Coping Vortex Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I had a dream last night I was sitting down with my ex's new BF. I was giving him the background on my ex. All her good qualities and what a wonderful person she really can be. How loving, how sexy, the fact she can be an amazing friend. But in my dream I also started to warn him. That she will cheat on him (actually she already did as she had sex with me on a look back a few weeks ago) and be attracted to another guy at some point. It WILL happen. Especially since he was a rebound. She already admitted to me that their sex life was very average and not like it was with me. She has very high sex drive. That alone will have her reaching out to someone down the road. She is looking for a job right now and when she finds one, and if there are available men (or even men that aren't) she will attach her self to one of them and either cheat or leave him too. Just her MO. I know if she spends a lot of time a person she starts to get attached to them. I was lucky in that she was coming out of a marriage so she didn't have a lot of time to bond with many others but she did cheat on her husband several times, but i gave her a pass as her ex husband was a horrible person and gave her no love or affection. She has a self admitted low self esteem issue (courtesy of her ex). I think she wants the security of relationship but she can't help her self especially when there is a man that she feels would never normally show interest in her. So I actually feel for this guy I know he is head over heals for her right now but I know for a fact that she will show interest in another and not stay with him for the long haul. The last thing this guy could over do is push her to marry him. Then I give it less than a year before she seeks out others. Its a shame she really needed to take some time after her marriage and find herself. I don't think she is malicious with this behavior but I think she is ultimately a slave to the low self esteem. I did my very best to keep her self esteem as high as I could and supported so very much. She admitted to me during a bread crumb session that I "always very good with the compliments" to her. I know how her ex husband treated her and I wanted to make sure she had the highest self worth possible. But even with that support she still left me. I think it is her achilles heal. It will be something that will ruin her relationships in the future. So maybe in the end I escaped a major bullet. But I would have still liked to have had that chance to try. I loved her like no other. She was worth giving it a go. This poor bastard does not have the luxury of knowing what i know. I mean she already cheated on him with me. He is in for some major hurt down the road as she is a honey trap LOL!! Its easy to fall for her. Its weird but this dream has taught me to look more into the negatives of me wanting to have her back in my life. Everything above is not sour grapes its all true. She would admit that as well.
Hopeful714 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Coping- Havent read your whole story but seem to recall you were dating someone a bit older then yourself. Just curious if you ex's new bf was somebody closer to her age?
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 Coping- Havent read your whole story but seem to recall you were dating someone a bit older then yourself. Just curious if you ex's new bf was somebody closer to her age? No that was crash vector. My ex is 12 years younger than me. I think her new bf is closer to her age.
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