Guy001 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Hi, I went to a different city with my friends and caught a girl checking me out twice in a busy nightclub. I made a move and started talking with her. We had a good time for 3-4hours dancing, talking, laughing, etc. But no physical contact. We exchanged numbers before leaving. Next morning I gave her a call to ask if she is interested in meeting. Got a great shock when she said she is busy. I didn't force her, just said okay np, take care before dropping the call. I concluded she isn't interested in me. My confidence really got crushed and I was disappointed that whole day. Now I am back home and I get a text from her which reads something like this "Hi, sorry wasn't able to catch up with you that day. Are you still in town or back home? Just wanted to check." Now this got me little bit mad and excited at the same time. I called couple of my female friends for advice and they said she was just playing hard to get that time and she is kinda into you. I really don't understand what she means by this text? What I am saying is she very well knew the morning when I asked her out was my last day in that town, so what was the point of playing hard to get? If she really likes/ liked me shouldn't she see that meeting as her last opportunity to develop some kind of contact with me? I am still interested in contacting her again, but not sure how to decode that text?
Brightwind Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Maybe she was genuinely busy the next morning, not just playing hard to get...just a thought. On top of that, if you met at a night club is it safe to assume you were both drinking a little? Alcohol could have caused her to forget when you were leaving, exactly. Im sure it wasn't meant as a personal affront. Don't think about it from your perspective. Take a step back and look at it objectively: You met a lady out of town. You had a great time for one evening. When you contacted her the next morning, she was 'busy'. This hurt your feelings. But when you look at it objectively, remember that she didn't know she was going to meet you when she went out the night before. Chances are, she had made plans for her next day. I highly doubt she's playing hard to get. If she's living in a different city from you, she's already pretty hard to get. 4
MsSmurf Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I agree with brightwind and will also add that if she weren't at all interested in you then she wouldn't have answered your call or texted you later. You were out at a club, probably drinking, and....she remembered you and kept your number. How often does that happen? Not often. If you're actually interested in her then stay in contact with her and maybe you two can figure out a time to get together.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Hi, I went to a different city with my friends and caught a girl checking me out twice in a busy nightclub. I made a move and started talking with her. We had a good time for 3-4hours dancing, talking, laughing, etc. But no physical contact. We exchanged numbers before leaving. Next morning I gave her a call to ask if she is interested in meeting. Got a great shock when she said she is busy. I didn't force her, just said okay np, take care before dropping the call. I concluded she isn't interested in me. My confidence really got crushed and I was disappointed that whole day. Now I am back home and I get a text from her which reads something like this "Hi, sorry wasn't able to catch up with you that day. Are you still in town or back home? Just wanted to check." Now this got me little bit mad and excited at the same time. I called couple of my female friends for advice and they said she was just playing hard to get that time and she is kinda into you. I really don't understand what she means by this text? What I am saying is she very well knew the morning when I asked her out was my last day in that town, so what was the point of playing hard to get? If she really likes/ liked me shouldn't she see that meeting as her last opportunity to develop some kind of contact with me? I am still interested in contacting her again, but not sure how to decode that text? Just call her and try again. Don't bother trying to decode texts and messages. There is never ONE right answer. At this point, what does rejection matter? You're strangers.
tbf Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Try this. Respond like you're still in town and see what happens. If she drops the ball again, she's just looking for attention.
Author Guy001 Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 Try this. Respond like you're still in town and see what happens. If she drops the ball again, she's just looking for attention. Thx for the reply, but I already passed this idea. If something can really cook up between us then I don't want to start with a lie.
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