westcoastguy Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Well I guess they have stopped. A few interesting ones like "hows your power outage" and texting me some pics from my yearbook and just general chatter... Have all stopped as of a few days ago. NC feels good - but so do the bread crumbs. Vent over.
Author westcoastguy Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 I guess if she was interested at all she would be texting. Or is she afraid to?
TaraMaiden Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 No. She's not getting validation. So as nothing is forthcoming from him by way of feeding her Ego, she's stopped. Read the No Contact Guide in my signature. You'll understand what we mean..... 2
Author westcoastguy Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 Thanks TaraMaiden. Just read it. It's been six weeks. I started NC right away. Took about 10 days for a few texts then 2 weeks for almost daily talk, including ones about her trying to run into me. Since then i've been NC again. She still has my stuff (some items irreplaceable). Obviously, i want to reconciliation. What is my next step? Stick with NC and in a few months ask for it back?
TaraMaiden Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 No. Send her an impersonal email, telling her you'd like to have your stuff back, and could she please give you an exact time/date when you can collect. You'd be grateful if she could box it up and make it portable.... Then, come the time, ask a good friend to go on your behalf to pick it up for you. "Hi, I have quite a bit of stuff of mine at your place, and I think it would be a good idea to retrieve it, and get it out of your way. Please do me the favour of packing it up for me, then tell me when it would be a good and convenient time to collect it. Thanks. *Your name*." .... should do fine. Do not get drawn into long detailed discussions on how you are, how's the dog, how's the goldfish, how's your mom.... just stick to the programme.
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