rushingwaters Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 If I hadnt read his past posts I would have said different things...seriously, go read his past threads. Cocky, douchey, very into the frat lifestyle, makes fun of women who dont act like a pornstar early on, justifies all his selfish excuses, makes it seem like hes such a "nice guy" I read his other threa and responded to it when he said if a girl doesnt make a physical move early on shes a "goody two shoes" and the only way hed give her the time of day is if she just pulled down his pants right then and there...then proceeded to say he is a nice guy I call a guy on his bull**** when I see it Too much drama. I read two of his past threads. Yeah, he's very cocky, aggressive, and a sex-enthusiast. I think he's one of those guys who have that charismatic and charming outer layer. I don't know what to make of him. I'm not interested in knowing. Sorry.
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Too much drama. I read two of his past threads. Yeah, he's very cocky, aggressive, and a sex-enthusiast. I think he's one of those guys who have that charismatic and charming outer layer. I don't know what to make of him. I'm not interested in knowing. Sorry. Can you please tell me which two past threads? And, like I've mentioned many times to PBJ, judging a person based on an internet forum is kind of pathetic.
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Can you please tell me which two past threads? And, like I've mentioned many times to PBJ, judging a person based on an internet forum is kind of pathetic. Maybe one thread, but six threads with all the same theme...no. You just cant see the traits other people objectively see...whats the point? I dont really like alot of men, its obvious from my posting history certain men tick me off. I live in NYC and the vapid, mean, self absorbed men here I cannot stand. I cant wait to move to a blue culture. But the men I do like, Im very caring and loyal to them. I dont respond negatively to every thread posted by a guy...I tell men to do the same thing women do when they arent being treated right
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) Maybe one thread, but six threads with all the same theme...no. You just cant see the traits other people objectively see...whats the point? I dont really like alot of men, its obvious from my posting history certain men tick me off. I live in NYC and the vapid, mean, self absorbed men here I cannot stand. I cant wait to move to a blue culture. But the men I do like, Im very caring and loyal to them. I dont respond negatively to every thread posted by a guy...I tell men to do the same thing women do when they arent being treated right I'm going thru my threads, and MAYBE the one where we were talking about 'sex on the first date,' but clearly we have different views on that (you -- NO NO NO, me -- depends on the girl/guy involved), but other than that, you've got nothing. I think you have this skewed view that EVERY girl thinks and acts JUST LIKE YOU. Sorry, but people are, indeed different. 6? PLEASE show me just 3 threads where I demean girls. Send me the links. Let me see the wrong in my ways! Also, MOST girls DO like me, think I'm a GREAT guy. And I actually DO like MOST girls. Says something about you and I, doesn't it?! Edited January 31, 2013 by lakerman34
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Proverbial "I'm going to be the better person and stop the arguing although I know I've got jack squat on this guy." Thought so. People like you make me laugh.
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Proverbial "I'm going to be the better person and stop the arguing although I know I've got jack squat on this guy." Thought so. People like you make me laugh. Your threads have a cocky, douchey, very immature theme to them. You dont see it because you think youre great, I stop responding because youre irrational and theres no point in talking more about it. Good luck with the girl who is like a guy. Most guys dont like drama so maybe thats why she is avoiding you
rushingwaters Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Can you please tell me which two past threads? And, like I've mentioned many times to PBJ, judging a person based on an internet forum is kind of pathetic. I don't remember. I clicked through them but they all look the same. I know it wasn't the one where you were bringing a girl home to your parents because that one said your age. I had no idea how old you were until that point.
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Your threads have a cocky, douchey, very immature theme to them. You dont see it because you think youre great, I stop responding because youre irrational and theres no point in talking more about it. Good luck with the girl who is like a guy. Most guys dont like drama so maybe thats why she is avoiding you HAHAHA. I love people who make assumptions and can't back ANYTHING up. 99% of my posts on this forum are supporting other people in their breakups. Perhaps you missed all of them? Good luck in NYC where "everyone is a douche." I go to NYC quite frequently, and I get along with pretty much all the people there. Maybe if you aren't so quick to make judgments, assumptions, and get to know people better first, you'll find that you like A LOT more people than you think. Great conversation, I wish you the best, toodles!!
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 I don't remember. I clicked through them but they all look the same. I know it wasn't the one where you were bringing a girl home to your parents because that one said your age. I had no idea how old you were until that point. 99% of my posts are about my breakup with my ex and assisting other men/women in their breakups. I think this is a case of unconsciously aligning your beliefs with PBJ. I could name only 1 thread which MAY come off a little dick (which I actually start the post with "this may sound a little dick"), but really isn't at all. BECAUSE I think differently than PBJ, she was quick to attack. She thinks that EVERY female in the WORLD sees sex as an emotional thing, that is simply not the case. I said that first date sex was dependent on both parties, and then said examples where I'd personally like first date sex. Because it didn't align with her views, she went all manhater on me.
