johnnyr Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I'll cut an extremely long story short. I would really appreciate a few minutes of your time to read this and give some advice or just an opion. Im a 23 year old guy, when i was 18 i met a girl at a gig, we started a long distance relationship (3 aways between). Everything about it was intense, we had to deal with a lot of problems but the amazing times really were amazing. We both each others first love. Our families loved us, we'd stay at each other every couple of months for a week at a time. I wrote songs and sung them to her, we once slept on the roof of my house together under the stars, everytie one of us got on the train back home we'd cry together. She is beautiful, i was seriously in love. After 3 years she snapped and couldnt do it anymore, out of nowhere she said she had a new guy and she was sorry, i got obsessed with her and wouldnt leave it, i was broken inside and at the same time furious, at times i thought about ending it all, i had my life all mapped out then i got that phonecall from her and i was sick, i couldnt eat for days. Im a fairly normal guy, im not over-emotional, but when i finished with her i cried all the time, i didnt want to live, id given my life to this girl, then i was all over. Somehow over time it got a bit better, i never forgot about her but i learned to deal with it. I had to get away so i went traveling and worked on a cruise ship, it was amazing, i came back home and worked here in an office for a while. In december it was confirmed i have a months placement in Tokyo teaching music, i was happy. Anyway 2 weeks ago out of ****ing nowhere i get an email from her, i havent spoken to her in 2 years then i see her name, i was shaking, you can imagine how shocked i was. I emailed back, she said shes single now, we exchanged emails for days and just talked about the good times, i think im so numb from what she did anyway that i dont feel anything anymore anyway. Anyway randomly on thursday she stopped replying. Still now its been 3 days and no reply, for some reason it all came back to me and im broken again. I started listening to songs i havent heard since i was with her and I cried for the first time in ages, i feel pathetic, im a young guy and behind my closed door im crying for her and only here on the internet i can say i miss her SO much, i dont think im ever getting over this. I was finally getting better then she came out of nowhere and dropped that email on me. She said sorry, she was nice in the emails, i thought it would be okay, but the fact she has not replied has just ruined me again, ive lost passion for my japan trip, im feeling horrible again. Im in peices. PS. Im not the kind of guy who breaks up with someone every 3 weeks just so they can post a face on facebook for attention, ive never any other girlfriend, we went through so much together it would take forever to expalin the things that we went through. I miss her and I'm worried this will kill me one day. Im so annoyed that this gets to me so much, i feel like an idiot, she is the most beautiful girl in the world. Thank you for your time, please lend your opinion cheers x
Author johnnyr Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 And sorry my name is Johnny nice to meet you all
Author johnnyr Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 thanks for the help you ****ers
LduKaZ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Sorry man, I really feel for you. One of the problems with distance relationships is the lack of physical contact, and availability. Sure you can be there on the screen, and on the phone, but non of this things can replace the fact that if someone else shows up in the picture, offering what you couldnt, then chances are the girl will go fall for it. Now, that email she sent you. It sounds like she just broke up with her BF, probably got dumped. She needed attention, any kind, and she thought of you. You made her feel better, and that is all she wanted. She doesnt have feelings for you. She just wanted you to remind her how much shes worth. Im sorry, but girls are twisted. This is not her fault thou, she didnt do it to hurt you. Its just human nature.
Chi townD Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 First off, no girl is ever worth ending your life over. NOT ONE! And what if you did? You would have never being able to travel and see so many wonderful things in the world! When people travel like that, sometimes it makes our problems seem so very small in comparsion to how big the world is and the people that are in it. Now, you have an opportunity to go to Tokyo. I've been there and I absolutely LOVED IT! The people there are sooo nice and Japanese girls LOVE western guys. You'll be set the day you walk off that plane! I hope that you start to realize that your life is your own. And you are filling it with so many great adventures and that's something that no one will ever take away from you. We decide who we SHARE our life with. And she's the one that has missed out on so many adventures, not you. So I say....HER LOSS!!!!!
Chi townD Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Oh and it doesn't help you get responses from folks when you call them f*ckers. People are at work or doing things in there lives. You need to give people time it get here and respond.
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