skylark100 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Dating a new girl and its only 2 weeks in, but still, there is chemistry. I don't want to rush anything, but valentines day is coming up and I am not sure what type of gift is appropriate. But a gift is necessary, or else I risk looking like I'm not interested or dirt cheap. I was thinking flowers and a small stuffed animal, but that's too cliche, right!? She's thoughtful, sweet, but also pragmatic, so I am assuming she is going to expect a little something. What to do, and what to get her?
Keenly Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Can't go wrong with one of the millions of versions of teddy bears man.
BrokenPrincess Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Can't go wrong with one of the millions of versions of teddy bears man. Flowers are good...you could also do a nice potted plant (tulips, mini rose bushes) instead of a bouquet. Teddy bear- no How about chocolate covered strawberries instead? Cook dinner? Any idea yet of her taste in movies? Maybe a DVD you can watch together that night? 2
tbf Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 You might be surprised at how much pragmatic women enjoy flowers. *points to self* 3
Mrlonelyone Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Yes, by the time of valentines day you will have been dating for a month so a gift of some kind is appropriate. However there is the fact that you will have only been dating for a month. Don't go overboard. A simple bouquet and a bear might be good. V-day has a way of making people focus on weather they really like someone or not. If they really like you the gift will be well recieved. If not then it won't.
Cutiepie1976 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Ages? I wouldn't do a teddy bear post-college. How about dinner? Gourmet chocolates? I had dated a guy twice before Valentine's last year. He got me flowers, chocolate-covered strawberries, a card, and took me out for a very nice dinner. I was happy. I fed him strawberries as we cuddled, kissed, and chatted on the couch after dinner. He was happy. 1
newmoon Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 small box of chocolates and a potted plant. teddy bears = kinda childish depending on her age. send to her work = stalker. give it to her on your valentine's day date or close to.
tbf Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 As far as ditching the bear, take a look at her living space. Does she like sentimental knick-knacks? If not, do ditch the bear.
MsSmurf Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 After only a month of dating someone I'd be a little creeped out if a guy sent me something at work (unless he also worked there and that's how we knew each other). Also teddy bears are a little junior high to me, so if you're both adults I'd skip that idea too. OP, I think you should plan a simple but romantic date.... if you're pretty handy in the kitchen this would be a good opportunity to cook for her or opt for an inexpensive, but nice restaurant. Then when you pick her up a gift of flowers (anything but roses, they're so overdone) or a box of chocolates will be very thoughtful.
candie13 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 dear skylark100, do you expect her to get you something too ? just askin'...
todreaminblue Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I think cooking dinner for a woman is a wonderful gift, fresh flowers are classic and i dont think flowers are ever out of style...so anything that smells good, cooking, flowers,living plants, bonsai, herbs,chocky...all good...deb
sb129 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Flowers- you have a range of options too, you don't have to go all out and do the big bouquet of a dozen red roses. I love receiving flowers. Going out or having dinner cooked for me would also be nice. I would be creeped out by a teddy bear.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Fowers, too early. Teddy bear. Queer. If you live in a city where there is a Godiva chocolate shop, pick out a dew choice truffles. Don't buy an already boxed pound of candy. That is rich but impersonal. You're very new and that shows you understand proportion and won't embarrass her if she doesn't feel as strongly about you as you'd like or has someone else giving her those showy gifts. Get that little token to her surreptitiously if you can by having a trusted third party put it out of grand sight on her desk (if you work near her) it's nicer to find something not ostentatious on your desk from someone you're on the cusp with where as handing her three truffles in person makes you look like a cheap skate. But if you can't manage that and have to give it to her yourself, make it a half dozen (and not the prepackaged ones). Get them loose in the little shopping bag that shows you chose them because you wanted to be sweet to her without buying her off with some prepackaged box anyone else can buy. Making it small shows you're in proportion for how much you know each other. Don't embarrass her and don't over feed her with a bound of prepackaged chocolate.
Silly_Girl Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I would be uncomfortable with a gift so early on but happy to go for something quirky to eat, or something Valentines-appropriate at the cinema etc.
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