Sarah89 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I'm pretty fed up to be honest. I like this guy, he likes me too and there is so much chemistry. We meet once a week, sometimes, and we sometimes text, not that often though. It feels like I'm having to work for his attention I don't want to be doing that. Texting isn't the best way of communicating in my opinion :/ It's almost like he wants me when he wants me, and when I ask to see him he's busy. Just so many mixed signals, even though he's informed me he doesn't want to be giving me mixed signals and he doesn't want to hurt me. Last week I ended the texting on Wednesday and tonight (Sunday) he's messaged me first, he's basically invited himself round to my house tomorrow. How can I get him to work for my attention?
Author Sarah89 Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 Don't be so ready to give it. Good call
tbf Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 How can I get him to work for my attention?You can't. But what you can do is to not waste time with men who have low level interest. When a guy's really into you, his interest will be unmistakable. 1
MsSmurf Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 OP, instead of being so available for a guy who is only a little interested you should be focusing your time and attention on things you love. Go out with friends, pick up extra shifts at work, focus on your hobbies, and go out and try new things. When you're not readily available when he feels like giving you a little attention he'll either wonder what you're doing and his attempts to communicate with you will increase or he'll just move on. 1
Author Sarah89 Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 OP, instead of being so available for a guy who is only a little interested you should be focusing your time and attention on things you love. Go out with friends, pick up extra shifts at work, focus on your hobbies, and go out and try new things. When you're not readily available when he feels like giving you a little attention he'll either wonder what you're doing and his attempts to communicate with you will increase or he'll just move on. Ah this is good advice, thank you! Yeah, I've been going to the gym a lot recently and been out shopping with family/friends, been good to take my kind off of him. He does message me when I don't message him for a while, but yeah. I'll just focus on the things I like doing
Author Sarah89 Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 You can't. But what you can do is to not waste time with men who have low level interest. When a guy's really into you, his interest will be unmistakable. Mm yeah I agree with you as well. Thanks. I'm being careful with this guy, I do like him but I'm not going to let myself fall hard. Might just let things fizzle out, I don't wanna get hurt :/
OpenBook Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Just tell him "No." To my horror, it works all too well. I feel like I've unleashed The Kraken or something. 2
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