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) HAHAHA. I love people who make assumptions and can't back ANYTHING up. 99% of my posts on this forum are supporting other people in their breakups. Perhaps you missed all of them? Good luck in NYC where "everyone is a douche." I go to NYC quite frequently, and I get along with pretty much all the people there. Maybe if you aren't so quick to make judgments, assumptions, and get to know people better first, you'll find that you like A LOT more people than you think. Great conversation, I wish you the best, toodles!! Threads you dip****. Ones YOU started explaing YOUR life and how you view people close to you You are a people pleaser on the outside, so of course you want people to like you. Hey douches make good friends and people to hang out with. I dont hate them as people but dont want to date them...you seem to think girls should have low standards and expectations and I see why you think that way...that really helps your agenda Tell me, how did screwing your friend in the heat of the moment and then friendzoning her feel...you are so freaking delusional I tell ya. Every time you respond to me and reveal more about yourself I see what a fake person you are Edited January 31, 2013 by pbjbear
rushingwaters Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 99% of my posts are about my breakup with my ex and assisting other men/women in their breakups. I think this is a case of unconsciously aligning your beliefs with PBJ. I could name only 1 thread which MAY come off a little dick (which I actually start the post with "this may sound a little dick"), but really isn't at all. BECAUSE I think differently than PBJ, she was quick to attack. She thinks that EVERY female in the WORLD sees sex as an emotional thing, that is simply not the case. I said that first date sex was dependent on both parties, and then said examples where I'd personally like first date sex. Because it didn't align with her views, she went all manhater on me. I'm not here to agree or argue with anyone. I just saw your thread and wanted to contribute. Honestly, I skim more than read. And you remind me of some of the people I know in real life. (I'm in college.) Like I said, I don't know who you are and I'm not interested in finding out. But if you like this girl, then I hope it works out. Have a good night! 1
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Sorry I agree. Your past threads make you seem like a manipulative guy who uses PUA and charm to convince others your not. Hopefully you change your ways with the current girl Alright, cool, I'm all about bettering myself. Show me some evidence of this. I used to read PUA when I was 12. I dismissed it all as BS. Is this the fourth time I'm asking for the posts?
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 I'm not here to agree or argue with anyone. I just saw your thread and wanted to contribute. Honestly, I skim more than read. And you remind me of some of the people I know in real life. (I'm in college.) Like I said, I don't know who you are and I'm not interested in finding out. But if you like this girl, then I hope it works out. Have a good night! Alright, you're honest, that's fine. I'll tell you that you're wrong, but I can appreciate your honesty. I'm out of college now, and what college girls SAY they want in a guy is rather opposite of what they ACTUALLY look for in a guy. Have a goodnight!
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 You seem very expressive. PBJbear sounds very blunt but I think she is prob nice in real life just doesnt sugarcoat things. Perhaps youre nice in real life too but your threads dont really convey that. I tried to reply to some of your threads with a point but it says theyre closed. You are in college and are immature it happens. I remember what I was like at that age, kind of not that self aware of how I conducted myself. Maybe when you stop hanging out with such an immature crowd youll grow up. Happened to all of my brothers. PUA guys are charming, smooth and kind of manipulative I'm not a pickup guy, at all. In college, I was the guy that held the girls hair when she was puking in the toilet. I think what happened here is you read PBJ's posts and read my posts with a sort of unconscious bias. I read Mystery's The Game when I was rather young. Thought it was innovative stuff. Now I think it's just comical. I don't do PUA stuff. I go up to a girl at a bar and I actually ask her genuine questions about her career, life goals, studies, travel interests, whatever. BUT, that being said, there IS some PUA stuff that has a point. The whole idea of 'peacocking' or whatever else is hog wash. I'm out of college. Like I said in previous posts (makes me think you didn't really read), my two best friends, one is going to medical school at Johns Hopkins (ranked #2 med school in the nation), and one's studying to be an architect. I don't deal with "immature crowd." 1
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 If thats true, why are the vast majority of your threads dealing with parties, hookups, sorority/fraternity crowds? Its the way you write and describe things which lead people to use those adjectives about you. Im done arguing, 4 other people have backed me up...you dont want to hear it
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) If thats true, why are the vast majority of your threads dealing with parties, hookups, sorority/fraternity crowds? Its the way you write and describe things which lead people to use those adjectives about you. Ahhh I think I've found the problem. I came to LoveShack BECAUSE of my breakup. I like to have fun, but my school was a drinking school, not a party school, so I rarely went out (and it was also Greek dominated and, as I've said before, I'm INCREDIBLY anti-Greek). After my breakup, I had a long period of time where I tried to go out and party. I acted like a real dumbass for a while after my breakup, but after I FINALLY got over the girl, you will see my posts are exclusively helping other dumpees out. But I can see where you would think all my posts were about partying. And also, 3 v 1 having 2 other people "back you up" doesn't mean squat. I can send people over here from my breakup class (September-October) to back me up if I felt so inclined. We were all helping each other get thru our respective breakups, so they've read ALL the posts and are congratulating me on (hopefully) starting something fresh with this new girl. EDIT: ALSO my ex and I had sex problems. We had a healthy sexual relationship, and then she just stopped wanting sex, and I was very confused about it. Just ended abruptly. So, after I got out of the relationship, I was sex hungry for a while. I'm not proud about this. I had sex with a few girls RIGHT after the breakup. I do realize (and I think I mention several times) that this was unfair to those girls. Edited January 31, 2013 by lakerman34
RogerWallace111 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 youre all good man don't sweat these turds. im not on here enough to know any given persons posting history but what youre saying in here is perfectly cool/legit. 1
Author lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 youre all good man don't sweat these turds. im not on here enough to know any given persons posting history but what youre saying in here is perfectly cool/legit. Yeah, I think it takes someone oversensitive or over-critical to be offended by statements I've made. Thanks man.
