czen Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Hello everybody, m story is as followed: I have a LDR girlfriend, who kinda has some severe issues. This has caused us to drift apart, I won't go in the details, but most of our time spent now is spent on her insulting me and threathening me with stuff like that she will leave me or cheat on me. So I've decided we should break up. The thing is, I still love her. And I want to break up with her in person. I also already have booked the non-refundable flights to her. But the problem is that the trip is still two weeks away. What's the best coourse of action? Just dump her on skype and just let the trip go to waste, or keep on argiung for two more weeks, go to her and have one more good week (when we're together the issues aren't as prevalent, and most of the time we spend together is pleasant) and then break up with her?
FailedFirstLove Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If I was the girl I would be torn both ways... Going there would be like you wanted to play me one last time and the dump me. The Skype way would be cowardly because you can't do it face to face. Argh tough. you don't think you could talk to her and see if she is willinging to do anything? If u are willinging to give her another chance that is. Go see her as talk it out if there still a stron connection then maybe she will change for the better.
Author czen Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 We've tried to give it a bunch of more chances, but it just isn't working out. She's always relapsing into her ways of paranoia and distrust. It's like 36 hours of distrust and 12 hours of love and happiness every 48 hours. It just isn't salvageable anymore, she tried to change and she can't and she has kinda given up. There's nothing I can do to save it, sadly enough. I still love her, but it just isn't working out. In a way the skype way would be easiest, but I don't want to end things like that, she was my first real girlfriend and everything. But on the other hand, it's getting almost impossible to bring her back from the sadness and paranoia. And we both kinda know we are breaking up, so to have one more week together would be kinda awkward.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Then end it asap!!! Don't prolong her pain. If she knows then she's in pain waiting.
Author czen Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 Yeah, I guess that's the best thing to do...It's hard to end things with someone you love so much you know? I'll just try and skype with her tonight and seek as much closure as possible and try to deal with a the remaining stuff, like if she wants me to send her her stuff back, etc. God, this is gonna be hard. If a month ago somebody told me would be breaking up now, I'd laughed at them. It moved so fast. But I guess it is for the best in the end. Thanks for your help.
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