miss_jaclynrae Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I was always told to wait for sex. Every time a guy fell off the face of the earth, people would tell me: "You gave it to him too easily." Then again, I have seen many relationships work where they DID have sex early on. We see a lot of women who believe this idea that have sex soon and you ruin your chances of a relationship, and I am not saying it is true or isn't. I am curious as to what MEN think though. If a woman has sex with you early on, would you continue seeing her if you genuinely liked her even though she slept with you? This applies to both men seeking for relationships and men who aren't. 1
Pyro Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 All depends on her personality and how well we connect. The timing of sex means nothing to me. 3
KungFuJoe Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I was always told to wait for sex. Every time a guy fell off the face of the earth, people would tell me: "You gave it to him too easily." Then again, I have seen many relationships work where they DID have sex early on. We see a lot of women who believe this idea that have sex soon and you ruin your chances of a relationship, and I am not saying it is true or isn't. I am curious as to what MEN think though. If a woman has sex with you early on, would you continue seeing her if you genuinely liked her even though she slept with you? This applies to both men seeking for relationships and men who aren't. Just FYI there is already a thread on the first page about this very subject. 2
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 Just FYI there is already a thread on the first page about this very subject. I know, but more women are active in it and I want this to be an all male perspective. 2
superb Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Just FYI there is already a thread on the first page about this very subject. I think she's just seeking male opinion now...mine has both male and female 4
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I was always told to wait for sex. Every time a guy fell off the face of the earth, people would tell me: "You gave it to him too easily." Then again, I have seen many relationships work where they DID have sex early on. We see a lot of women who believe this idea that have sex soon and you ruin your chances of a relationship, and I am not saying it is true or isn't. I am curious as to what MEN think though. If a woman has sex with you early on, would you continue seeing her if you genuinely liked her even though she slept with you? This applies to both men seeking for relationships and men who aren't. Every woman I've kissed I've tried to at least start something with. A couple I have, and a couple, well, they are the ones who BLEW ME OFF. There goes the 'only men pump and dump' theory.
SmileFace Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 All depends on her personality and how well we connect. The timing of sex means nothing to me. Change your darn avatar FFS....
Divasu Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Not a guy, but my prespective on postpoing sex in the past had little to do on whether or not he would 'run' away afterwards. It was moreso based on a combination of the connection I felt to him and whether or not I 'thought' I could handle it emotionally and feeling like we were on the 'same page'. In once instance, I had waited three months. Another, about four weeks. The outcome of the latter, was enough to hinder me moving forward. I was never one to have a big discussion about the status of the relationship prior to, in order to move forward sexually, but I can see how doing so would be beneficial and wise.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 My feeling on it? I hate ambiguous signs. If a girl gives you a hug or a kiss on the cheek (the latter of which I've never been fortunate enough to get) it's ambiguous as to whether or not she wants to see you again. Even if she agrees to make plans for another date, there's no guarantee that she actually likes you. If she sleeps with you on the other hand, the odds go up exponentially. Plenty of women will have dinner with or hug a guy they could take or leave. Very few will have sex with a guy they'd prefer never to see again (though I guess it happens). Would I prefer to wait for sex? Absolutely. I'd love to wait at least 6 months to build an actual relationship before sharing that part of myself with someone. But, I think sex on a first date is a valuable tool as to knowing whether or not a girl is actually interested in you. 1
AlwaysConflicted Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Hell no. I'm a guy and I will always wait until the 4th or 5th date. I need to know more about the person, especially since 1 in 4 people have herpes and even more have HPV. Don't get me wrong, I like sex as much as the next person, but I'm not willing to trade my health over it. If I really like the person after the 4th date I'll consider toying with my fate. 1
TouchedByViolet Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I would wait till 3rd date or later in general. Though nothing is in stone. I like to know the lady somewhat before throwing her around. 1
SensitiveTJ Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I don't have sex until we have agreed to be in an exclusive relationship, so I'm afraid I'm not much use in this thread. I've never considered having sex on the first date. 1
Casablanca Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 if a woman wanted sex with me on the first night, she wouldn't here from me again... not what I am about, nor something I find attractive to be honest... Same, I wonder about her past and what else she has done
Feelin Frisky Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Of course I'd continue to see her is we spent time enough to know, like and trust each other to get sexual. No one lives for ever and artificial restraints can be a real buzz kill. There are no guarantees that after months of investment of time and money that it's gonna work out. And there's nothing more dream-like that getting swept up in an instant whirlwind romance assuming both partner are right for each other and give up sideline ning-nong. To be so lucky is wondrous.