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 So yesterday was the first time she and I didn't speak. At all. Then, around 2AM, she texted me telling me that it was "hard to read her schoolwork, make all these connections to movies (she's a movie dork) and have no one to share with)." She made initial contact, which was cool, something that rarely happens. Then she asked me a question about Mensa (I plan on becoming a member, she's thinking about it). I was very tired, so I just didn't respond. This morning she texted me again (showing some initiation, I LIKE). Anyway, went to the store today looking for a purple rose. The store, unfortunately, didn't have any. BUT, she had me watch the movie Adaptation (Meryl Streep, and Nicholas Cage at his absolute best, I highly recommend it) which talks about orchids. I told her that my mom had some, and she said she wouldn't mind if she started her own orchid collection. So, I found a purple (her favorite color) orchid. Very small, easy to take care of, and a nice ornament for her desk. I'm going to present it to her as "I saw it at the store, and I know you are adverse to getting gifts, but it was purple and an orchid, so I just had to." See how she responds to THAT
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Ahhh I think I've found the problem. I came to LoveShack BECAUSE of my breakup. I like to have fun, but my school was a drinking school, not a party school, so I rarely went out (and it was also Greek dominated and, as I've said before, I'm INCREDIBLY anti-Greek). After my breakup, I had a long period of time where I tried to go out and party. I acted like a real dumbass for a while after my breakup, but after I FINALLY got over the girl, you will see my posts are exclusively helping other dumpees out. But I can see where you would think all my posts were about partying. And also, 3 v 1 having 2 other people "back you up" doesn't mean squat. I can send people over here from my breakup class (September-October) to back me up if I felt so inclined. We were all helping each other get thru our respective breakups, so they've read ALL the posts and are congratulating me on (hopefully) starting something fresh with this new girl. EDIT: ALSO my ex and I had sex problems. We had a healthy sexual relationship, and then she just stopped wanting sex, and I was very confused about it. Just ended abruptly. So, after I got out of the relationship, I was sex hungry for a while. I'm not proud about this. I had sex with a few girls RIGHT after the breakup. I do realize (and I think I mention several times) that this was unfair to those girls. You are in college and your values align with the Greek life based on all your dramatic posts that are obsessed with sex and picking up girls and you seem immature. Maybe people back you up in real life, but the way you post stuff on here- you portray yourself a certain way. Thats all I have to say.
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 You are in college and your values align with the Greek life based on all your dramatic posts that are obsessed with sex and picking up girls and you seem immature. Maybe people back you up in real life, but the way you post stuff on here- you portray yourself a certain way. Thats all I have to say. And here I was all excited seeing that I had a reply from you thinking it was going to be something constructive and interesting regarding the topic on hand. I should have known better. You need to start paying attention. I've said a dozen times that I'm no longer in college smh. And I've come on here A LOT to talk about the sex problems my ex and I were having. Just because I talk about sex A LOT doesn't make me immature. I can't find a girl who has a sex drive that matches mine. The athletic lifestyle I lead where I eat EXTREMELY clean, workout VERY intensely 6 days a week, one day of that being yoga, and of course my age makes my libido sky high. One who talks a lot about sex is not immature. Let me put it this way. In this country, sex is associated with violence. It is a taboo subject. Go to Europe. Starting a casual (and explicit) conversation about sex is considered VERY OK. It is NOT taboo there, and people are much healthier for it. If you are going to attack me, know facts. That's all I have to say.
