Amelia81 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Last night i actually got a full nights sleep, thanks to some over counter meds i expect. Thought a good nights sleep would make me feel better but today i just have no get up and go. I know i need to do something to occupy myself but just cant think of anything that motivates me! Yesterday i was ok-ish, went out shopping and to the cinema on my own. Its 3.30pm, still in my pjs and spent last few hours reading about other peoples problems on forums and then googling why my bf finished with me to see if it is resolvable. Also feel miserable and scared about being 31 and single and body clock ticking Felt so strong last 48hrs. Didn't even feel like i needed to go running to my counsellor. Now i think i need to go to help me through this.
Amelie1980 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Last night i actually got a full nights sleep, thanks to some over counter meds i expect. Thought a good nights sleep would make me feel better but today i just have no get up and go. I know i need to do something to occupy myself but just cant think of anything that motivates me! Yesterday i was ok-ish, went out shopping and to the cinema on my own. Its 3.30pm, still in my pjs and spent last few hours reading about other peoples problems on forums and then googling why my bf finished with me to see if it is resolvable. Also feel miserable and scared about being 31 and single and body clock ticking Felt so strong last 48hrs. Didn't even feel like i needed to go running to my counsellor. Now i think i need to go to help me through this. All I can say is I'm also on the sofa in my pjs. Other than work I haven't left the house since new years day. Im 34.... Don't know how to get out if this.
Author Amelia81 Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 Do you watch tv? How do you spend your time? I managed to get changed into leggings and a hoody so still cosy but feels better than being in my pjs.
Amelie1980 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I watch TV and replay the relationship over and over in my head. I lie under a blanket and just wish I would not wake up the next morning. I feel like a child who doesn't go to school as my job is not great at the moment. I hate my whole life at the moment. My relationship was a bit of pleasure and hope for me but now even that has gone.
LostGirl11 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I feel the same today. I hate sundays at the best of times! Need to shower but can't be bothered. Just want to cry, but I can't even do that properly.
youngnlove89 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Last night i actually got a full nights sleep, thanks to some over counter meds i expect. Thought a good nights sleep would make me feel better but today i just have no get up and go. I know i need to do something to occupy myself but just cant think of anything that motivates me! Yesterday i was ok-ish, went out shopping and to the cinema on my own. Its 3.30pm, still in my pjs and spent last few hours reading about other peoples problems on forums and then googling why my bf finished with me to see if it is resolvable. Also feel miserable and scared about being 31 and single and body clock ticking Felt so strong last 48hrs. Didn't even feel like i needed to go running to my counsellor. Now i think i need to go to help me through this. Sometimes it's best to just go through it. Don't fight it. Sit in your pj's, relax, pamper yourself: take a bath, do your own facial, do some yoga. Blast some music and clean your house. Just because you don't feel like doing anything, doesn't mean it is wrong. This is what we all have to go through. It is a phase and some phases are longer than others. But by going through it that means you are facing it. I don't go out much lately. But it isn't for any particular reason, I just don't want to. This is my way of dealing with things. I still hurt sometimes. I still miss him here and there. BUT I have completely accepted the inevitable and I have let go of that hope. I accept that my relationship with my ex is long gone and there is no chance of reconciliation. I'm okay with it too. Forcing yourself to do something you don't want to do is worse than just doing what you need to do. You will have days when your heart feels heavier than normal and your body is weak and insufficient. Some days are worse than others. But this is the pain coming out. It's leaving your body. It sucks while you are going through it, but once it's over you will feel better and more appreciative that you got it over with. Every day that goes by is just one more day closer to you healing and letting go. You can do this.
Amelie1980 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I feel the same today. I hate sundays at the best of times! Need to shower but can't be bothered. Just want to cry, but I can't even do that properly. I managed to shower this morning but that's about it. I can't.cry either today.
Flounder Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Do you live with anyone? Are they sympathetic? I'm going through the exact same. I live alone which is so hard because I'm in the flat without him now for a week. It's the worst.
LostGirl11 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Really don't know what to do with myself. I haven't got the energy to go out, there isn't anything on tv worth watching, not sure if I'll be able to switch off enough to read.... Bored, sad, tired, grubby.
Sari Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I'm having a really cruddy day too. Slept in until 1pm cos I couldn't bear to face the day. Now I'm on the sofa in pj's too. Did manage to go for a run earlier, then drove around crying for an hour. I was doing ok yesterday too. I think it just hits us too hard sometimes. Ugh.
