Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 That's my ex's name. Fancy that. lol And h3braica, thank GOD that isn't your real name! You don't need that hardship on top of everything else! LOL Anyway...yes, the pain is SO hard. I know. I've been there. Am still pulling myself out of it. But you ARE strong, and I think you'll find it's easier to continue to BE strong because it helps you get through. LOL! Hopefully I'm no reminder...that would suck.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 after waiting him for 10 yrs? after being faithful? after sacrificing my career abroad? this is what i've got??? a break up. i dont deserve this. if he doesn't want me to be in his life me either. he's an idiot. a man with no balls.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 after waiting him for 10 yrs? after being faithful? after sacrificing my career abroad? this is what i've got??? a break up. i dont deserve this. if he doesn't want me to be in his life me either. he's an idiot. a man with no balls. Damn straight! He's got raisen balls! Couldn't be a man to his woman even if he could! Probably lacks in other areas too eeehhh? Either way you are better off. You don't need lil boys(no pun intended.) You need a man. One who will kill to have you in his life.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 Damn straight! He's got raisen balls! Couldn't be a man to his woman even if he could! Probably lacks in other areas too eeehhh? Either way you are better off. You don't need lil boys(no pun intended.) You need a man. One who will kill to have you in his life. it's hard to find a the right man nowadays. good looking and responsible guys are always taken. pretty boys are gays.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 it's hard to find a the right man nowadays. good looking and responsible guys are always taken. pretty boys are gays. Yes, you are right. It is hard finding a Goodman. Not impossible.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 todd. is it right to ignore the email?
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 do i need to tell him not to email me again or just continue ignoring him?
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 do i need to tell him not to email me again or just continue ignoring him? Tell him. Then ignore him afterwards. Hopefully he stops...they usually Don't though.
stevie_23 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 LOL! Hopefully I'm no reminder...that would suck. Nah, I don't mind it. I'm very fond of that name now because of him. It's all good. The fact he ended things with me has not soured or tainted my view of what we had before, during our time together. 1
stevie_23 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Yes, you are right. It is hard finding a Goodman. Not impossible. I've found several good men in my time, but all of them have been married. A fatal flaw in the equation. lol 1
Own Worst Enemy Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Is why they say (albeit not v politically correctly!) than men are like parking spaces..... All the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped. God, I've been reduced to quoting unfunny fridge magnets! 2
FailedFirstLove Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I'm so sorry. It must be really painful,10 years is a really long time. your are amazing to be able to accept it and let go. He will regret his decision but at least you will know you did the best thing you could. And you will find someone better. It's annoying of him to contact you with words like he misses you. I know you will get through this. You sound very strong and determine I wish you all the best' 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I've found several good men in my time, but all of them have been married. A fatal flaw in the equation. lol Such a pretty girl. I can see why they'd struggle to resist you. We all have flaws; we all need to one day work on them to be better. I've flaws too, like being overly Flirty, makes it hard to get a girl who doesn't think I'm interested, LOL. Good for free food at work though But yes..you should have no trouble finding anyone really -- you look good so.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 I'm so sorry. It must be really painful,10 years is a really long time. your are amazing to be able to accept it and let go. He will regret his decision but at least you will know you did the best thing you could. And you will find someone better. It's annoying of him to contact you with words like he misses you. I know you will get through this. You sound very strong and determine I wish you all the best' the pain is unbearable. and he puts me in the situation which i dont deserve. if he loves me he wouldn't let me feel this pain. i'd rather hurt myself than hurtin' someone like this. no one deserves this pain i'm feeling right now. i'm missing him so much. that it hurts like hell! i'd like to break the NC many times by replying to his email but there's no point. if i will open the line of communication again it will only hurt me even more. i think the best thing to do is to keep ignoring him and accept the fact that he's gone forever. and no matter how hard i prayed he will not come back again.
Coping Vortex Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 the pain is unbearable. and he puts me in the situation which i dont deserve. if he loves me he wouldn't let me feel this pain. i'd rather hurt myself than hurtin' someone like this. no one deserves this pain i'm feeling right now. i'm missing him so much. that it hurts like hell! i'd like to break the NC many times by replying to his email but there's no point. if i will open the line of communication again it will only hurt me even more. i think the best thing to do is to keep ignoring him and accept the fact that he's gone forever. and no matter how hard i prayed he will not come back again. Trust me I broke NC several times and it did nothing in the end but to make me miserable. Nothing you can do can make them change their mind. In fact when you break NC it only empowers them to know they can snap their fingers and you would come running. If anything NC makes them nervous that you may have decided to be gone from their lives. My ex admitted that when we were NC that her memory didn't fade it was quite the opposite. Now that being said I am one for communication if at all possible. NC is a decision to finally let go. If you are not ready and you think your ex is not ready to give up on the relationship for good, then I don't advocate NC. But in your case I would sounds like its over for good. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 the pain is unbearable. and he puts me in the situation which i dont deserve. if he loves me he wouldn't let me feel this pain. i'd rather hurt myself than hurtin' someone like this. no one deserves this pain i'm feeling right now. i'm missing him so much. that it hurts like hell! i'd like to break the NC many times by replying to his email but there's no point. if i will open the line of communication again it will only hurt me even more. i think the best thing to do is to keep ignoring him and accept the fact that he's gone forever. and no matter how hard i prayed he will not come back again. I wouldn't want him back. With the way he did you. I am sorry he hurt you this much...he should be punched for it.
