Jessiboo Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I don't know what to think of this. In a nutshell: - guy wont make a move, but makes it very, very clear that he is interested. - I make a move and he goes with it. I give him several "outs" so that if he isn't into it, he knows he's free to back off or leave with no hard feelings. - kissing session leads to sex. He is very aroused, but barely touches me other than to remove my clothes and position me. He does not remove my bra the whole time. - he comes pretty quickly (3-4 minutes in). - still doesn't touch me, but stays for close to an hour. We're both naked (with the exception of my unremoved bra) and he just stays there, looking into my eyes. Saying nothing, just gazing into my eyes broken by occasional kissing. - chatted again before he left and on his way out we kissed and said we'd see each other again soon. What do I make of this? I know a guy is not going to give up sex if it is there for the taking, but what is the deal here? He doesn't touch me, but stays around to do some deep eye soul searching or whatever. If he just wanted the sex, why wouldn't he just leave when he was done? He obviously wasn't very interested in me, or he would have touched me in some way. It seems at odds with our past interaction when he was very into it, and he seemed to be looking forward to this for some time (we haven't been with each other in months, but he brings it up often). End note: I asked how difficult it would be to see him again (our schedules don't always mesh) and he said not very. I haven't heard from him since then. That was three days ago.
ChessPieceFace Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I know a guy is not going to give up sex if it is there for the taking That is an unhealthy generalization. I want sex to mean something. I wouldn't take cheap/fast sex if it was offered from the hottest woman. I'm not the only man that believes this. As to his behavior - I don't know, but my impression is that maybe he's just really bad or inexperienced at sex.
Author Jessiboo Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 I'm really glad you said this because I like to think men have standards. I don't like to believe it when I'm told "we'll he was hardly going to turn it down if it was offered." I want to think that in this situation. I want to think he wanted to be with me. I know he is not inexperienced or bad at sex. We've been together before and it was really good. It has been a while though, and we've been talking/texting about it. So maybe there was some insecurity or anxiety because of the build up. But that doesn't explain why he didn't make a move, or touch me once we started. For the record, it wasn't a quickie and then a roll off. He was actually looking into my eyes when he came, and it seemed to sort of take him by surprise. It really bothers me that I haven't heard from him.
Author Jessiboo Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 Hahaha! No, it would make some sense if he was. Like I said, we've had sex before and he was really good. It makes no sense that he would be suddenly so off his game, unless he wasn't interested. Even though all his other actions say he was, at least on some level.
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