What is this chick trying to do?

January 26, 2013

I recently joined a new company and met this virgo chick, who’s like me. She’s an intelligent girl and notices stuff. We have common friends. We talked once or twice for the first two months but then she asked for my number so that she could msg me and we could go down to smoke. We were already facebook friends. We both were in complicated relationships and would try to help each other out about our relationships. She’d flirt with me often and touch me front of people gently.

Then there was this office party. I never told her I had a crush on her but went for the party. I asked her to fix me up with some girl in the party and she tried but I had been pretending to be interested in someone else. We both got really drunk in the party and I didn't pursue the girl I said I’d like to.

Through the party she flirted with me. Caught me when I was alone when some girl wasnt trying to talk to me. We both then ended up kissing. She then had to leave because her ride was there. I was drunk and tried calling her when she left. She didn't pick up or msg back. She said she was way too drunk and didn't rem the night before but apparently she picked up her boss’s call later at night. Next day was a holiday and she messaged me the next day then saying whats up. People in the office spread the rumour around of what happened between us. But we continued talking.

Btw I’m a cancer.

I started ignoring her. She did too. We’d message each other often before but then things changed even before the kiss. I remember she’d kind off get throat struck when I’d tell her that I’m going for a movie with some girl I kind of fancied. We stopped messaging frequently. I decided to stop talking to her and told her She said fine but why. She asked me a few times and I stated that we’re foolish and we’d end up kissing again when we are so complicated already. We both said it was a mistake and she said it wouldn't happen again.

Then there was the Christmas party, where I had a fight with somebody and one of my group members, senior one got up to defend me, not the one she I feel crushed on.

I had made a decently close friends circle of the four of us. Then after the fight when things cooled, I told them (the virgo and friend, not the one i think she’s hitting on) that I had told someone in the office about the kiss. After the fight that night both of them decided not to talk to me. I apologized to them but to no avail. I have restless leg syndrome so take clonazepam and so the guy who stood up to fight for me said won’t talk to me, until I stop talking those pills. I didn’t. He stopped taking. Just the usual hi when we’d pass in the office.

I tried talking to the girl but she wouldn’t pick up or message back.

Now she began to ignore me completely in front of everyone in the office. Since I handle important clients in my office, my name goes around in the office. People obviously noticed.

One day, got bugged and messaged her in the office that I need to speak to her because things were getting weird with people’s reaction to me after the rumour, but she never replied or picked up the call. Then I saw her and asked her to speak to me. She did for a few minutes but she had to leave with that crushing guy in a office cab. She said fine we’ll talk tomo over a cig. But as soon as the guy came she said she doesn't want to talk but in some time. I messaged her she replied she doesn’t want to talk because she wants to eliminate some people in her life and that how she works.

So I told her that she has a crush on the other guy and that's why she’s trying to make it look as if I’ve done something wrong to her when she messaged and I replied she messaged as soon as the guy was off the cab.

We both sit far apart. But now after telling her of being weird since that guy, she makes me jealous or that what I think. She’ll purposely mention that she’s going with him to some cab guy when I’m some where around. She’ll talk to the other guy when she’d see me at her opp side. Since then she’d talk to the guy but in such a way that I can see her talking to him over the cabins. If I ignore her esp with that guy and she’d see me and I’d turn and go somewhere else. Very few ways you can go in the office, she’d come behind me with that guy talking to him loudly and knowing that I’m in front and trying to get away. She’s purposefully mention things like that I hope you’re travelling with me in the cab with that guy when I’m close. I’ve noticed her looking at me straight into my eyes after we had stopped talking. I’ve noticed that she notices me when I’m around and has to take a second before she can carry on talking when addressing her seniors in official matters. Since endearing myself to everyone in the office I often go to her side.

She'd talk loudly whenever she is near my seat. The cafeteria is near my seat. I’ve noticed that she notices me when I’m around and has to take a second before she can carry on talking when addressing her seniors in official matters. Since endearing myself to everyone in the office I often go to her side just opp.

I always thought she liked a guy in our small group( 3 guys, one girl).

I know the other guy finds her hot so i told her once. I started thinking that maybe they both like each there so i'd let them be alone and not go for that smoke when it was the three of us. I dont know if she likes him.

She has been going through a bad break up and her home scene isn't fine. She's deactivated her facebook account. She decided to move out of her house. Which normally shouldn't be the case or is thinking of. Her very close friend and mine said that give her time or something.

I told her its ok if we don't talk or message or go for a smoke but atleast not the conspicuous ignoring. I said that lets be professional and just say the customary hi if we pass across each other. She did that before and i thought she wanted to talk. It was after new years. So i messaged her saying she confused me and thought she wanted to talk and asked her if she wanted to, and that i won't entertain you anymore so she said yes she never wants to speak to me and that i dont have to entertain her. Her last msg said that, no she has her own way of handling things. That is keeping some in her life and eliminating some. She can't fake being colleague friends and it isn't personal. I wonder how it isn't? Its her choice she said.

