Geiss Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I met this girl at a bar and she was totally into me. She wasn't drunk when we started talking but later we were a bit wasted. She asked me for my number which is a first for me. And she agreed to go out with me a couple of days later which we did. So when we went on the date it lasted for about 5 hours and she was in no hurry to go home. When I dropped her off we kissed. I initiated it and then when I was about to leave she leaned forward to kiss me. So everything seemed well. Then when I asked her out again talking on the phone she said yes but she didn't have a day off for almost 2 weeks. So I booked that day off work. I felt it was kind of long but was willing to wait. Today she sent me a message saying that she is now working that day and can't go out. She apologized and said that she would let me know when her next day off is. So I was a bit pissed off but I just sent her a message asking her if she still wants to go out. I also said that she didn't seem to enthusiastic when I called her about going out and I'm starting to doubt whether she is interested. Btw this was my first date in 6 years. Thank God she broke that horrible streak I was on but I'm rusty and I was nervous but still it went well. She wanted to kiss me though. So I'm just wondering what the deal is. If you like someone why would you make them wait so long. Also she lives a 5 minute walk from where I am yet she still wants me to wait I guess more than 2 weeks now. I'm not so willing to give up since those dates are few and far between for me. Should I just forget it? I don't know. Advice anyone?
Astra5 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I would give up.. move on.. and find better than someone who cant give u the time of day!!
SJC2008 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Well she did say she'd let you know when she's off again so that was a positive sign. Did she respond to your message about going out? IMO you may have blown. You questioned her interest and said she didn't seem too enthusiastic. Unless she's a "strait shooter", most people arent, let alone women, that was a bit much given yall only had one date.
D-Lish Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Well she did say she'd let you know when she's off again so that was a positive sign. I don't think it is- and here is why. When I met my ex, I was working sometimes 6 days a week, close to 50 hours a week, lots of travel involved to and from work. Making time to see him wasn't an issue- because I truly liked him. When you really like someone, you'll make time for them. OP, put your time and energy into dating someone that treats you as a prize, not just an option. 2
FitChick Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Who works two weeks straight with no time off? If she lives five minutes away, maybe you can run into her in the neighborhood. If so, be nice but don't mention dating again because she will be expecting you to. Let her bring it up if she is interested. If she doesn't, you have your answer.
Green Light Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I met this girl at a bar and she was totally into me. She wasn't drunk when we started talking but later we were a bit wasted. She asked me for my number which is a first for me. And she agreed to go out with me a couple of days later which we did. So when we went on the date it lasted for about 5 hours and she was in no hurry to go home. When I dropped her off we kissed. I initiated it and then when I was about to leave she leaned forward to kiss me. So everything seemed well. Then when I asked her out again talking on the phone she said yes but she didn't have a day off for almost 2 weeks. So I booked that day off work. I felt it was kind of long but was willing to wait. Today she sent me a message saying that she is now working that day and can't go out. She apologized and said that she would let me know when her next day off is. So I was a bit pissed off but I just sent her a message asking her if she still wants to go out. I also said that she didn't seem to enthusiastic when I called her about going out and I'm starting to doubt whether she is interested. Btw this was my first date in 6 years. Thank God she broke that horrible streak I was on but I'm rusty and I was nervous but still it went well. She wanted to kiss me though. So I'm just wondering what the deal is. If you like someone why would you make them wait so long. Also she lives a 5 minute walk from where I am yet she still wants me to wait I guess more than 2 weeks now. I'm not so willing to give up since those dates are few and far between for me. Should I just forget it? I don't know. Advice anyone? After she leaned into kiss you did you still have your wallet? But seriously, it sounds like she is flaking and there could be a million reasons for that. But if she only lives 5 minutes away there is really no way that she can have ZERO time for you!
Author Geiss Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 Well here is an update. After I sent the message to her that officially should have blown it she apologized again and she said the day I called her she was really tired and I guess that's why she didn't seem very enthusiastic about going out again. She also said that she works a lot and is very busy. She still hasn't said no though. She said she will message me again when she is in a better mood.
weee111 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I wouldn't wait around for her. Who says "I'll message you again when I'm in a better mood". Hearing from you should have cheered her right up if she was truly interested.
Author Geiss Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Here is another update. This went sour pretty quick. She did something that perhaps I overreacted too but it hurt me pretty good and I responded badly. It was something she said and something she posted. This is what she posted. http://static.someecards.com/someecards/usercards/1335222682686_205828.png So obviously I thought this was a shot at me. So I told her off pretty good and took her off facebook. She responded, said I was immature and that it wasn't meant for me. But after stringing me along she finally admitted that she didn't feel the vibe and also wishes that I will be alone forever. Mind you I expected a nasty response since I told her basically to F off. So that's about it. I don't know what the hell happened. It was like Enron. It just plummeted to nothing. It makes no sense to me.
crude Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Forget about foolish pride. Don't burn your bridges with any woman you find attractive. You might get laid down the road (or on a table).
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