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Nothing wrong with liking sex. I like sex. I dont associate sex with violence at all dont know where you got that from... Its the way you constantly write about what YOU need to do in order to get sex from a woman. Like "if I do this and this...it will lead to sex" its like you do stuff just to get sex without meaning it. You admitted you've hurt girls in the past....doesnt surprise me based on the stuff you wrote. Im not into guys that do crap like that- selfish and mean. If you went to Europe youd find tons of girls who you wouldnt need to manipulate in order to get sex so theyd be better off for you.
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) Nothing wrong with liking sex. I like sex. I dont associate sex with violence at all dont know where you got that from... Its the way you constantly write about what YOU need to do in order to get sex from a woman. Like "if I do this and this...it will lead to sex" its like you do stuff just to get sex without meaning it. You admitted you've hurt girls in the past....doesnt surprise me based on the stuff you wrote. Im not into guys that do crap like that- selfish and mean. If you went to Europe youd find tons of girls who you wouldnt need to manipulate in order to get sex so theyd be better off for you. I think what you call "manipulation" is just naivete on your part. I'm saying I do talk about sex A LOT. With my friends, with other girls, with a lot of people. Some people ARE turned off by it, but it's usually those "I need to follow societal standards" and socially conservative folk. So what? And yes, believe it or not, sometimes 'getting' sex IS formulaic. A certain kind of man is more likely to have sex with a girl than another kind. That's just the way it is. Reading some of your responses to me and other folks on this forum, it seems like you're kind of an idealist. There is nothing wrong with that. Sexually, one of my best friends is an idealist. I'm a realist. We don't see eye to eye at all. He sees it as a sort of "slice from heaven where two people share love and emotional affection and feel very highly of one another and are spiritually intertwined." I see it more as an evolutionary act meant for procreation, or a recreation act meant for, well, fun. He told me he couldn't understand how I could have one-night stands and not really give much of a damn about the girls and, in some cases, don't even know/remember the girls' names. Of course, you probably see that as "slimy," but a lot of very nice, well-meaning individuals (such as myself) do it. Edited February 1, 2013 by lakerman34
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I think what you call "manipulation" is just naivete on your part. I'm saying I do talk about sex A LOT. With my friends, with other girls, with a lot of people. Some people ARE turned off by it, but it's usually those "I need to follow societal standards" and socially conservative folk. So what? And yes, believe it or not, sometimes 'getting' sex IS formulaic. A certain kind of man is more likely to have sex with a girl than another kind. That's just the way it is. Reading some of your responses to me and other folks on this forum, it seems like you're kind of an idealist. There is nothing wrong with that. Sexually, one of my best friends is an idealist. I'm a realist. We don't see eye to eye at all. He sees it as a sort of "slice from heaven where two people share love and emotional affection and feel very highly of one another and are spiritually intertwined." I see it more as an evolutionary act meant for procreation, or a recreation act meant for, well, fun. He told me he couldn't understand how I could have one-night stands and not really give much of a damn about the girls and, in some cases, don't even know/remember the girls' names. Of course, you probably see that as "slimy," but a lot of very nice, well-meaning individuals (such as myself) do it. Ummm....not naiive. Ive been calling you on your bull****. Yes, you are slimy. I really dont believe you are as nice as you seem, (you say you are nice but your actions and the way you treat girls as project for them to give it up doesnt match) but you seem to have warped vision when looking at yourself. I like sex and Im turned off by you...I wouldnt consider myself conservative. If a guy talked about sex all the time, it would depend on our relationship, the types of things hed say and the respectful way he did it in. Guys that talk about sex like girls are sex objects and are useful for little else are a turn off...that doesnt make me naiive, stuck up or conservative. Sorry I have morals
Author lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) Ummm....not naiive. Ive been calling you on your bull****. Yes, you are slimy. I really dont believe you are as nice as you seem, (you say you are nice but your actions and the way you treat girls as project for them to give it up doesnt match) but you seem to have warped vision when looking at yourself. I like sex and Im turned off by you...I wouldnt consider myself conservative. Well, if it makes you feel any better, I probably wouldn't even consider you dating material either haha. But so what? You are one girl who thinks I'm slimy. I'm sure there are others. Most girls actually do think I'm a gentleman and rather nice. I am called "a great guy" quite regularly. But, you can choose to believe whatever you wish. I won't stop you. I'm aggressive between the sheets, I'm aggressive when I pursue any girls, I'm a good-looking, confident guy, VERY nice, quite chivalrous, some girls I pursue are turned-off by me, most are intrigued/like me. Those are the facts, but whatever picture of me you built in your mind, you just keep believing that. No skin off my back!! EDIT: And this entire post really makes me feel that I've read you COMPLETELY right in calling you an idealist. Again, nothing wrong with that, but idealists and realists do, often, bump heads. But who is more right, those who see it as it is, or those who see it as they think it should be? Edited February 1, 2013 by lakerman34
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