royallyinspired Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 So I was with this girl, I'd never liked anyone as much as her. She said she loved me, whether she did or not I don't know. Long story short, she left me for a mate. Me and my mate talked and I just had to accept it. Couldn't be bothered for arguments with him. I begged her to think about what she was doing but she didn't care and I was so depressed. So I kind of get over her and then we hook up again at a party. It reignites feelings but she doesn't feel the same. We carry on talking and get really close. I knew it wasn't going to work so I moved on. I'm with a girl now who I really like, we're taking things more seriously than i have done before and i can't say im not happy. But my ex who i talk to all the time wants me back. We consider each other best friends as we talk about everything. If she had told me this before I would have taken her back despite her treating me like **** in the past. I really like the girl I'm with and my best mate tells me I'm stupid to even talk to my ex. Deep down I know I should forget my ex, but I just can't. So I don't know what to do.
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I'm with a girl now who I really like, we're taking things more seriously than i have done before and i can't say im not happy. But my ex who i talk to all the time wants me back. We consider each other best friends as we talk about everything. If she had told me this before I would have taken her back despite her treating me like **** in the past. I really like the girl I'm with and my best mate tells me I'm stupid to even talk to my ex. He's absolutely right and bang on the money. How rude and disrespectful are you to your new GF - ?! Does she know you and your ex- are still close? You cannot ever have a friendship with someone for whom you have intimate feelings. If you still love/want your ex, then you cannot be friends with her. You can't. Period. Deep down I know I should forget my ex, but I just can't. So I don't know what to do. You break up with your current GF. And try again with your ex. If you don't feel that's a viable proposition, then actually, you Do. You know EXACTLY what to do. Go complete, total and thorough across-the-board No Contact with your ex. Your behaviour is pretty low, and frankly, you need to grow a spine. It might be doing your Ego a pile of good to have two women with feelings for you, but your actions are really unfair and yes, completely stupid. You cannot have a friendship with someone until you feel completely INDIFFERENT to them. See her in the arms of another man. "See" her having sex, and pregnant with his baby. And think, in any scenario, "Meh... yeah, and....? So what?" Happy for her, but really, don't give a damn. Until then, you have to sever all connections with her Right across the board. And prevent her in the same way, of connecting with you, in any way shape form size or dimension. Get to it, loverboy. Man up and stop being a dick to your current GF. 6
soccerrprp Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Remember how your ex treated you? Why would you want that again or reward that behavior? You're with someone who is better for you, don't be a moron and lose sight of that. You're missing the good you had with your ex, but there was bad and that bad pulled the two of you apart. Either respectfully let your current ex go and take your chances with your ex that didn't work out or give this current friend a chance and see what a healthier relationship may look like. 1
Lois Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 I think your ex wants you back because you are with someone else. It's a control thing. If she succeeds, she'll dump you on your backside. Again. 1
soccerrprp Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Remember how your ex treated you? Why would you want that again or reward that behavior? You're with someone who is better for you, don't be a moron and lose sight of that. You're missing the good you had with your ex, but there was bad and that bad pulled the two of you apart. Either respectfully let your current ex go and take your chances with your ex that didn't work out or give this current friend a chance and see what a healthier relationship may look like. How ironic that I'm quoting myself.....I pray that I will not have to deal with this very thing. I know how I would fare, but the event itself will or would not be pleasant by any stretch of the imagination.
Waz Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Remind yourself how bad you were feeling when the break-up happened. Plus, remember that your ex left you for someone else. It doesn't mean that she doesn't have feelings for you, but it happened. I suggest you to be fair. You are with a girl now and you know you are happy, she also has feelings for you. But you also have feelings for the ex. It's pretty normal. Don't know your story, but i think you already had some time with your ex, you know her character etc. The new girl, doesn't have her shot yet, it would be unfair to destroy this chance, firstly for you and secondly for her. You have to be fair with them and with yourself. And also you should have self-respect, i mean that ok, she broke up with you, she tasted some other relationship. But you also have your chance now, why do you want to destroy it ? Because your ex now wants you back? Remember that she already had a chance with someone else but it didn't work. And now what? Because she's done, you think you may return? You don't deserve other chances with other persons too? Anyway, if i were you, i would try the things with the new girlfriend. If you ex really loves you, she must respect that, as you respected her decision to break up and try something new, back to the past. Who knows what will happen in the future. Times change, people realize. If there is enough love between you, maybe there will be other chance later, or maybe you will realize that the current girl is far more suitable for you. But for now, i think you should keep this relationship with this girl, as i understand she haven't done anything wrong, so it would be unfair to treat her like that. And maybe you will regret it later. Better to be sure about something, than to have doubts, common sense
Author royallyinspired Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Harsh. But I guess you're right. Cheers.
Sugarkane Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Why does your ex care now? I say bad luck to the ex, that's the chance she took and she did it. When your ex left there was always the possiblity that you would go on to date someone else. Move on.
Quest4_TheLost Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Your playing with major fire here.. Your messing with a chick who not only left you for somone else, but that someone else was YOUR FRIEND! That is so trashy! This bestfriend of yours backstabbed you! Forgiveness is a wonderful thing, but that dosen't mean putting yourself back in the same situation to get stabbed again. Your taking this slowly and more seriously with the new girl? You can't be taking it that serious if your considering a second chance with this trashy ex of yours. If the new girl catches wind of all this, she isn't going to be happy about it.If it were me I would see it as a huge RED FLAG and run for the hills. You have this potential for a great relationship with someone who hasn't hurt you. You eat chicken everyday you love chicken!! Your comfortable with chicken. Latley the chicken has been dry but you still love your chicken. Today we have fresh steak on the menu the best cuts! GO FOR THE STEAK!! Or forever be known as (CHICKEN BOY!!)
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