girlonfire1 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I have not dated in years, and was finally convinced to meet a man from a dating site. It was a whirlwind of chemistry and passion. We had it all over 2 weeks. He continuously said how happy he was and how he finally found someone who he related to . He had met my children, and told his daughter about me and how happy he was. I was completely taken off guard with this romance. It is very difficult for me to find a man who can keep up . I am in business and need to relate to similar. He left my home one afternoon, kissing me and telling me he would shave and be back that evening . All was perfect. That night, I got a text telling me he would see me in the morning ...Something was wrong. Later in a phone call I initiated. He told me he was reconciling with his wife. and to not contact him again .. WHAT !! Did I trust to soon, Should I not have told him i had not dated in years. Does reconciling really work ? Too bad.....we had it all !! Shocked.!!
Amelie1980 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 2 weeks? You trusted way too soon. I didn't start trusting until about 3-4 months in and even then...
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 He reconciled with his wife because she found out and issued an immediate and direct ultimatum. She 'made him an offer he couldn't refuse'. Reconciliatioon can - and does - work. But if the couple is wise, there is counselling, soul-searching and cold hard facts and harsh truths discussed. But they never forget. And there's no doubt that an affair changes a marital dynamic. If a man says he's separated, the best thing to ask him is to wait until the divorce comes through. If he says he's divorced - ask to see the papers. And meet his ex. There's no harm in meeting them, if their marriage is over and water under the bridge, is there? Excuses = cover-up, more often than not......
Author girlonfire1 Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 So right, I did trust WAY to soon, in hindsight. What I have noticed through this is ...It's time for me to get back to me. While this romance did not work , it sure did give me a smile, remembering what it's like to date. So, I will do it again...but this time all will be different. For this , I thank him ~ Thank you ..
geegirl Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I wonder if he was already married. Maybe wife was away for awhile. Upon her return, he had to abruptly make an exit.
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Of course he was already married. It says so in her first post.... I am not sure I understand your 'question', myself....
geegirl Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Of course he was already married. It says so in her first post.... I am not sure I understand your 'question', myself.... There was no question. I was thinking out loud. No need to confuse yourself. Reconciling to me read separated or divorced versus "happily married" while dating other women.
Author girlonfire1 Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 He said he was divorced. And I should add, apparently just had buyers for the very large homestead on the lake, the cars, the boats..etc. They both could have had second thoughts of what would be lost. I did see his apartment, which had all his clothes. I thought it got easier as you got older.. Funny thing ...Although I am confused, I thought I was a good judge of character. Now , to be the best I can be !! FOR ME ~~ Jsut because you're an executive , doesn't mean you have it together in this area.........but learning quick. ! Funny, I am happy somehow. !!
Samilia Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 That reminds me of this guy I had been on a few dates with, he was divorcing. One day he invites me over saying not to worry about his apartment, it was a mess because they were "splitting" the furniture and goods. He was moving to a new job. I get there, and I notice pictures of the "ex wife" on the wall still, I find it weird, to say the least. Next thing I know the guy gets pushy about having sex, I say no. He then gets a phone call and I get a glimpse of the caller's name (a woman, don't remember the name). He then rushes me to the door saying that his in laws are on the way (his wife, of course). I assume they really were moving, surely not divorcing, he made up a divorce story. I never bothered contacting the wife or calling him an arshole. Funny story. 1
2sunny Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I think you seem to have a healthy attitude. Did you meet his friends and/ or family?
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