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Why you cant compare the struggles in the dating world between genders

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Pyro Established Member

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Big fking deal.

What exactly is your point?

 

I am neither fat or hideous and still single.

 

Or wait I should settled for my ex who didn't think I should waste my time with school.

Or I should have stayed with the guy who wouldn't label or relationship but wanted to act as his girlfried while he played the field.

Or I should just settle for some average guy I have nothing in common with.

 

Oh - it is so easy.

 

Quoting this for everyone to see.

somedude81 Established Member

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I look at it from this angle.

 

I like being the man. I like knowing what I like and going and getting it instead of having to wait for it to fall in my lap.

 

I wouldn't WANT to be a woman in the dating world.

But women don't have to wait and see.

 

A halfway decent woman, with a little bit of initiative, can get almost any man she wants.

 

(No I'm not including celebrities if somebody was going to ask.)

fortyninethousand322 Established Member

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Women complain thye havent found their perfect soulmate yet the men on here complain they cant get a first date.

 

I think this has more to do with sample than an actual gender comparison. The men who complain on here are different than the women on here.

 

I know lots of genuine regular "good" guys who can easily get a first date. One of my good friends (who is now married with a kid) has lived at home for all but his freshman year of college and if he wasn't married he could easily give you a list of 5-7 women who would not only go out with him, but hook up with him as well. He's not the only guy I know like this either.

 

The catch, obviously, is that these types of guys don't post on LS.

KungFuJoe Established Member

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You say this yet you said that your wife approached YOU.

 

Ok.

 

Yes, my wife approached me. I've been approached by women before...some I've dated...some not.

 

But I've also asked my share of women out and my other two LTR (4 years and 1 year) I was the one who asked them out or at least initiated things.

KungFuJoe Established Member

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But women don't have to wait and see.

 

A halfway decent woman, with a little bit of initiative, can get almost any man she wants.

 

(No I'm not including celebrities if somebody was going to ask.)

 

For what? Just sex?

 

Or something meaningful?

Joaquin Established Member

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I think women can get sex a lot easier than men. They are the gate keepers to the punani.

 

A date or a relationship is different, but I suppose being able to get laid easier in the first place is probably a better position to be in. Or not....

KungFuJoe Established Member

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The catch, obviously, is that these types of guys don't post on LS.

 

THIS 1000x.

 

The men of LS are a different breed.

somedude81 Established Member

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For what? Just sex?

 

Or something meaningful?

Look at my previous posts in this thread for the answer.

SmileFace Established Member

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THIS 1000x.

 

The men of LS are a different breed.

Don't you post here?:laugh:

KungFuJoe Established Member

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Don't you post here?:laugh:

 

I'm a different breed as well. I have issues. Mommy issues, OCD, and like pretty much everyone here, I'm an "over thinker".

 

Even my wife and women I've dated have called me "different". But, for some reason, it was always a positive for them.

 

But I'm also very optimistic, very open minded, and good at seeing the big picture (it's what I do for a living, btw).

 

I guess it also helps that I'm not too hard on the eyes, either. :)

KungFuJoe Established Member

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Look at my previous posts in this thread for the answer.

 

I'm too lazy for that!

 

Throw a dog a bone, dammit!

JuneJulySeptember Established Member

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Yes, my wife approached me. I've been approached by women before...some I've dated...some not.

 

But I've also asked my share of women out and my other two LTR (4 years and 1 year) I was the one who asked them out or at least initiated things.

 

Yup. That right there pretty much makes you unfit to give advice to the guys who need it.

 

:lmao:

 

Totally different ballgame for you.

KungFuJoe Established Member

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Yup. That right there pretty much makes you unfit to give advice to the guys who need it.

 

:lmao:

 

Totally different ballgame for you.

 

Why does it make me unfit to give advice?

 

So someone has to be BAD at something in order to teach it?

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somedude81 Established Member

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I'm still mad at you....

Somebody hasn't gotten sex from his wife in the past couple days? :(

KungFuJoe Established Member

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If it's not for sex, I don't think women have it any easier than men. As you fall further down the "attractive" scale it gets equally harder for men and women.

KungFuJoe Established Member

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Somebody hasn't gotten sex from his wife in the past couple days? :(

 

More like nearly 10 hours...but who's counting?

 

I was just looking for a simple "yes, sex or no, not sex" but NOOOO you had to make me go back and read your posts, didn't ya?

