MrCastle Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Perhaps you need a smoke break He needs to beat off bro.
Pyro Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 No green :( Then plan B it is which Castle suggested.
KungFuJoe Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 No green :( OH man too bad you don't live around my parts. I would share my "green" with you any day! 1
ThaWholigan Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Then plan B it is which Castle suggested. Not till April
Pyro Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 OH man too bad you don't live around my parts. I would share my "green" with you any day! Cheech and Chong remake, starring KungFuJoe and Wholigan. 2
MrCastle Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Not till April Lol that is gonna turn to a and very soon.
ThaWholigan Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Lol that is gonna turn to a and very soon. we'll see . Will only break for sex.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I firmly believe that it doesn't make any difference. Types of guys that would care are very traditional and straight laced, they would bore me to death anyway. I like going with the moment, with no restrictions. 1
Jane2011 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 In my experience, having sex quickly (not necessarily on the first date, but anywhere from 1st date to around 4th date, all of which is considered having sex quickly, I guess) doesn't ruin anything. I've had sex on the 2nd date a couple times and everything was fine. I actually think that if having sex early "ruins" things, things would have been ruined anyway. Two years ago (summer 2011) I had sex very quickly with a guy. We had sex twice, and then he began to back off. I tortured myself about it for weeks, and soon months. A guy friend of mine kept telling me to stop tormenting myself about it, that it would have ended anyway. I kept insisting that if I hadn't had sex with ____ so quickly, he'd still be around. My guy friend was like, "Nope. Trust me." And it's true, I think. Pretty much every guy I've had sex with, I've done it early on. I never wait very long. The ones who are compatible with me want a relationship; the ones who aren't compatible with me don't want a relationship. The problem was that, in the past, I always felt (about every guy) that "we could have something." But realistically, I was hoping for "something" with some guys who just really weren't/aren't a good fit for me. They knew it, but I didn't. I don't think women should feel bad if a guy leaves after sex, or shortly after sex. If your romantic trajectory is anything like mine has been, he's doing you a favor because some other guy that you have sex with quickly will be all over you for a relationship, and that guy'll be one who's a better fit for you. I know it's bothersome when the guy (the leaver) is really, really cute (as so many of them are), but there are others...there are always others... 1
KungFuJoe Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 In my experience, having sex quickly (not necessarily on the first date, but anywhere from 1st date to around 4th date, all of which is considered having sex quickly, I guess) doesn't ruin anything. I've had sex on the 2nd date a couple times and everything was fine. I actually think that if having sex early "ruins" things, things would have been ruined anyway. Two years ago (summer 2011) I had sex very quickly with a guy. We had sex twice, and then he began to back off. I tortured myself about it for weeks, and soon months. A guy friend of mine kept telling me to stop tormenting myself about it, that it would have ended anyway. I kept insisting that if I hadn't had sex with ____ so quickly, he'd still be around. My guy friend was like, "Nope. Trust me." And it's true, I think. Pretty much every guy I've had sex with, I've done it early on. I never wait very long. The ones who are compatible with me want a relationship; the ones who aren't compatible with me don't want a relationship. The problem was that, in the past, I always felt (about every guy) that "we could have something." But realistically, I was hoping for "something" with some guys who just really weren't/aren't a good fit for me. They knew it, but I didn't. I don't think women should feel bad if a guy leaves after sex, or shortly after sex. If your romantic trajectory is anything like mine has been, he's doing you a favor because some other guy that you have sex with quickly will be all over you for a relationship, and that guy'll be one who's a better fit for you. I know it's bothersome when the guy (the leaver) is really, really cute (as so many of them are), but there are others...there are always others... VERY good post. And you bring up a good point that I actually wanted to mention, but forgot. Having sex faster can save you time. Seriously. Time is important to me...I'm a busy man! I don't want to have to wait til the 4th, 5th, 20th date, which could be weeks or months, only to find out that the sex sucks, we have no chemistry, etc. I want to find out right away, so I know if I need to progress things or not. I had sex on the first date with a girl once...and I never went out with her again. Not because she slept with me on the first date (I'm hot, who wouldn't want to hit this)...but because the sex was HORRIBLE. She didn't want to go down on me, which I could kind of overlook, but the deal breaker was she was a HORRIBLE kisser (had a tongue barbell which I HATE). And that was that. Had I been going out with her WITHOUT sex, I would have been wasting my (and HER) time. The same applies for women, obviously.