What is this Virgo chick trying to do?

About me - I'm a writer. I'm highly neurotic and pedantic. Master in Eng, PGD. I'm fairly observant and fond of poetry, Jung, Camus, Dostoevsky. Highly neurotic with a wild imagination. I don't even know for sure if she likes that guy but it seems like that. She'll touch him too. Come sit at his desk. Though she mostly never goes for a smoke alone with him but in a group. We often went together to smoke alone. She had once said that she liked going for a smoke alone but she’d come with me or whatever. I don't what to make of it.

It'd be nice if someone could tell me whats going on. I'm new to forum posting on Loveshack. Thank you for the help everyone. I'm just getting so distracted at work because of this and its affecting me.

Edited January 26, 2013 by baldrick'swater

January 26, 2013

I recently joined a new company and met this virgo chick' date=' [/quote']

Btw I’m a cancer.

I don't what to make of it.

So what does your horoscope say?

January 26, 2013

God that was brutal to try and read. I couldn't make it through even half. What little I did gather aside from a headache is that you put way too much emphasis on astrological signs, its just silly. Really silly! Secondly, its obvious you love drama.

January 26, 2013

So what does your horoscope say?

I mentioned Virgo because she is shy sometimes and needs a lot of space. I dont follow the signs as a rule and neither have i checked it out. I dont think the answer to this 'question' will be in the horoscopes.

January 26, 2013

God that was brutal to try and read. I couldn't make it through even half. What little I did gather aside from a headache is that you put way too much emphasis on astrological signs, its just silly. Really silly!

For the astrological thing as i've mentioned above was to help explain the type of girl she was because i'm not good at reading people esp since i know her for just 4 months now.

Secondly, its obvious you love drama

I don't know where you got that from?

January 26, 2013

I thought things like these were meant to complicated. Sorry for the headache inducing long post. But i had hoped for someone advice rather than be ridiculed. But nonetheless criticisms are always welcome .

January 26, 2013

Yes i'm not the best writer out there or maybe the situation is silly but its just as real and bothering to me as it is to read my post for you. If you do have any advice on how to understand this situation, it'd be great.

January 26, 2013

I thought things like these were meant to complicated. Sorry for the headache inducing long post. But i had hoped for someone advice rather than be ridiculed. But nonetheless criticisms are always welcome .

Ridiculed? Geeze, tough up a little.

No, things aren't suppose to be so complicated. And it did read like a junior high school soap opera.

January 26, 2013

For the astrological thing as i've mentioned above was to help explain the type of girl she was because i'm not good at reading people esp since i know her for just 4 months now.

Astrological signs don't help explain anything except that you believe the sun and stars define personality. If you don't then there is even less of a point in mentioning it.

I don't know where you got that from?

Easy. This is drama and instead of walking away or shrugging it off, you're posting on a forum about it. Better yet, you created a good part of it.

And it is an incredibly difficult post to read. I'm not sure half of what's in there is relevant to the story.

January 26, 2013

Ridiculed? Geeze, tough up a little.

Haha yes.

No, things aren't suppose to be so complicated. And it did read like a junior high school soap opera.

Call me ignorant but i didn't get the high school opera metaphor. Does it mean I'm acting silly? Does it mean that i'm immature or she is or both of us are?

I did want to know whether she had any feelings for me.

January 26, 2013

I felt bad so I went back and read it, in It's entirety.

She's a bytch, that enjoys playing games. Jealously appears to be her favorite.

Why would you tell her the other guy thinks she's hot? Have even told her that you think she's hot?

Why flirt and kiss eachother if you were both in relationships, albeit troubled ones. That spells drama!

She obviously has some issues, don't make excuses that her home life is difficult. She's likely just a hot mess, maybe that's what you are most attracted to.

January 26, 2013

Astrological signs don't help explain anything except that you believe the sun and stars define personality. If you don't then there is even less of a point in mentioning it.

Easy. This is drama and instead of walking away or shrugging it off, you're posting on a forum about it. Better yet, you created a good part of it.

But i like this girl. And the drama you mean? Because of the fight? Or because i told this one guy whom i trusted in the office about the kiss. I didnt tell anyone else. Especially my group. I didn't spread the rumour. Some one else did. I told the guy about the kiss much later - if that's what you're mentioning as creating drama. I dont kiss and tell. Not that immature in that way.

And it is an incredibly difficult post to read. I'm not sure half of what's in there is relevant to the story.

Sorry i thought i'd mention all the details. Didn't know what to take as imp and not and by that you can make out how much of a fool i am when it comes to women or people.

