I can't tell if he's just not into me or if this is my insecurity talking.

[CaliforniaaChild]

Okay everybody. I apologize in advance for the length of this post but I figured I'd be thorough... Please help me decode! I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half. I'm 22 and he's 26. We have a mutual friend that set us up thinking we might hit it off together, which surprisingly we did, despite coming from opposite sides of the spectrum. (I'm a dancer and he's a motocross racer.)

We texted and facebooked for about two weeks before meeting in person on our first date. He was super affectionate from the very beginning and almost came on a little too strong, but I am also an affectionate person so did not mind. (We ended up making out that night.) Everything went amazing for the next two weeks. He was sending good morning and good night texts every day. On our second date I ended up sleeping over his house and he gave me oral. We hung out together the entire day after and I got to meet some of his closest friends and family. He invited me to a party one of his best friends was having the next Saturday and I accepted. The week after the party the good morning texts stopped. I didn't worry about it though because I figured they would after a while. He stayed distant for a couple of days, only texting a couple of times and I began to worry a little but I gave him space. He texted me late on the Thursday after the party apologizing for the distance. He said the bad weather had gotten to him but he hoped I had had a decent week and to have a good night, that he would talk to me soon. I initiated contact the next day and we texted for a good part of it. The day after that though, is when my first text went unanswered.

He texted me first but it was late, around 9PM, apologizing for texting so late but asking about my day. I replied about an hour later and asked him about his... No answer. I figured he had fallen asleep so I texted an "Lol. Sleep well. Talk to you later." The next day he sent me a text around 7PM. Same thing, asking about my day. This time, I didn't respond. By noon the following day he had sent me another text, asking me to dinner on Thursday. It was Tuesday and I already had made plans. He asked me if Friday would work, and I said sure. I told him it would be nice if he picked me up. It took him a couple of hours to respond to that but he said that he could. On Wednesday though, he texted to cancel. Saying that he thought Friday would work but a friend offered him a free trip down to one of the biggest racing venues in the area and he couldnt turn it down. He wanted to reschedule for that Sunday (which was also his bday, btw.) But, I was pissed. I told him to recheck his schedule first before trying to make plans with me again. He responded that he plans his days loosely and that he needs to ride a lot to keep himself happy while also figuring out how to make me happy too. I told him that I was trying to understand where he was coming from but that I had boundaries and refused to be the last thing on anybody's to do list. He apologized and said he didn't mean to make me feel that way. I accepted the apology and the plans for Sunday. He called me the next evening and we talked pretty much until we both fell asleep. I was feeling good about things again. By this time, we had been dating for a little over three weeks. The next day I woke up feeling unusually horny. I couldn't even stay focused at work and decided to let him know what was up at around 4PM. That got his attention pretty quickly (as I might've predicted). We sexted back and forth for awhile and he sent me a goodnight text at around 11PM.

THIS IS WHEN THINGS STARTED TO GET CONFUSING. On Saturday I was pleasantly surprised by a good morning text. We ended up staying in touch the whole day. Then came his birthday. We agreed to meet for dinner and a movie. Dinner was great, lots of eye contact and bantering back and forth about each others completely opposite interests but very similar points of view. During the movie we ended up making out and I gave him a hand-job over his clothes. Very fun. After the movie I gave him his birthday present (which he loved, btw). Then he made plans with me for Wednesday. I texted him the next day that we should get together at my house on Wednesday instead of going out. He agreed. When we finally did see eachother on Wednesday, he had had a long day so he was tired and sore and said it might be an early night. I suggested we hit the hot tub out back and that might help. We ended up skinny dipping together, making out and having oral sex. After which we talked (naked in the hot tub) for about another two hours. (Good sign, right?!) When we realized it was close to 11:30 he told me he had to go. Since his house is about 30 mins away from mine I suggested he stay, pressured even. He said he couldn't since he had a very early day tomorrow. (okaay...bad sign??) He kissed me goodnight and left.

He didn't text me until about 10 the next night saying he was getting ready to sleep but asked me about my day. I was kind of upset that he was texting me right before bed and he noticed. I called him to explain that I would appreciate it if he called to ask about my day instead of texting me about it and preferably not right before he dozes off. He understood but then went on to say that he was going to be racing that upcoming Friday and Saturday and not to get mad when I didn't hear much from him that weekend. He said he would get in touch me "sometime in the next few days." (uh-oh) We said goodnight. I sent him a text the next morning wishing him luck. He thanked me and told me he would let me know how it went later. He texted me around 11:30 that night telling me how it went.

Saturday was a gorgeous day. I sware I was getting high off of sunshine alone and I texted him asking him if he was enjoying the weather and what he was up to. He never answered. I figured he was in his racing mode or whatever and so didn't think much of it. I expected to hear from him on Sunday since the races would be over and he would be on his way home. I didn't hear from him. I sent him another text at 9PM just asking if he was ok and how the races went. He replied soon after saying that he had hurt his arm but he was ok but exhausted and he would talk to me tomorrow. I told him to have a good night. And he responded with a Goodnight text. (okay...) The next day I didn't hear from him but figured since he was hurt, that I would call him to check in. I called, he never answered, he never called back. However he did get on Facebook to tell everyone else what was going on (even though he rarely gets on Facebook ever). This translates in my mind too: He doesn't care. He doesn't want to talk to me. He's not that into me. I started to freak out. When I didn't hear from him the next day I unfriended him on Facebook. Then he sent me a text on Wednesday. "Hey" That's all he wrote. I never responded. By yesterday (Saturday), I started to think that I might've overreacted just a bit. I hadn't heard from him but I was concerned so I sent him a text:

 

"How is your arm?"

 

"Its doing ok but it's still pretty sore and weak. How are you?"

 

"Well maybe you'll be able to race soon. Good luck w/ it."

 

"How are you?"

 

"I'm fine."

 

"Thats good. Nice to hear from you."

 

"Thanks. Nice to talk to you."

 

End scene.

 

All right, maybe I was waaay overreacting. I felt bad that he was hurting. I missed him. I wanted to see him. I texted him again last night:

 

"Hey my sister and I are seeing a movie tomorrow night at 7:00. Want to join us?"

 

"That sounds fun. I'm actually heading out of town tomorrow to help out a friend. Thanks for the invite though."

 

All right, legit or not? I don't have a clue. I didn't respond. But get this... He calls me an hour later (around 10:30) which restores my hope. However I miss the call and he doesn't leave a message. I return the call about 20 mins later and leave a message to call me when he gets it. He never responds but its late and don't know if he's asleep by now or what. No clue. I don't know what to think. Now its around 1:00 in the afternoon on Sunday and I haven't heard anything. WTH is this guys deal...?