SmileFace Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Tongue barbell? What is that? A tongue ring?
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I think most women want to think that they ruined it because they had sex too early, rather than a simple lack of connection. I have also had some horrible sex with men I thought I connected to, and all previous dates were a waste of time. I have no patience for time wasting anyway, and I want to find out if we click sexually ASAP.
KungFuJoe Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Tongue barbell? What is that? A tongue ring? Yes. (10 char)
TheGuard13 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 It depends on the people involved. I think if there's a decent amount of chemistry, the second or third date (or the first if you've gotten to know the person before the date) is not a bad time to have sex for the first time. Some guys (and girls, I would imagine), as has been pointed out, simply don't want to waste time and energy. I think that's legitimate. Who wants to invest months into a person and then find out the sex is lousy? I slept with my current girlfriend after our first real date. I waited a month with another girl, but that's because I was already seeing and sleeping with my current girlfriend. I don't have a whole lot of sympathy for the guys who sleep with a girl right off the bat, and then bail because she was too "easy". That sounds like excuses, not a legitimate reason not to date someone when you participated in the sex. And as was already stated, a guy who pumps and dumps...so what? He was going to do it anyway, and be glad to be rid of him, there are other options out there.
SmileFace Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yes. (10 char) Wait... my next question was "Does the head feel better with it?" However she had a tongue ring and didn't want to give oral sex. What a waste...lol
KungFuJoe Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Wait... my next question was "Does the head feel better with it?" However she had a tongue ring and didn't want to give oral sex. What a waste...lol Preachin to the choir....
TheGuard13 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 The other side of it is the women who wait to have sex, and then the guy leaves, and they wonder why, and vice versa. I have a female friend who hasn't had sex in five or six years, and she wasn't ready, but she started dating a guy who was. She basically strung him along for a couple of months, and then wondered why he left when she wouldn't sleep with him.
Jane2011 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 (edited) I've never had first-time sex with a guy that wasn't a little awkward, though. Sometimes downright disappointing. I advise all women to just completely disregard the first time if they (the women) are trying to assess whether he's good in bed or not. He's probably good in bed, but you won't know it until the 2nd or 3rd time because the first time almost invariably sucks. Even if the guy is not a virgin, it often just isn't...right. Edited January 28, 2013 by Jane2011
TheGuard13 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 True, the first time my girlfriend and I did it, we could barely even figure out how it was going to work physically due to our height differences. I would think it'd be better to give it a couple of times just to make sure its actually lousy, and not just getting used to something new.
lakerman34 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Thing is, this may sound kinda dick of me, but some girls I go on dates BECAUSE I see sex as something that could happen. If it does, I may (or may not) peace from her (unless the sex was amazing, I may hang around for a while). If it doesn't happen, then I decide if it's worth working on it (going on a few more dates for it) or if I should just peace. HOWEVER, there are instances where these CAN turn into a relationship (with the former case, the sex would HAVE to be good, with the latter, I begin to actually like the girl for who she is, rather than just her body). Otherwise, if I GENUINELY like a girl, then yeah, first date sex is OK (but, of course, not a MUST). It really doesn't matter. If I'm lukewarm on a girl, first date sex MAY or MAY NOT help in me warming up to her. Once again, depends on the girl, how the date went, and how the sex is. Currently, I'm going to go on a date with a girl where there is mutual interest this coming Friday. I think it's pretty much understood sex is PROBABLY going to happen, but it may not. If sex DOES happen, I think I'm going to facilitate a "what does this mean about us?" conversation. If sex DOESN'T happen, I might be a little confused (I'm leaving the country for 11 weeks only 3 days after). If I get a kiss or a cuddle or something, then I won't worry about it, she'll still remain a possibility (especially if she stays in contact with me during my stay abroad). So IN SHORT: IF I LIKE THE GIRL Sex: Good No Sex/No Physical Contact: Not Good No Sex/Some Physical Contact (Kissing, cuddling, etc.): Depends on communication afterward. LUKEWARM ABOUT GIRL Sex: If it's good, then good news, if not good, then bad. No Sex/No Physical Contact: Not Good No Sex/Some Physical Contact (Kissing, cuddling, etc.): Depends on communication afterward AND how good of a kisser she was. Remember, cuddling makes us IMAGINE having sex with you. A good kisser = good sex. DON'T LIKE GIRL Sex: Probably looking for 'friends with benefits,' POSSIBLY could turn into relationship No Sex/No Physical Contact: Forget it, I'm already looking at another girl No Sex/Some Physical Contact (Kissing, cuddling, etc.): I've probably been drugged or REALLY drunk Hope that helps 1