Sari Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Ok, this is possibly really sad, but yesterday I bought myself a colouring book and some pencils and spent a few hours colouring in pictures of fairies and butterflies and flowers. My friend recommended it, as did an online support group. It was actually incredibly therapeutic, I've been too sad/distracted to watch tv or read properly, but colouring in with an old film on in the background actually kept my mind occupied enough to not feel like sh*t but was also quite soothing. I guess you could draw a picture and colour that in if you don't have a colouring book to hand!! 1
LostGirl11 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Ok, this is possibly really sad, but yesterday I bought myself a colouring book and some pencils and spent a few hours colouring in pictures of fairies and butterflies and flowers. My friend recommended it, as did an online support group. It was actually incredibly therapeutic, I've been too sad/distracted to watch tv or read properly, but colouring in with an old film on in the background actually kept my mind occupied enough to not feel like sh*t but was also quite soothing. I guess you could draw a picture and colour that in if you don't have a colouring book to hand!! Not sad at all. Sounds very soothing. Will buy a colouring book during the week. I can't draw at all and will end up getting frustrated. Having a really bad day, want to break NC. Keep thinking about him telling me to sleep with someone else. Hurts.
cavalier99 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I was feeling ok but now I'm depressed after reading this thread. Must leave now. Good luck ladies. Ill join you gals again when your showered, make up on and dressed. cav
Sari Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I was feeling ok but now I'm depressed after reading this thread. Must leave now. Good luck ladies. Ill join you gals again when your showered, make up on and dressed. cav Give us a break, man! I've been doing well, going to therapy, seeing friends, joined (and actually using!) the gym, keeping on top of things at work as best I can. I just couldn't galvanise myself today. Sometimes it's just too much Back to work tomorrow anyway, so I'll be up and about again. Avec make-up
cavalier99 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Give us a break, man! I've been doing well, going to therapy, seeing friends, joined (and actually using!) the gym, keeping on top of things at work as best I can. I just couldn't galvanise myself today. Sometimes it's just too much Back to work tomorrow anyway, so I'll be up and about again. Avec make-up Hey im just giving you gals a hard time . Trying to lighten the mood. Ha...I felt like i crashed a girls slumber party.....What type of pj's?
Sari Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Hey im just giving you gals a hard time . Trying to lighten the mood. Ha...I felt like i crashed a girls slumber party.....What type of pj's? Haha, that would be the saddest slumber party known to man!! A bunch of girls sitting round crying, half of whom haven't even showered... For the record, my pjs have hearts and penguins on them. Pretty sexy huh?! 1
cavalier99 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Haha, that would be the saddest slumber party known to man!! A bunch of girls sitting round crying, half of whom haven't even showered... For the record, my pjs have hearts and penguins on them. Pretty sexy huh?! Hmmm..Well ...you know ....depends on who is wearing them and how they fit:lmao:
Inviv_girl Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Im 33. Will I even find love again after him? I dont know.. I try not to think of this shaky depression, It hurt like hell!!! Im going to focus on earning more money!!!!
Inviv_girl Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Im 33. Will I ever find love again after him? I dont know.. I try not to think of this shaky depression, It hurt like hell!!! Im going to focus on earning more money!!!!
Debbie2508 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 ......its even worse when you're 50 and think you've finally found "The One". You cant believe he could possibly feel the same way,but he does.......until he doesn't anymore!! Now I've confessed my age,I'd better check I'm still welcome here?? Most people seem to be late teens/20's.
Coping Vortex Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 ......its even worse when you're 50 and think you've finally found "The One". You cant believe he could possibly feel the same way,but he does.......until he doesn't anymore!! Now I've confessed my age,I'd better check I'm still welcome here?? Most people seem to be late teens/20's. Not all of us Debbie. I'm right there with you. Of course your welcome. Funny thing being dumped causes the same symptoms no matter what age you are Its just messier when you are our age. I would love to know your story Debbie. Did you post a link?
Debbie2508 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I'm glad I'm not the only one .Thanks for be-friending me. Not sure I'm ready to post my tale of woo yet,nor am I quite sure how to go about actually posting it....I'm old remember!! Amelia,please forgive me if I've hi-jacked your thread,sorry
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