trevjim Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 so my ex is in a new relationship after me and the dynamics and infrastructure of the relationship seems like a rebound but her behavior does not. we where togeather 2.5 years, living tograther, engaged, she had a lil boy who is 3 who called me daddy. I ended the relationship as we argued too much, I regret that noe and feel I should of been more mature about it but that's a differant story. the day of me moving out she contacts an ex on her facebook, I know beacause she left it signed in and it popped up. ( she dated him for 6 months before getting with the child's dad, she cheated on him back then. however they where friends growing up as toddlers so have a connection throught that) I move out and the next day he is at the house, I confront her and he is 'just being a friend' over the next few weeks they still see each other and we also had sex once, I ask her if she has done anything with him and she says no, do you love him? ' no but we have a strong friendship that could build love on it' I unfortunately beg and plead her etc, she ends up staying with him and denying me access to my son. we have been LC since christmas now, I've met her twice to discuss bills and pick up post etc and we have been civil and she apologized about how fast she got with him after me, she told me he makes her 'incredibly happy and relaxes her' he is moving in after 2 months of being with her. also she told me he wants to try for a baby soon as the boy makes him broody. on one hand it screams rebound, the speed, the timing, the fact she could of been with him at any point as her is a bit of a ' desperate' one also he will treat her like a princess as she is way out of his league, yet she only got with him when I ended it yet on the other, she seems 'happy' and since being with him has not tried to contact me in anyway other that Bills (she told me how she feels about him when we got chatting about stuff after talking bills through) surley if he was a rebound she would try and keep me after her?
fancy feast Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 the day of me moving out she contacts an ex on her facebook, I know beacause she left it signed in and it popped up. ( she dated him for 6 months before getting with the child's dad, she cheated on him back then. however they where friends growing up as toddlers so have a connection throught that) My cynical first impression is that he's getting played like a chump, but whatever. It's not your problem, so just do what you have to do to move on in the meantime.
Author trevjim Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 My cynical first impression is that he's getting played like a chump, but whatever. It's not your problem, so just do what you have to do to move on in the meantime. yup I'm sure he is being played and I am on strict N/C she did say I can text and ask after the child anytime, which is like to do but I havnt because I need to move on from them.
Keenly Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 You broke up with her man. I hate to say it but whether or not its a rebound or not, what can you do?
Author trevjim Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 You broke up with her man. I hate to say it but whether or not its a rebound or not, what can you do? I can do nothing, could end up being the biggest mistake of my life, I could of dodged a bullet, time will tell and I'm leaving her to get on with life. I am just curious because I don't buy her new relationship. I know its none of my business anymore and I can only see from the outside but it just doesnt seem right to me and I just wanted other opinions incase my feelings for her are clouding mine
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