singlelife Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 how do you know if she likes you or not? i've had women ignore me only to find out by their bff that they wanted to hook up. there has to be easier way for women to show interest.
Astra5 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 What is wrong with men?? Ur supposed to be the strong and tough side of our species and ur all afriad to OPEN UP... Why dont U just ask?? be honest and ask for some truth.... whats the worst that can happen? get rejected? Ur being rejected anyway by not having the balls to be a man and ASK!!!!
Fondue Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I've stated this multiple times on this forum: If a woman is not showing me clear signs of interest, then I simply assume she isn't interested and NEXT her. I don't really care whether or not she is playing hard to get or "unavailable," I just don't. Those are child games. I'm not a child and neither should she be.
El Brujo Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Greznog and Fondue are right. Personally, I think all that caveman psychology got old when OLD was invented, and it got REALLY old when meetups came along. But... some people are still trying to bring it back... *sigh*
Imported Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Did she flirt with you? Did you flirt back? Did you and her continue to flirt until you felt ensured enough to do something decisive about it? Or were you waiting for her to do something decisive about it? Sometimes they will, most times they won't. Usually, it's up to the guy to actually stretch out his neck. Fair has nothing to do with it. 1
Esoteric Elf Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 What is wrong with men?? Ur supposed to be the strong and tough side of our species and ur all afriad to OPEN UP... Why dont U just ask?? be honest and ask for some truth.... whats the worst that can happen? get rejected? Ur being rejected anyway by not having the balls to be a man and ASK!!!! If this is the case more generally than intermittently, than I am glad I am not a woman, since, if this is applicable to many, then I would have to wait for the right man to ask me; I would have little power of my own. Come on girl, this is the 21st century. Both can approach. Enough with that one-sided trash, please.
phineas Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I used to just walk when they played games but now I sort of stick around. Mostly because there really are very few decent women my own age and sadly it seems the lower quality / desperate women are the one's coming on strong. It really doesn't take much effort to fire off a text "hey, doing XXXX wanna go?" I do this the night before or the day of & if they cancel or flake (play hard to get) my plans aren't ruined because I was already going there. I do it once a week & after 3 "no's" I i space it out to two weeks. However, 9/10 they are contacting me to do something & I LOL!
Imported Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If this is the case more generally than intermittently, than I am glad I am not a woman, since, if this is applicable to many, then I would have to wait for the right man to ask me; I would have little power of my own. Come on girl, this is the 21st century. Both can approach. Enough with that one-sided trash, please. I like it as it is. I mean, I wish the best for everybody, but it works out well for me as it is. Guys that are not my competition for a girl because of looks, $$$ and style are just not my competition. Guys that would otherwise be my competition, but are too stupid to compete, well they lost the girl by default. She played games? You're too good for such behavior? Instead of looking up and left, she looked up and right? She only gave you 99 signs that she likes you and not 100?
PogoStick Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I don't give a **** personally, if I wanted to play games I'd go down to the local playground and hang out with the kids. Make sure to bring pedo-bear to show the kids!
Esoteric Elf Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I like it as it is. I mean, I wish the best for everybody, but it works out well for me as it is. Guys that are not my competition for a girl because of looks, $$$ and style are just not my competition. Guys that would otherwise be my competition, but are too stupid to compete, well they lost the girl by default. She played games? You're too good for such behavior? Instead of looking up and left, she looked up and right? She only gave you 99 signs that she likes you and not 100? You must be doing well as is, otherwise you would wish to look for changes somehere (yeah, you can turn this right back on me ). Stupid to compete? I fail to see how "not competing" (I don't personally like your usage of the word here, but regardless) and being stupid have similarities. 99 signs instead of 100? lol, I can't read signs worth my life, but I am sure I haven't received anywhere near that many in my life, much less tallying for a single girl. Off topic: If I had any assurance that a girl liked me, be assured, despite how shy I am, I would rise to the "challenge" and take the initiative. Hints are just not my thing. I never could read hints.
