Estate Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Hey folks, So I'm wondering if anyone else experiences this. When I was younger, and I met a girl, I'd be really really happy and look to meet up again with her. But as I've gotten older and gone through more relationships, I find I don't anymore. When I meet someone it's rare that I'm instantly attracted to them. I mean, if they are pretty and/or really nice or something then I'm attracted but not *really*. I guess I need to get to know them a bit before I do or don't begin to really like them, I'm not sure. The thing is, I've dated some really great girls and always ended up disappointed and feel nowadays like it just takes a lot to make me really into someone else. It's not a case of not being over previous relationship, I want to meet someone really special. But I've gotten a lot of numbers and gone on a lot of dates recently and while they were all nice, nobody made me go "I MUST see her again". which I would have felt in the past. Last night even, I was out and met 2 different girls and got their numbers during the night, both were really nice, fun, and attractive but today when I think of calling them I'm just feeling *meh*. I don't know what it is. Maybe I'm becoming more choosy now that I'm learning to meet more people... or maybe I just need to give someone a chance. I'd really like to meet someone great but I can't figure it out. I don't know if I'm being too choosy or if I'm right to not go after someone I'm not instantly head over heels for.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I am in exactly the same boat Giving someone a chance seems like such a chore.
Green Light Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I'm there as well. Sometimes I'll be out in public and I'll look at women and find none of them attractive. Of course some of them really are attractive but just not to me. It's not even a picky thing. Everyone just seems so bland to me now. Maybe I'm entering a phase where I'm more attracted to a woman's mind. There is nothing like when you have that mental connection with someone on the same wavelength. That is very, very sexy and rare. The problem is that I'm so strange that it's hard to find a woman that I can "click" with. I find most people to be very bland.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I'm there as well. Sometimes I'll be out in public and I'll look at women and find none of them attractive. Of course some of them really are attractive but just not to me. It's not even a picky thing. Everyone just seems so bland to me now. Maybe I'm entering a phase where I'm more attracted to a woman's mind. There is nothing like when you have that mental connection with someone on the same wavelength. That is very, very sexy and rare. The problem is that I'm so strange that it's hard to find a woman that I can "click" with. I find most people to be very bland. Ditto....,,,
ChessPieceFace Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Sounds about right OP. I'm so disinterested I don't even bother looking anymore. Try not to fall into that one, unless you're sure you'd be happy alone (I doubt almost anyone is 100% happy alone.) Another thing is that I need to know a girl for a long time, for me to feel any emotional connection. But that runs contrary to female nature (you get friend-zoned.)
SmileFace Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I kind of don't want to agree - since I really don't want to write my own future. If that makes sense. However I kind of understand the disinterested feeling. Believe me I am more happy single than in faux relationships or even establishing a relationship. But I really don't get my self and don't know what I want - so I know that plays a big part.
Green Light Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 But I really don't get my self and don't know what I want - so I know that plays a big part. I know myself and what I want but it seems like it doesn't exist anymore. People these days seem so "stiff." I would have probably fared better back in the 1960s and 70s.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I feel like I am emotionally shutting down more and more. The other night I went out with my friend and just freezed all the guys out. On dating sites, even responding to an email seems like too much effort. It's like I can see being alone forever and it doesn't make me unhappy.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I can't find what I want and what is available, I do not want. Not to mention that even the thought of starting a relationship fills me with dread.
Green Light Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I feel like I am emotionally shutting down more and more. Yep, I am exhausted myself. Been through it all, can't find that connection that I am looking for. People these days seem so shallow. Nobody understands. Nobody has any imagination. Listening to Joy Division helps though! 1
Bristolius Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Kind of feel the same way. At least we'll always have Loveshack™
Green Light Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Kind of feel the same way. At least we'll always have Loveshack™ And music...it keeps me sane! Like Jim Morrison said: "Music is your only friend until the end"
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