Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Wow your posts make you seem very cocky. Just so you know, gentleman are not cocky and do not spend so much time focusing on how to get a woman into bed and are heavily into hit it and quit it situations. Please stop using words to describe yourself that are not true. Just because a guy sexes up girls without emotionally bonding with them doesnt mean he is a realist either. It means he is capable of sexing a girl without caring for her. What would you like me to say? I'm scared, meek, unsure of myself, keep my head down, and put my tail between my legs? HAHAHA
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Wouldnt say you are any of those things. You are not the stereotypical "nice guy" so it really bugs me you say you are. Nice guys do not spend so much time focusing on sex than personality and do not hurt women with their intentions. You do realize that is not what a nice guy is? Just because you arent a nice guy doesnt mean you are bad, I am not insulting you, I am just saying you keep saying over and over how nice you are but your posts dont convey any of this niceness you say you have. The more you describe your views on women the more overly sexual and unemotional you seem. That is not a "nice guy" Just admit you are another overly sexual guy who doesnt bond that easily And no, I said the idea that EVERY time two individuals have sex does not necessarily mean that there is a form of emotional intimacy or something "spiritual" (if you believe in that stuff). No. I'm saying some times two people have sex just to have sex. No strings attached. And just because I can do that and I DO do that does not make me a slime ball just because it seems as if some of you girls are unable to do that. How did this go about me being on a date to you 2 getting all manhate-y? Smh. You girls must win A LOT of guys hearts HAHAHA And who says that I have any intention to hurt women? Quite on the contrary, I NEVER have that intention. No way in hell. I couldn't (with intention) emotionally hurt my worst enemy.
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) You keep contradicting yourself. You frequently sex up girls and dont bond with them (at least by your posting history) so you do not seem to bond through sex. In my opinion, you seem slimy because some of the girls you sexed up werent no strings attached obviously through their eyes but you went ahead, hence why they ended up hurt. Its in your history. I think thats what the other girl was trying to say. A lot of men I have observed, esp. younger ones, seem to convince themselves some of the girls they sleep with casually have the same viewpoint when they obviously dont but they want sex and they ignore it. You stated situations in your past threads that show this. Hopefully, you learned from it and dont do it again but Id be wary of you. You said in this thread you hurt women when you went on a rampage of using girls for sex after your ex left you. Yes I did, and I deeply regret that. So what? You can't use a dark time in someone's life and judge their whole entire character based off of it. HAHA where's the empathy? Also, you are SORTA right while being COMPLETELY wrong about looking at her viewpoint. If I'm at a party, start talking to a girl, bring her back to my room, both drunk, and it ends up being sex, how and why should I gauge whether she is emotionally attached or not? Also (and I'm sure PBJ says this a lot), a lot of girls BELIEVE that they can have no strings attached sex, but really can't. Sorry, I don't really know where to find nor how to use a crystal ball. I've also had one night stands where the girl was very much "thanks for the sex, I've got to go back to my room and study. See you around." And that was that. There have been girls that got somewhat emotionally attached, and then there were girls that whenever they saw me walking about would holler "SUP DUDE!" If you got some instrument that helps measure a girls emotional attachment potential during sex, let me know, I'll be happy to purchase it from you. Edited February 1, 2013 by lakerman34
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 why should I gauge whether she is emotionally attached or not? Also (and I'm sure PBJ says this a lot), a lot of girls BELIEVE that they can have no strings attached sex, but really can't. Sorry, I don't really know where to find nor how to use a crystal ball. . Because you dont care to. You are not as caring as you are writing yourself to be.
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Because you dont care to. You are not as caring as you are writing yourself to be. OK, so next time I have a girl in bed, I'll ask her "is this going to be an extremely emotional event for you if we have sex?" Got it.
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Your should keep your one night stands to the "thanks for the sex" women. The general gist of your posts is you are only concerned what you get out of women, you say you care but its all "me me me me" I care about the girls that I actually intend to date, yes, but if a girl sees me drunk and is drunk herself, follows me to my room, goes on my bed, and we have sex, then yeah, I think I could ASSUME she is a "thanks for the sex" woman. Some of those girls aren't though. In that case, it's more of a her problem, not a me problem. Both of us are consenting adults, that's all that matters. I didn't wine and dine her, bring her home to meet the parents, introduce her to my friends, none of that. If she gets emotionally attached in any way, that's really not my fault. And the manhaters on this site will SOMEHOW think that it is. No hope.
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) I see your point but Im not describing those women. Those women are to blame for that. In your posting history you describe using women for casual sex and they werent drunken ONS where they threw themselves at you. It doesnt matter now anyway since you say you wont do it again just trying to explain why several people after looking at your history disagree with the way you say you are I actually think the only girls that I had sex with when she was sober were either a) taking advantage of me because I was balls out blasted OR b) a girl I had some kind of emotional investment in. Don't know what the hell you are talking about... And yes. I am told quite often that I wear my heart on my sleeve and am very charismatic. I'm not going to say that EVERY SINGLE GIRL loves me, a lot absolutely despise me, but the vast majority really do like me. A lot. The girl I am going on a date with tomorrow's friends (who I am actually very friendly with) tell me that I'm a catch, and I know I could probably land a date with most of them, but I see them as no more than friends. Edited February 1, 2013 by lakerman34
Author lakerman34 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 So last night was my first date with this girl, and I was right, she went in for sex. I gave her a purple orchid (had a deep meaning to us, she appreciated it), and I put my foot on the brakes when our making out/touching session was about to turn into sex. I told her that I liked her, and didn't want to ruin anything. At first, she was like "ugh" and stared at me confused. Now, I'm leaving for about 80 days starting Tuesday. She told me she was "thinking" and that she couldn't make a decision on whether to try more than just a ONS with me. I slept with her overnight, and we cuddled, she kept intertwining her fingers with mine, cute stuff like that. We wake up, we just talk, hang out, hook up some more, and then I got mixed feelings about how she felt about my trying to stop her. I gave her a full body massage (and I mean head to toe), and I spent about an hour just touching and complimenting. She ate it up. I wanted to take her for breakfast, but this girl didn't want me to leave until her flatmates left. She is VERY private, and didn't want them to know I was in her room, and had me promise I wouldn't tell friends about us. By the time we left, it was too late for breakfast, so we were about to have an awkward goodbye, then I said "screw it," went in for a kiss, and we made out. I told her I'm gonna come back with some South African wine in 80 days, and asked her to keep in touch via Facebook. She said "yeah, I might when I get bored here and there." I THINK overall it was good, but I still don't know where I stand with her. I didn't try contacting her yet, trying to let the whole night marinate in her head (she over thinks EVERYTHING). Thing is, I don't know my next move. I leave on Tuesday. Do I wait for her to contact me? Do I contact her right before I leave? How do you guys think I did?
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