January 26, 2013

I felt bad so I went back and read it, in It's entirety.

Thank you so much.

She's a bytch, that enjoys playing games. Jealously appears to be her favorite.

Is she actually making me jealous or am i building it up in my head? Ive noticed all this.

Why would you tell her the other guy thinks she's hot? Have even told her that you think she's hot?

Because if she liked him then i would have stepped away. Btw i came to know of this days after the party. No i haven't. I told her she looks pretty in an off hand way. I'm shy that way.

Why flirt and kiss eachother if you were both in relationships, albeit troubled ones. That spells drama!

Both of us are out of those relationships that were dead by then and no more now.

She obviously has some issues, don't make excuses that her home life is difficult. She's likely just a hot mess, maybe that's what you are most attracted to.

Why make excuses on a forum? She is marriage age and in Indian conservative families they expect a 27 yr old female to be married. But she isn't ready so its a little screwed up for her. No excuses. I just didnt want to mention all this stuff which i thought was irrelevant to me and hence the home life thing.

January 26, 2013

I mentioned Virgo because she is shy sometimes and needs a lot of space. I dont follow the signs as a rule and neither have i checked it out. I dont think the answer to this 'question' will be in the horoscopes.

Glad to hear it.

Do you want to date her? Ask her out on a date. Sounds like more drama than I care for, but maybe she's worth it.

January 26, 2013

Do you want to date her? Ask her out on a date. Sounds like more drama than I care for, but maybe she's worth it.

I guess what i wrote was some drivel that no one could read through. She doesnt want to speak to me ever. We dont talk anymore but i'm still trying to understand the situation through this forum's experienced members.

January 26, 2013

What situation? That she sent you a move on message after you told her you wouldn't entertain her any more. Stop wasting your time.

January 26, 2013

What situation? That she sent you a move on message after you told her you wouldn't entertain her any more. Stop wasting your time.

Yeah thats what i am doing but the thing is that since she has conspicuously started ignoring me, its becoming a little awkward for me in the office. People are noticing it esp after the rumor and now now talking, it seems pretty weird. In turn i'm getting a few weird reactions from people. And also if she ever liked me? is she trying to make me jealous? Why does she talk loudly when coming near my seat. Her seat is 20 metres. Why the loudness always there?

January 26, 2013

That's what happens when you get involved with coworkers..

Guess I was wrong, she isn't trying to make you jealous, she's just doing it to pisss you off.

January 26, 2013

I guess what i wrote was some drivel that no one could read through. She doesnt want to speak to me ever. We dont talk anymore but i'm still trying to understand the situation through this forum's experienced members.

Ahh, sorry. I read some of it and kinda lost focus somewhere and only skimmed the rest.

If she doesn't want to talk to you then she isn't interested (you probably get that!) and it's just not worth doing a post-mortem of something that wasn't even a relationship. There could be 27 different reasons why.

January 26, 2013

is she trying to make me jealous? Why does she talk loudly when coming near my seat. Her seat is 20 metres. Why the loudness always there?

Not to make you jealous, but just to get a reaction out of you. She either likes the attention or knows you like her and wants to rub in the point that she's there and you can't have her. It all sounds very middle school, apart from the bit where you say this is in the workplace.

January 26, 2013

That's what happens when you get involved with coworkers..

Guess I was wrong, she isn't trying to make you jealous, she's just doing it to pisss you off.

Yes, this. ^

January 26, 2013

That's what happens when you get involved with coworkers..

Guess I was wrong, she isn't trying to make you jealous, she's just doing it to pisss you off.

She isn't a girl who'd want to do that, i.e. piss me off. And its more like she's trying to get attention. Thats what i think.

January 26, 2013

She isn't a girl who'd want to do that' date=' i.e. piss me off. And its more like she's trying to get attention. Thats what i think.[/quote']

Call her out on it, then.

January 26, 2013

She isn't a girl who'd want to do that' date=' i.e. piss me off. And its more like she's trying to get attention. Thats what i think.[/quote']

Maybe get a rise out of you would have been more accurate, whatever the reason, its.obviously working. Get out and talk to some other girls. Or keep doing what doing and see where it leads.

January 26, 2013

Not to make you jealous, but just to get a reaction out of you. She either likes the attention or knows you like her and wants to rub in the point that she's there and you can't have her.

Yeah i thought she wanted attention too.

and you can't have her. It all sounds very middle school, apart from the bit where you say this is in the workplace.

But I never told her that i liked her. Infact i was going through a bad break up when i met her. She knew i was in love and wanted to marry this one girl but things weren't going right. She was the one i'd talk to about it because of the complicated situation i had with the other girl. She knows that i like that other girl still but we cant be together so we decided to not talk. She knows i'll choose that other chick i.e. non virgo one to the virgo one, any day.

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