Later82012 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Make sure to bring pedo-bear to show the kids! I think you are the pedo in this thread with the wrong ideas.
SJC2008 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 What is wrong with men?? Ur supposed to be the strong and tough side of our species and ur all afriad to OPEN UP... Why dont U just ask?? be honest and ask for some truth.... whats the worst that can happen? get rejected? Ur being rejected anyway by not having the balls to be a man and ASK!!!! I'm fine with what you said as long as you're a woman and know how to show interest/give a sign.
candie13 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 most guys don't have a problem with girls giving them a sign, their problem, IMHO, is that they have no idea where to take it from there...
mortensorchid Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 THere is a fine line between being hard to get, being impossible to get, and then just not being interested. Being hard to get means that you are not always at his beck and call. I've known many women who have dropped everything for the new man, which includes cancelling on their friends, other plans, etc. just because of this new guy. Being impossible is filling up all your time so much that you can't get a hold of them at all. And then there's not being interested at all. Oddly enough, when you aren't interested AT ALL they get it pretty quickly. Save for this one guy years ago when he kept calling me for MONTHS AND MONTHS and I never once returned any of his calls. Finally one day I said "Please don't call me anymore", and never heard from him since.
Esoteric Elf Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Are Esoteric Elf and Phineas related? No, why do you say that? I am half Chinese. I doubt he is.
Astra5 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If this is the case more generally than intermittently, than I am glad I am not a woman, since, if this is applicable to many, then I would have to wait for the right man to ask me; I would have little power of my own. Come on girl, this is the 21st century. Both can approach. Enough with that one-sided trash, please. I did not mean that to sound one-sided... I just mean it as if you wondering.. regardless of what GENDER you are... ASK... why does everyone need to be so afraid to be honest??
Imported Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 No, why do you say that? I am half Chinese. I doubt he is. Yeah, not sure what she was thinking. Your head is a black ball while his is like a white mask.
Esoteric Elf Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yeah, not sure what she was thinking. Your head is a black ball while his is like a white mask. Microsoft Paint. I should have probably put a yellow ball with black dot eyes and a smile instead.
phineas Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Are Esoteric Elf and Phineas related? Not that i'm aware of, but I like his avi. LOL!
phineas Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 THere is a fine line between being hard to get, being impossible to get, and then just not being interested. Being hard to get means that you are not always at his beck and call. I've known many women who have dropped everything for the new man, which includes cancelling on their friends, other plans, etc. just because of this new guy. Being impossible is filling up all your time so much that you can't get a hold of them at all. Err, prioritizing a new BF over her friends is what people do when they are in a relationship. If you consider that being at someone's beck & call then I understand why you have so many issues with men not wanting to date you. I'm not picking on you or anything but seriously, you have zero idea of what playing hard to get means from your post. Once you are with a new man, you are considered gotten. being available for someone you are with is how it works. I wouldn't GF up someone who could only see me once a week because she was too busy with her friends. What's the point in that? So your friends play hard to get with you & you don't like it? ROTFLMAO! So now you know how men feel when women do it to them. And then there's not being interested at all. Oddly enough, when you aren't interested AT ALL they get it pretty quickly. Save for this one guy years ago when he kept calling me for MONTHS AND MONTHS and I never once returned any of his calls. Finally one day I said "Please don't call me anymore", and never heard from him since. Playing hard to get is waiting a day or two to return a call or only returning every other call. canceling last min. sometimes rescheduling, sometimes not but leaving the future date up in the air. Being "busy" every other week, when you are really sitting at home with your cat. ect. Basically being unavailable but feeding enough breadcrumbs to keep the guy chasing to prove he genuinely is interested. The guy's job in this is to come on strong at first, then back off a little & give very little reaction to her games. He stay's the course, dates other women & doesn't act needy by calling or texting all the time. He contacts her once a week so she has a chance to miss him & wonder what he's doing & who he is with & he takes his time with her to gauge her intentions. For me, dealing with