johnnyr Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 There's no point in saying you'll get over it because you never will. The key is learning to control the pain and learning to live with it, thats the thing. Thats your only choice, just keep moving forward and somehow find a way to control the pain. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 There's no point in saying you'll get over it because you never will. The key is learning to control the pain and learning to live with it, thats the thing. Thats your only choice, just keep moving forward and somehow find a way to control the pain. She can indeed get over the pain. It's hard effort. She will have ups and Downs. Maybe a memory that would make her think in the future. She will always remember the Guy. But it's fully possible to move beyond the pain, rather than deal with it day by day.
stevie_23 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Yes, it certainly is. Time heals all wounds. A cliché but it’s TRUE. Sometimes time is the ONLY thing that heals. It’s been 7 weeks for me since my ex ended things suddenly. I was a mess. Still am in some ways, but I’m ok now. I can truly say that – I AM OK. Wow. I have stabilized. I can feel happy again, even most of the time. And the other times when I’m not feeling particularly happy, I feel calm and ok with things. I don’t feel distressed or distraught anymore. And I don’t feel hatred or anger towards my ex either. That is not a productive way to get over a relationship that didn’t last. Somehow trying to find peace and understanding is a better way, in my opinion IF possible. Oh, and Todd, thank you for your compliment on my appearance. Lol. Yes, I’d noticed already you are a flirt. So am I, to an extent. Probably gets me in trouble sometimes.
Author h3braica Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Trust me I broke NC several times and it did nothing in the end but to make me miserable. Nothing you can do can make them change their mind. In fact when you break NC it only empowers them to know they can snap their fingers and you would come running. If anything NC makes them nervous that you may have decided to be gone from their lives. My ex admitted that when we were NC that her memory didn't fade it was quite the opposite. Now that being said I am one for communication if at all possible. NC is a decision to finally let go. If you are not ready and you think your ex is not ready to give up on the relationship for good, then I don't advocate NC. But in your case I would sounds like its over for good. Hi, I know all about NC and the effect when breaking it. But sometimes you will miss them around and the only thing that goes in your mind is to keep in touch with them. Been thinking about breaking NC for the past 15 days. But I'm glad you were there to support me guys. It is the worst feeling in the world. Thank you Coping Vortex.
Author h3braica Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 I wouldn't want him back. With the way he did you. I am sorry he hurt you this much...he should be punched for it. I miss him but don't want him back. I want to talk to him like before but i know i will only hurt myself by doing that. can't think straight! Feels like he stabbed me a million times.
Author h3braica Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Yes, it certainly is. Time heals all wounds. A cliché but it’s TRUE. Sometimes time is the ONLY thing that heals. It’s been 7 weeks for me since my ex ended things suddenly. I was a mess. Still am in some ways, but I’m ok now. I can truly say that – I AM OK. Wow. I have stabilized. I can feel happy again, even most of the time. And the other times when I’m not feeling particularly happy, I feel calm and ok with things. I don’t feel distressed or distraught anymore. And I don’t feel hatred or anger towards my ex either. That is not a productive way to get over a relationship that didn’t last. Somehow trying to find peace and understanding is a better way, in my opinion IF possible. Oh, and Todd, thank you for your compliment on my appearance. Lol. Yes, I’d noticed already you are a flirt. So am I, to an extent. Probably gets me in trouble sometimes. he made me hate him. he forced me to end the relationship by insulting me saying things that wasn't true. he pushed me away and made me mad at him. he left me in the most difficult time of my life (healing from the surgery) waited for 10 yrs, even made a marriage proposal and broken up with me. he's happy now and i'm still sufferin' like this. how can we be friends?
LostOne1 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 he made me hate him. he forced me to end the relationship by insulting me saying things that wasn't true. he pushed me away and made me mad at him. he left me in the most difficult time of my life (healing from the surgery) waited for 10 yrs, even made a marriage proposal and broken up with me. he's happy now and i'm still sufferin' like this. how can we be friends? I wouldn't reccomend you be friends. But as time goes along you will finally become indifferent and that hate will vanish. And soon you just won't care what he thinks or feels. You will have moved on to a good part in your life. Just remember this is the time to work on yourself and make yourself better. Heal for YOURSELF.
Coping Vortex Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Hi, I know all about NC and the effect when breaking it. But sometimes you will miss them around and the only thing that goes in your mind is to keep in touch with them. Been thinking about breaking NC for the past 15 days. But I'm glad you were there to support me guys. It is the worst feeling in the world. Thank you Coping Vortex. Anytime! I'm always here for you!!! I feel I will be on the site for at least a good year. It will take me that long to get over her.
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