KatyM18 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I started dating this guy 4 months ago who seemed to blow hot and cold, was always telling me he was too busy to meet up because of it being Christmas and a busy time of year etc. I posted about it over in dating at the time and was advised by posters to end it as HJNTIY. It was sound advice and I knew it, so (after a bit of Dutch courage cos I suck at that sort of thing!) I phoned him up and explained that although he was a great guy I didn't feel he had time to date given that we were rarely meeting up or in touch. I should have stuck to my guns but the boy apologised profusely for not being able to meet up, claimed genuine business but really wanted to see me, thought about me all the time, was just too laid back and let's meet up for drinks the day after next. He said all the right things and I gave in. Over the next 3 weeks he text me everyday, we had plenty of dates (I'd mentioned meeting up once a week because of the distance and our respective social lives which I didn't think was asking a lot) it was great. Perfect boyfriend!! Then all of a sudden he's once again too busy too meet up, dates are cancelled at the last min and contact has dwindled to every 3/4 days. We had a date planned for last Sat, which he cancelled at lunch due to something coming up. He called an hour later to say "all sorted we''re back on" and then cancelled again by text an hour after that. His excuse could have been genuine so I said no problems and asked him to call me when he was free to re-arrange. After not hearing anything by Wednesday, I called him but got the usual short answers and he's too busy to meet up line. We ended the call as we normally would but half an hour later I realised I was back in the same situation with him blowing hot and cold, wondering what I've done wrong. Annoying on many levels, not least because I know I' 've not done anything wrong. He's just not that into me. Which sucks but is fair enough - his attempt at the disappearing man act though. No-one deserves that. So I deleted all record of him from my phone and am enforcing the no contact rule on myself. Generally, I' m doing ok with it (esp since I don' t have his no to call him!) but there's that little part of me that's wanting to grab my phone and checking to see if he's text. I' m driving myself mad! So I thought I'd distract myself by getting it all out on here, ask how other posters deal with enforcing the no contact. Could really use some tips!! Apologies for the long post btw!
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