polo girl Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 as i didn't want the guy that i went out on a date with to come to my house, i asked to meet him in a cafe which he so kindly agreed to. anyway, i arrived earlier than planned and ordered a coffee. i noticed this youngish couple, around my age, sitting and having a great time together. then two of his friends walked into the cafe and sat with them. the girl went from being the object of his attention to being the 'fourth' wheel. the guys started to speak in loud voices about getting drunk and whining about their girlfriends. when the girl went to speak, they just shut her down. why would a guy do this to his girlfriend? clearly he liked her before his friends came into the coffee shop. i felt like saying to the girl "leave" but of course i didn't. i was going to ask my date but i felt that i would be far too passionate about the topic that i would scare him off
Author polo girl Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 Not much credit to my creativity then! Yes I made up being rejected by a jerk. I made up the story that he lost his phone. And yes I made up having a date as I must be so hideous that guys just don't ask me out! My life must be close to hopeless then! I made a simple observation that I probably would not have made if I hadn't been humiliated by a wannabe player. Three weeks ago I would have never paid attention. Certainly shows what a scorned woman can think! You could have chosen to respond with some basic courtesy or ignored my question. Be kind to people. It won't hurt you!
TaraMaiden Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I witnessed something along similar lines in a book store. It was Christmas, this couple were obviously present-buying. There was some kind of argument about her family, and whether she was buying them gifts which would have been more expensive than hers to him.... and he was being extremely passive aggressive, and playing the control card. At one point, he made a really snide remark about her mother, and walked out of the store. Her face was tragic, and she stood stock still for a moment, and then followed him. I sooo felt like putting my arm on her shoulder and saying "Let him go - leave him. Don't follow him, that's exactly what he wants you to do, he's controlling you".... but I didn't. As she left the store, my husband, whom I hadn't realised had also witnessed the scene, had read my mind. "What could you have done?" he asked. "She probably wouldn't have thanked you, but told you to mind your own business. People like that can't see their playing into the mess." The problem is - this girl needed to witness this treatment for herself - even if it's repetitive, sometimes it takes a while for the penny to drop. And sometimes it never does.
TaraMaiden Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Those guys should be flogged. In public. And have hot, boiling oil poured into their wounds. Then, they should be verbally humiliated. And forced to read every thread on loveshack. Then, after that, they will be forced to subscribe to Ms. magazine, and be forced to read the collective work of Andrea Dworkin. They will be forced to wear electronic surveillance collars which monitor their language and even their facial expressions. If they something sarcastic or 'mean,' they will receive electroshock. To the groin. If there is a feminist professor within a 2 mile radius, she will be empowered to kick him in the crotch. Every feminist professor will have the location of these offenders trackable via GPS, and google maps on their pink encased iphones. Once their testicles are crushed into a fine jelly, these men will be allowed to return to civilian life without their electronic collars. They will, however, be placed on a "feminist offender" list, so that they may never look a woman in the eye, or address her as anything other than "madam" or "your highness." Wow, this thread is so liberating! Yeah!! Rock on!! But it's still all too good for them. Namby-pamby remedy.... They should REALLY be made to suffer.
Chs Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I would do what they did, most likely. And i would expect my girl to do the same, if we ran into a couple of her girlfriends. To me it's normal that the friends take focus for the time being, because they are only just around for a short while and you have the rest of the day to give your partner the attention.
TaraMaiden Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Well, it takes 2 to tango.... I think the way they apparently treated her (and remember, we only have the OP's personal perception to go by) is bordering on rudeness. But there again, if you want to make yourself heard, speak up. Dive in, and insist. Being a wallflower may not be ideal, but it's a choice....
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