Don't ask permission. Completely beta. Girls that are below a 7 may think it's cute though.

 

On dates, it's a little trickier (especially on first dates where the girl isn't entirely sure about you). If the date is going well, there will be an instant where a girl is basically ASKING you to make a move. Girls WANT you to succeed with them, believe it or not, it's just SO many guys fail. Girls WANT you to go talk to them and win their hearts, it's just SO many guys have no idea how to go about it.

 

I remember a date I had with a girl that I completely failed in this regard. One of the cutest girls in my class, junior year of college. She was a track star, in AMAZING shape, SO cute, perfect teeth, perfect smile, kinda dorky, absolutely adorable and GORGEOUS. About a hundred guys liked her and I worked for 6 WHOLE months to land a date with her. So many guys asked me about. "YOU GOT A DATE WITH BROOKE? REALLY? WHOA DUDE." I was king of the school for a little bit.

 

During the date, at first, she seemed nervous, but we started talking, no awkward silences, she was laughing at my jokes.

 

Then, we went to sit on a bench, and she went to the bathroom (which is code for "fix my hair, makeup, text/call my friends). She came back, and pretty much sat RIGHT ON MY LAP, but my dumbass said "yeah, I want to go to the bathroom too." Got up, went to the bathroom, opportunity LOST. Got the "yeah I think we should just be friends" text after the date smh.

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I always feel like there is definitely some sexual tension in the air when I'm about to kiss a new girl for the first time. You could cut it with a knife. It's SO obvious, and you can USUALLY tell when a girl feels it too.

 

I don't think I've ever had that kind of moment. I don't know how to build sexual tension. Either the woman moves on me and I thankfully go along with it (doesn't happen often that way), or I awkwardly rush something without warning at the goodnight phase.

 

I've got no game, hence my solicitation for tips!

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Follow Hitch's advice, it's pretty spot on.

 

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What if she's not dangling the keys? :(

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What if she's not dangling the keys? :(

 

If you want us to help YOU out, you're going to have to tell us a story, and whats been going on. Are you going on a date with a girl you like soon?

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What if she's not dangling the keys? :(

My last girlfriend brought this up, I never realized that was a sign she wanted to kiss...never would have come to my mind...I would have thought the opposite as she is signing me that she is ready to leave

 

Just because it isn't there doesnt mean they don't want a kiss...you just have to go with the flow. There is no right or wrong time, just have to feel the vibe; those are the best anyway as they aren't forced and feel natural.

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