ThaWholigan Established Member

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I'm sorry to be harsh, but this is simply more making excuses - yet again.

 

It's hard for a lot of people in dating, whether you think their problems are minuscule or not. Trying to magnify your own at the expense of others just because you're annoyed at your lack of success is not the way forward and it won't help you. Vent about it if you wish - you would probably still be wrong to claim anyone has it easier - except probably exceptionally good looking people, or those who are lucky enough to have found happiness before you.

 

You also have to TELL yourself that you CAN succeed, because when it comes down the crunch, sometimes that's all you have when the chips are down. I tell myself in anything I do that eventually I will succeed. That includes dating. I don't go around thinking "well, I'll always get rejected, hopefully I'll get lucky", I go "well, I might get rejected, but I don't care, I'll soon find someone I like and she'll like me back". Positive reinforcement from within.

 

You have to deal with things better than this. Blaming others for problems that YOU can fix.

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somedude81 Established Member

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More like nearly 10 hours...but who's counting?

How you holding up? Going to be OK?

 

I'm here for you.

 

I was just looking for a simple "yes, sex or no, not sex" but NOOOO you had to make me go back and read your posts, didn't ya?

It all comes down to, just because women get lots of offers for sex, that doesn't mean that they don't get any offers for relationships.

 

I bet that any woman reading this thread can think of five decent, good, guys that wanted a relationship with her that she turned down.

fortyninethousand322 Established Member

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If it's not for sex, I don't think women have it any easier than men. As you fall further down the "attractive" scale it gets equally harder for men and women.

 

I think it's about perception really. If you are a guy who doesn't date a lot (or who has never dated) obviously women have a huge advantage over you. Because from your perspective they are the ones who control whether or not you go out with any of them. If you are a woman who can only get guys who want NSA sex, obviously the men are more in control because they control whether or not you have a relationship develop with them.

 

I being a guy who doesn't go on a lot of dates (coming up on my 2 year anniversary actually) do not believe that I am on an equal level with women. From my perspective a woman does not need to be perfect in order to date me, but I do need to be perfect in order for her to agree to go out with me. There's a huge disparity there.

KungFuJoe Established Member

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I'm sorry to be harsh, but this is simply more making excuses - yet again.

 

It's hard for a lot of people in dating, whether you think their problems are minuscule or not. Trying to magnify your own at the expense of others just because you're annoyed at your lack of success is not the way forward and it won't help you. Vent about it if you wish - you would probably still be wrong to claim anyone has it easier - except probably exceptionally good looking people, or those who are lucky enough to have found happiness before you.

 

You also have to TELL yourself that you CAN succeed, because when it comes down the crunch, sometimes that's all you have when the chips are down. I tell myself in anything I do that eventually I will succeed. That includes dating. I don't go around thinking "well, I'll always get rejected, hopefully I'll get lucky", I go "well, I might get rejected, but I don't care, I'll soon find someone I like and she'll like me back". Positive reinforcement from within.

 

You have to deal with things better than this. Blaming others for problems that YOU can fix.

 

Dude, you're like my long lost brother or something.

 

Are you part Korean?

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KungFuJoe Established Member

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I think it's about perception really. If you are a guy who doesn't date a lot (or who has never dated) obviously women have a huge advantage over you. Because from your perspective they are the ones who control whether or not you go out with any of them. If you are a woman who can only get guys who want NSA sex, obviously the men are more in control because they control whether or not you have a relationship develop with them.

 

I being a guy who doesn't go on a lot of dates (coming up on my 2 year anniversary actually) do not believe that I am on an equal level with women. From my perspective a woman does not need to be perfect in order to date me, but I do need to be perfect in order for her to agree to go out with me. There's a huge disparity there.

 

That disparity is all in your head.

 

It doesn't exist for those who don't believe in it.

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Lonely Ronin Established Member

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I'm really not buying that there are plenty of women who can't get dates.

 

From reading this forum, it seems the main cause of women not being asked out, is that there are no age appropriate single men where she lives.

 

That's because LS isn't the real GD world...... Stop drinking the LS kool-aid....

mesmerized Established Member

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Aren't you guys really tired of posting the same thing over and over again???

 

Maybe if you had a life or at least a variety of different things to talk about, you'd have better luck with women. I'd rather be shot dead than go for the typical whiny guy on LS. You can't get women as long as you make them feel this way.

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