Pyro Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You met your wife CE on LS. I met my wonderful husband while stuck in the snow visiting friends, where he helped dig me out since he was a neighbor who spotted my predicament. The two men dated prior to him were my neighbors in my last place. One I ended up just dating, the other, got into a short-term relationship with him. Both good guys. All it takes is stepping outside your home and who knows what might happen. You are sort of saying that I am incorrect because I didn't have to leave the house to meet her.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 There is a little group of guys here who think that obese girls are the spawn of satan. So you are saying that you would give the obese gal a chance and if she was a good girl (by your standards) then she would become attractive to you? Oh yea. Absolutely man. I'm in my 30s. You think I'm going to choose an awesome woman who has a few extra pounds on her to spend the rest of my life with or some cute b@tch who puts me down all the time and is totally unsupportive. I HAVE gone for overweight women AND been rejected. A number of times. 1
tbf Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You are sort of saying that I am incorrect because I didn't have to leave the house to meet her.You had to pick her up from the airport on your first meet so this means you had to leave your house too!
Pyro Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Oh yea. Absolutely man. I'm in my 30s. You think I'm going to choose an awesome woman who has a few extra pounds on her to spend the rest of my life with or some cute b@tch who puts me down all the time and is totally unsupportive. I HAVE gone for overweight women AND been rejected. A number of times. Thanks for clearing that up. I do believe that you are in the minority on that. Most people aren't going to want to meet someone and get to know them unless they have some physical attraction to the person. An added bonus is that if they meet someone like that and they hit it off then the attraction increases.
Pyro Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You had to pick her up from the airport on your first meet so this means you had to leave your house too! I could have sent a taxi to pick her up. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Thanks for clearing that up. I do believe that you are in the minority on that. Most people aren't going to want to meet someone and get to know them unless they have some physical attraction to the person. An added bonus is that if they meet someone like that and they hit it off then the attraction increases. Yep. I know that well. You don't know HOW WELL. Part of the reason I'm so non-shallow myself. And part of the reason I'm so bitter.
tbf Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I could have sent a taxi to pick her up.Had you done so, you might not be married now! 2
Author Kimbra Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 As in good guy. I mean someone who actually wants and is looking for a relationship and who is not just looking for sex. Getting pretty over that and it ended with the last guy I dated because that was all he was after. . Guys to me don't have to be super good looking but I do have to be attracted to them! Agree with another post on here that attraction with someone is very important. I have dated a guy years ago who I gave a chance to even though I did not think he was that attractive at first (I should have listened to my first instincts and said no in the first place) as he was the one that bailed on me in the end. I know how that feels as well! Just have the worst luck in relationships. Just want to improve on things and put myself out there more. Oh and would guys like it when a girl approaches them? I am from Australia and the guys here are not as forward as the guys in America. LoL.
Emilia Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yep. I know that well. You don't know HOW WELL. Part of the reason I'm so non-shallow myself. And part of the reason I'm so bitter. And I'm calling you out as not being truthful to yourself. Everyone needs attraction, I bet you had one girlfriend at least whom you dated only to break up with her because you didn't find her attractive, correct? When you tried to make yourself to be non-shallow only to find that the old man wasn't doing the work he was supposed to be doing?
Pyro Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Oh and would guys like it when a girl approaches them? I am from Australia and the guys here are not as forward as the guys in America. LoL. Absolutely. I can't think of any guys who would oppose that.
SmileFace Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Hmm. Well. I definitely have a lot of bitterness. But I'm really non-shallow and willing to give non-traditionally attractive women who are cool a chance. I'm not sure if people consider that a positive attribute though. I will never call another person ugly because I know how it feels. And I never blow people off in a platonic social sense if they are weird or annoying as long as they are good people. When I was in college, just about every woman who knew me thought I was the nicest guy in the world, but that was before the onset of my bitterness. Depends. Most women I know do think I'm a great guy, yes, but if they saw the stuff I posted here, they'd probably change their mind. Depends on how you define it. You are merely projecting.
carhill Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If you're in SoCal, go to FFF at Knott's in April. Tons of guys, many single and most are successful, enough to where they have the ambition and means to support and field vintage/antique cars. Car shows are a great place to meet good guys. Best of all, it's free. Just show up, walk around and ask questions/show interest. Tip: don't lean on the fender when asking questions 1
TouchedByViolet Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 It is possible to meet them anywhere. Grocery store, gym, school, mall, through friends. Online dating works well for women too. Seems like they have a lot of potential men to choose from.
ChessPieceFace Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Makes a huge difference. When women say they want a good guy, they really mean they want a physically attractive good guy. Those guys tend to be hot commodities. Actually, they mean "really hot guy whose personality makes me wet due to behaviors I don't understand (alpha male behavior) while being a walking contradiction and being all of the noble things I claim to want while shunning all the noble, honest guys to the friend zone." GOOD LUCK.
KathyM Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You could meet good guys just about anywhere. Through friends or relatives, through work, through hobbies and interests, dating websites (although you'd have to screen them of course, since there are lots of losers on there also), through religious affiliations if you are religious, through political activities if you are interested in politics. Even chance meetings when you're out and about.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 And I'm calling you out as not being truthful to yourself. Everyone needs attraction, I bet you had one girlfriend at least whom you dated only to break up with her because you didn't find her attractive, correct? When you tried to make yourself to be non-shallow only to find that the old man wasn't doing the work he was supposed to be doing? You do realize that there are people in this world who NOBODY will ever be initially physically attractive to, right? So, by your philosophy, only pick those who are physically attractive, thousands of people will die off alone. All of my GFs have been way over the barometer for attractiveness, which is not to say I wouldn't date someone below. You are merely projecting. ???
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