playing hard to get & not interested calls for the same game-plan. If i'm not seeing them at least every other week they got my number. The only difference is the game is renewed with hard to get women because they will contact you when they realize you are losing interest with her unavailability & if you play it right they think you are chasing them when in reality they are the one's chasing you. Some women do it because they think they are some kind of prize because she's a typical hot chick. Well any woman near 40 who thinks that is delusional & most guys my age won't waste their time with that woman because they can get the same thing elsewhere. Only younger. Some however do it because their afraid of being used or played but players will play the game just to score then bail on them. Honestly playing hard to get only works for so long. If you are an attractive quality woman then yes a good man will chase you. But the longer you hold out the greater the chance he will meet another good woman who doesn't play those games & you are back where you started. Alone. 2
Author singlelife Posted February 5, 2013 Author Posted February 5, 2013 Err, prioritizing a new BF over her friends is what people do when they are in a relationship. If you consider that being at someone's beck & call then I understand why you have so many issues with men not wanting to date you. I'm not picking on you or anything but seriously, you have zero idea of what playing hard to get means from your post. Once you are with a new man, you are considered gotten. being available for someone you are with is how it works. I wouldn't GF up someone who could only see me once a week because she was too busy with her friends. What's the point in that? So your friends play hard to get with you & you don't like it? ROTFLMAO! So now you know how men feel when women do it to them. Playing hard to get is waiting a day or two to return a call or only returning every other call. canceling last min. sometimes rescheduling, sometimes not but leaving the future date up in the air. Being "busy" every other week, when you are really sitting at home with your cat. ect. Basically being unavailable but feeding enough breadcrumbs to keep the guy chasing to prove he genuinely is interested. The guy's job in this is to come on strong at first, then back off a little & give very little reaction to her games. He stay's the course, dates other women & doesn't act needy by calling or texting all the time. He contacts her once a week so she has a chance to miss him & wonder what he's doing & who he is with & he takes his time with her to gauge her intentions. For me, dealing with playing hard to get & not interested calls for the same game-plan. If i'm not seeing them at least every other week they got my number. The only difference is the game is renewed with hard to get women because they will contact you when they realize you are losing interest with her unavailability & if you play it right they think you are chasing them when in reality they are the one's chasing you. Some women do it because they think they are some kind of prize because she's a typical hot chick. Well any woman near 40 who thinks that is delusional & most guys my age won't waste their time with that woman because they can get the same thing elsewhere. Only younger. Some however do it because their afraid of being used or played but players will play the game just to score then bail on them. Honestly playing hard to get only works for so long. If you are an attractive quality woman then yes a good man will chase you. But the longer you hold out the greater the chance he will meet another good woman who doesn't play those games & you are back where you started. Alone. Women don't play the hard to get game properly. You have to give a little before he loses interest. And I don't mean sex.
ltjg45 Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 What is wrong with men?? Ur supposed to be the strong and tough side of our species and ur all afriad to OPEN UP... Why dont U just ask?? be honest and ask for some truth.... whats the worst that can happen? get rejected? Ur being rejected anyway by not having the balls to be a man and ASK!!!! If we are not interested in a female, obv. we don't ask. However, if the female is interested in the male and the male isn't, guess who needs to step up if they have any chance of a relationship forming?
phineas Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Most women prefer to spend time with their friends than with their boyfriend. Everything I've seen & experienced first hand since the day me & my friends decided girls are no longer "icky" say's you are WRONG!
crude Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 This confusion and stupidity is what happens when instead of relying on common sense, people go by a bunch of rules and dating books that make rigid and stereotypical rules that must never be broken. Men and women could ask each other out, people could take the sting of rejection and survive, they could ask each other what went wrong if they break up, but no, it's about playing games, he's just not that into you if, and all the dumb gender rules, made up by greedy, phony authors and things that happened in the Middle Ages.
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