KungFuJoe Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Well I stated my opinion in the other thread but since op wants male opinions here is mine: It doesn't make a lick of difference to me when we have sex. What matters to me is chemistry. If we're so hot for each other that we end up ripping each others clothes off that same night, even better. My wife and I have so much chemistry and physical attraction between us that the first time we had sex was literally hours after first bumping into each other. We weren't even on a date. Spent the entire night until the sun came up in my car. Just insane how much we were all over each other. I remember I had a beige colored shirt and she wore this TINY red dress...I had to throw my shirt in the trash the next day because it was stained red from our sweat and the dye running off her dress. 2
somedude81 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 For me it really depends on how long we've been vibing. If I met a girl on Monday, go on a date on Friday the same week and have sex, that's too soon. If I met a girl in a class, and we joked and talked for a couple of months or so then went on a date and ended up having sex, that's fine. For me, I prefer to get to know who a girl is before sleeping with her. And that takes some time. 1
runner Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Well I stated my opinion in the other thread but since op wants male opinions here is mine: It doesn't make a lick of difference to me when we have sex. What matters to me is chemistry. If we're so hot for each other that we end up ripping each others clothes off that same night, even better. My wife and I have so much chemistry and physical attraction between us that the first time we had sex was literally hours after first bumping into each other. We weren't even on a date. Spent the entire night until the sun came up in my car. Just insane how much we were all over each other. I remember I had a beige colored shirt and she wore this TINY red dress...I had to throw my shirt in the trash the next day because it was stained red from our sweat and the dye running off her dress. man that's hot yea i agree with you and Pyro. i think its best to gauge the moment and just let it happen if it does; there are no gaurantees in the end.
SmileFace Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Having sex with someone on the first date is no different then having sex with someone after 2 months if that person wants to be with you. In my opinion. The only reason guys leave faster after first date sex. Is because they didn't have the time to actually get to know you or they only wanted sex. Guys say different in this thread - so it boils down to a person to person issue. There is no right or wrong. 1
Yamcha Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 My last gf not only paid for a good portion of our first date, she had sex with me. We were together for over 3 months, which is a personal record for me (quiet haters ). So it gets my stamp of approval. Not necessary to do it if you're not feeling it, at the time. But knowing if you're sexually compatible sooner before you move forward is a pretty good thing. Like fortyninethousand said, if you don't know if the girl really likes you like that, you're pretty much just wasting both of your time by dating her. But, on the flip side, there are girls out there who have sex with dudes that they don't really give a **** about and are just looking for validation. I'm led to believe that these chicks are rare, though. There are plenty of women who have sex quickly that are just sexually confident. 1
sillyanswer Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If a woman has sex with you early on, would you continue seeing her if you genuinely liked her even though she slept with you? Sure, if I genuinely like her then I'll want to see her again! Unless the sex was bad, or she snores.
ThaWholigan Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yes, I will continue seeing.a girl I ****ed on a 1st date - I wouldn't **** her if I didn't want to continue seeing her and being in a relationship. Sorry for the crude language - its late. Damn insomnia.... 1
Pyro Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Sorry for the crude language - its late. Damn insomnia.... Perhaps you need a smoke break
MrCastle Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I would, yeah. My concern with that sort of stuff isn't "oh boy she's a slut!", it's more of "oh boy, moving kind of fast, I hope she doesn't get attached." I can have first date sex and then not talk to the girl again. Just emotionally, I'm cool with going from sex to not even getting so much as a text from her a week later. What I can't deal with is clinginess. Having had issues with that with past girls, clinginess genuinely scares me. If she can give it up on the first date while not being clingy afterwards, we're all good.
ThaWholigan Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Perhaps you need a smoke break No green :(
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