flitzanu Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 hahah. so...yes this really was a fluke and i wasn't "looking" for validation on this one. i just need everyone to repeat what i say to them, about how it doesn't MEAN ANYTHING. as some of you know, fb has an "other" mailbox now, it's emails from people not on your friends list, spam, etc. i check mine randomly from time to time, because i do hear from people not on my lists. to the point, my ex from 2010 blocked me in early 2011 (before i knew that blocking was the best move for ME to do, but her page is private anyway and i couldn't see any of it to begin with). if you don't know, if someone is blocked, they show up as "facebook user" and are unclickable. there's an old email in there, i'd moved it because i'm stupid and sentimental, and i didn't want to see it in my normal list. well, lo and behold, after two years, it shows up as her, and is clickable. i'm thinking it's a fluke, as things happen with fb, so i checked an old pic of me and a friend that she had commented on, and yep...full name and clickable. no...i did not click, and did not snoop. i was a little taken aback though, that after 2 years she would ever go back and make the move to unblock me. i know it means absolutely nothing at all, and i'm mostly just shaking my head about it, but everyone, remind me again, that IT MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AND TO NOT EVEN CONCERN MYSELF WITH IT!!! yes, i'm human, and not as cold as i may seem, hahah.
hinatticus Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Hey flitz Ya fb is nothing to concern yourself with as you already know.
Amelia81 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I would say after two years it doesnt mean anything, like i think you know. Its probably more the shock thats wobbled you. Last september i left my old job and was clearing emails. I found some emails in a random folder to a man who broke my heart two years prior. I am over him but it really shocked me to see his name as i thought id removed everything relating to him from my life at the time of BU. I did actually read them. He wasnt a nice person and i was cringing reading what both of us were writing. Cant believe i couldnt see it at the time! Made me realise how far ive come actually and how well rid of him i am. They then got deleted immediately. You could always block her so she doesnt pop up randomly again. I have exes blocked so if we have mutual fbook friends i dont see them commenting on stuff and hearing about their lives. Im just not interested.
na49 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 My ex unblocked me after 2 months. So I blocked her. 4
thembones Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 In the back of your mind, you want it to mean something. Or at least you are now more curious about it (obviously). I'll post as you've usually responded to my similar posts.. It doesn't mean anything. You are looking way too far into it. You're grasping for anything to make yourself believe it might actually mean something. It may just be a mistake or a misclick.
denxnis Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 My ex unblocked me after 2 months. So I blocked her. Hahahahaha I love this ^^^^^^ .
TaraMaiden Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 My ex unblocked me after 2 months. So I blocked her. ^^This^^, Flitz. we know, you an' me.... right? hang in there hun, I'm on your side. ((Hugs)). 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 hahah. so...yes this really was a fluke and i wasn't "looking" for validation on this one. i just need everyone to repeat what i say to them, about how it doesn't MEAN ANYTHING. as some of you know, fb has an "other" mailbox now, it's emails from people not on your friends list, spam, etc. i check mine randomly from time to time, because i do hear from people not on my lists. to the point, my ex from 2010 blocked me in early 2011 (before i knew that blocking was the best move for ME to do, but her page is private anyway and i couldn't see any of it to begin with). if you don't know, if someone is blocked, they show up as "facebook user" and are unclickable. there's an old email in there, i'd moved it because i'm stupid and sentimental, and i didn't want to see it in my normal list. well, lo and behold, after two years, it shows up as her, and is clickable. i'm thinking it's a fluke, as things happen with fb, so i checked an old pic of me and a friend that she had commented on, and yep...full name and clickable. no...i did not click, and did not snoop. i was a little taken aback though, that after 2 years she would ever go back and make the move to unblock me. i know it means absolutely nothing at all, and i'm mostly just shaking my head about it, but everyone, remind me again, that IT MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AND TO NOT EVEN CONCERN MYSELF WITH IT!!! yes, i'm human, and not as cold as i may seem, hahah. OMG HE HAS A SOUL!!!! Hahaha kidding of course. My friend, you have more self restraint than I do. I would have clicked it out of just being incredibly nosey. 1
Author flitzanu Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 thanks everyone. sounds stupid, but sometimes i just need to HEAR it from someone other than myself. it just makes me more curious than anything though, because i know it means ZERO. but after nearly two years of total silence and this girl totally hating me and yelling at me in public last time we spoke, i was more taken aback than anything. plus my page is private, so there isn't much point in someone trying to stalk me anyway, so there really is no "motive" which is why again, it just doesn't matter and doesn't mean anything. no, wait, honestly, the only thing i can perceive it MIGHT mean, is that she is finally maturing and not being such a childish immature brat. but sometimes i give people too much credit.
