h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Ended a 10 yr Long Distance Relationship last month. He said the only option is to leave me because his son needs him and wants a happy family with his ex. He proposed 6 mos ago, wedding should be this year. It's been 28 days of NC. 2 weeks ago he emailed me guilty of what he did and said he misses me so much. i still didn't reply. i'm missing him so much but i think the best thing i can do is to move on. i'm hurting so much. always woke up with the thoughts of him and cried after. we have a constant communications for 10 long years (ym, text and emails). Now he's gone. I dont want a reconciliation I just want this pain to go away. He said we will never get back together again. I didn't do anything wrong in the relationship. I've waited for 10 yrs for his f****n promises! the pain is excruciating...
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Ended a 10 yr Long Distance Relationship last month. He said the only option is to leave me because his son needs him and wants a happy family with his ex. He proposed 6 mos ago, wedding should be this year. It's been 28 days of NC. 2 weeks ago he emailed me guilty of what he did and said he misses me so much. i still didn't reply. i'm missing him so much but i think the best thing i can do is to move on. i'm hurting so much. always woke up with the thoughts of him and cried after. we have a constant communications for 10 long years (ym, text and emails). Now he's gone. I dont want a reconciliation I just want this pain to go away. He said we will never get back together again. I didn't do anything wrong in the relationship. I've waited for 10 yrs for his f****n promises! the pain is excruciating... I am terribly sorry. He did you wrong in the end. I know what it is like to what years, on promises, and they become broken and don't happen. You've probably heard this, but in time the pain will cease. But it's what you do with that time. Go out or other busy/fun things. Eventually you will stop hurting. You may not forget, but the hurt will stop. You will have a war: moments of ups and Downs; highs and lows. Eventually sweetheart you will heal. Wow, you arrested amazing though. He is foolish. Not many people wait ten years in an Ldr....you are a very special and good woman.
iouaname Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I am so sorry that you're going through this The pain will subside, and you will be happy again. You just have to take it one day at a time. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 You are* not arrested. Stupid phone. Stupid ls edit...sry
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 thank you todd i needed that. i know he will regret everything in the end. he said he didn't want his ex even if she wants a recon she once became a prostitute and he cannot stand to sleep with her anymore. and now they're back in each others arms.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 thank you todd i needed that. i know he will regret everything in the end. he said he didn't want his ex even if she wants a recon she once became a prostitute and he cannot stand to sleep with her anymore. and now they're back in each others arms. He will. No way would I trade a rose for a weed. Did you two ever meet though? Sounds like he would be smart enough to keep a pretty and good girl. What a shame. Don't waste your amazingness on him no more.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 He will. No way would I trade a rose for a weed. Did you two ever meet though? Sounds like he would be smart enough to keep a pretty and good girl. What a shame. Don't waste your amazingness on him no more. we've met 3 yrs ago. met his family and friends and met mine. we're together for 3 weeks i stayed in their house. told him i can still wait until their house was fix. i know they needed money to fix the house. he said he will come back after 2 yrs to see me again he will just work to finance the renovating of the house. but he did not come back due to some financial problems. last year was the 3rd year, he proposed to me on the net so no time will be wasted when he comes back we will go straight to the wedding. it is supposed to be this year. everything was planned i dont know what happened and why he is so confused with me and the kid. i asked him if he loves me he said yes. i asked him if he wants me to leave him he said nothing. a week before the break up he always thanked me for the memories we've shared. i ignore it but i keep on thinkin' about it. keep on asking myself why he said that. got an operation last month, doctor's need to remove something inside my breast and got re-stitched after 2 weeks, the wound opened. still healing inside but this is what i got when i got back. a break up. usually i ended up drinking alcohol with friends to forget him but now i cannot do that due to the operation. need to endure everything. he left me in the situation like this and never even cared. he's an *********. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 He is an *******. Block him from your life and heal up. You deserve way better, and a real man. His confusion is lack of will to do so. Do not drink him away, just go out and have fun when you are all healed. Use loveshack for any hurts you have or if you're ever still upset over this.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 he said things that wasn't true but hurts me real bad. like " be strong. you won't have a bf you can rely on or who can help u". " look for a job! i'm not there to help you!". why saying things like that? i never demand money from him like what others did. did not complaint if i cannot received gifts from him for 8 yrs. about the job how can i find a job if i still need to heal from the operation? i suffered for 2 yrs for that 'thing' in my breast. it reccurs. 2 days after the doctor re-stitched me i go out to find a job even if the wound hurts. does he know that? i've wasted my 10 yrs to that idiot!