KungFuJoe Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 The first time I had sex with my now wife was the best sex I'd ever had in my life, up to that point. No joke...and between two LTR (4 years and one year both of which consisted of sex almost on a daily basis) and some casual stuff in between I had a ****LOAD of sex so there was plenty to compare against. And no ****ing contest. None. 1
pbjbear Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I read a study somewhere that said around 80% of men would lose respect/not take a girl seriously after having first date sex Any guy who tries to have sex with me in the first 3 dates is written off. I have had to stop seeing quite a few guys because they were too pushy for me. It makes me wonder how many girls he has slept with and sorry, but I am not into manwhores...they make bad boyfriends the vast majority of the time. While I am friends with many manwhore types, they are not compatible with my views on sex. I prefer someone who puts some emotional attachment with sex. Also, the amount of STD's today scares me. With HPV in particular, men carry it and dont have symptoms and if a woman gets it she can become infertile. When I was younger I put out too quickly a few times. Sometimes I got burned, sometimes I burned the guy...just depended
lakerman34 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 (edited) I'm also a 22 year old college student. Most girls think I'm sweet. I do NOT see women as sexual objects, but if I'm on a date with a girl and don't even get a kiss or promise for a second date (communication I was talking about), why should I bother? I think that if a girl makes the whole "you arrange the dates, you take me somewhere, you pay for it, you call me all the time" about ME, she's not putting any effort in and, frankly, how am I to know she will put ANY effort in the relationship? Also, for example, I've been talking to this girl for a good 6 weeks now. Conversations have been pretty sexual in nature. I REALLY like her, and she REALLY likes me. But, due to circumstance, we haven't really been on a date yet, just hung out with friends a couple of times. This Friday, we are going on our first date. It seems very likely that it'll end in sex. If it does, I don't have any plans to leave her afterwards, she's just great. My point is, the "after which date should we have sex" conversation is hogwash. Some people it'll take 3 dates, some the first date, who cares? Every girl/guy is different. Because a girl has sex on the first date with a guy she decides she REALLY likes (and he really likes her), there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. That being said, if I'm unsure of the girl (unlike my Friday girl, who I REALLY like), I'm going to need AT LEAST a kiss to ask her on a second date. It sort of acts as a promise that "hey, I'm not ready yet for sex, but you have definitely caught my interest during the date." In conclusion, don't judge people based on a post on an internet forum. Edited January 29, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
pbjbear Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I'm also a 22 year old college student. Most girls think I'm sweet. I do NOT see women as sexual objects, but if I'm on a date with a girl and don't even get a kiss or promise for a second date (communication I was talking about), why should I bother? I think that if a girl makes the whole "you arrange the dates, you take me somewhere, you pay for it, you call me all the time" about ME, she's not putting any effort in and, frankly, how am I to know she will put ANY effort in the relationship? Also, for example, I've been talking to this girl for a good 6 months now. Conversations have been pretty sexual in nature. I REALLY like her, and she REALLY likes me. But, due to circumstance, we haven't really been on a date yet, just hung out with friends a couple of times. This Friday, we are going on our first date. It seems very likely that it'll end in sex. If it does, I don't have any plans to leave her afterwards, she's just great. My point is, the "after which date should we have sex" conversation is hogwash. Some people it'll take 3 dates, some the first date, who cares? Every girl/guy is different. Because a girl has sex on the first date with a guy she decides she REALLY likes (and he really likes her), there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that. That being said, if I'm unsure of the girl (unlike my Friday girl, who I REALLY like), I'm going to need AT LEAST a kiss to ask her on a second date. It sort of acts as a promise that "hey, I'm not ready yet for sex, but you have definitely caught my interest during the date." In conclusion, don't judge people based on a post on an internet forum. Most college girls are not too smart and if they got inside your head, I highly doubt theyd still be calling you sweet.
lakerman34 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Most college girls are not too smart and if they got inside your head, I highly doubt theyd still be calling you sweet. Older women think I'm sweet too. And usually don't believe me when I tell them I'm 22 (tend to think I'm 26-28 yrs. old).
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