Ajax Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 no, wait, honestly, the only thing i can perceive it MIGHT mean, is that she is finally maturing and not being such a childish immature brat. but sometimes i give people too much credit. Maybe after two years she has matured. I know, I know... probably not:confused: I've been told my ex has matured in the 2 1/2 years since we last spoke. My reaction was "Meh. The proof's in the pudding." Pertaining to Facebook. My opinion is that it doesn't mean anything. If someone were to look at my activity on the ol' Bookface they'd probably get the impression that I'm closest to people who I'm only peripherally associated with. On social media I interact mostly with those people. I like them fine, but they're not a major part of my life. Now for those who I'm really close to, I call them or see them on a regular basis, which means I don't need Facebook to have a relationship with them. Most of my interactions on Facebook are pretty meaningless. 1
HARPER100 Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 FB changed the privacy settings back in December. Probably just a result of this BBC News - Facebook changes privacy settings
Author flitzanu Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 Maybe after two years she has matured. I know, I know... probably not:confused: I've been told my ex has matured in the 2 1/2 years since we last spoke. My reaction was "Meh. The proof's in the pudding." Pertaining to Facebook. My opinion is that it doesn't mean anything. If someone were to look at my activity on the ol' Bookface they'd probably get the impression that I'm closest to people who I'm only peripherally associated with. On social media I interact mostly with those people. I like them fine, but they're not a major part of my life. Now for those who I'm really close to, I call them or see them on a regular basis, which means I don't need Facebook to have a relationship with them. Most of my interactions on Facebook are pretty meaningless. that's pretty true for me as well. it tends to be more communication with people i'm not in the vicinity of, as opposed to local friends. and yeah, hahah. proof is in the pudding for sure. so far i've got a good track record of exes apologizing years later after they've realized the crappy paths they've taken, but this one felt pretty slighted, so i'm not expecting any amends any time soon. but oh well
Author flitzanu Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 FB changed the privacy settings back in December. Probably just a result of this BBC News - Facebook changes privacy settings that was settings on viewing photos and posts and tags and such, those changes don't erase blocked lists. it didn't change any of mine or remove people from my blocked list.
sharkbite Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 its not stupid at all to just want to hear it from someone else that your doing the right thing even when you know you are. Its just confirmation on a difficult situation, I need to hear it all the time to help me stay NC (which btw is 2 months next week) often times your brain can get cloudy.......it helps to hear your doing the right thing.....keep it up..........things will workout for the better in time. You know this.....you've responded to my posts, thanks for your help and I hope this message eased your mind for the time being. JUST KEEP TRUDGIN!
Author flitzanu Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 its not stupid at all to just want to hear it from someone else that your doing the right thing even when you know you are. Its just confirmation on a difficult situation, I need to hear it all the time to help me stay NC (which btw is 2 months next week) often times your brain can get cloudy.......it helps to hear your doing the right thing.....keep it up..........things will workout for the better in time. You know this.....you've responded to my posts, thanks for your help and I hope this message eased your mind for the time being. JUST KEEP TRUDGIN! thanks it's true though, i talk a big game, but i'm TERRIBLE at following my own advice! hahah.
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