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 then after the break up, after telling me hurtful things he will emailed to say he missed me so much. rot in hell.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 As someone who works in the media al world, I understand you not looking for a job. Your job is to focus on healing. He sounds like an unappreciative dick. You don't need what little money he has. You will have a bf one day to lean on. Someone who will lean on you too. Who will want you in his life. Not kool he said those things to you. Just an idiot.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 i wish this pain will go away soon. no matter how hard i tried to get him off my mind it still haunts me. i hate to wake up with thoughts of him everyday. i dont need him in my life anymore. he hurts me and misses me now. he got what he asked for what more do he wants from me?
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 i wish this pain will go away soon. no matter how hard i tried to get him off my mind it still haunts me. i hate to wake up with thoughts of him everyday. i dont need him in my life anymore. he hurts me and misses me now. he got what he asked for what more do he wants from me? To hurt you more. Play you. He dug his own hole, so. Seriously block him. From all sources of your life. When you're able to go out and enjoy life, slowly the pain will go away.
stevie_23 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Wow. 10 YEARS. My LDR / online relationship only lasted for almost 2 years and when he ended it, GOD IT HURT. I can only IMAGINE how you must feel. I am so sorry about this. I know all about promises they make throughout the relationship that then suddenly and abruptly fly out the window when something in their "real" life changes and they feel they "need" to now commit to a life they constantly told you they didn't want. You seem to be dealing with this well, trying to move on (and you will, in time), and feeling quite angry at him for how he treated you. Maybe this means you're a stronger person than I am. I can't feel angry at my ex. He treated me very well during our time together and I believe he meant what he said throughout that time, but when it got too hard, it was still preferable for him to choose that life he didn't want over someone he supposedly loved more than anything. I see it as his loss. If he chooses to be unhappy, living a life that makes him unhappy, bored, frustrated, disappointed and all that? Go right ahead! It's nothing to do with me! 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Wow. 10 YEARS. My LDR / online relationship only lasted for almost 2 years and when he ended it, GOD IT HURT. I can only IMAGINE how you must feel. I am so sorry about this. I know all about promises they make throughout the relationship that then suddenly and abruptly fly out the window when something in their "real" life changes and they feel they "need" to now commit to a life they constantly told you they didn't want. You seem to be dealing with this well, trying to move on (and you will, in time), and feeling quite angry at him for how he treated you. Maybe this means you're a stronger person than I am. I can't feel angry at my ex. He treated me very well during our time together and I believe he meant what he said throughout that time, but when it got too hard, it was still preferable for him to choose that life.. I see it as his loss. If he chooses to be unhappy, living a life that makes him unhappy, bored, frustrated, disappointed and all that? Go right ahead! It's nothing to do with me! Why hi, Stevie! Excellent post you've made here, just had to say.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 LOL I've gotta change my profile name. So weird being called be another name. Hm.
stevie_23 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Well, my name's not Stevie either. lol It's all good.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Can't change it...oh well. Stevie reminds me of my name too much. Take the I out and put an n at the end, there ya go.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 i'm dying inside... the pain is killing me... but i don't have any option but to be strong.
Author h3braica Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 oh! h3braica isn't my real name too. LOL.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 i'm dying inside... the pain is killing me... but i don't have any option but to be strong. hugs* I know. You are a wise woman with how you view it all. I know you'll make it.
stevie_23 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Can't change it...oh well. Stevie reminds me of my name too much. Take the I out and put an n at the end, there ya go. That's my ex's name. Fancy that. lol And h3braica, thank GOD that isn't your real name! You don't need that hardship on top of everything else! LOL Anyway...yes, the pain is SO hard. I know. I've been there. Am still pulling myself out of it. But you ARE strong, and I think you'll find it's easier to continue to BE strong because it helps you get through.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 oh! h3braica isn't my real name too. LOL. LOL! Mystery woman! I see there ya go! Play around. Get your mind off of him. But be not afraid to share your hurt though!
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