MsBlink Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 It's been a rather long time since I left any message on the website, but I'm struggling and need some helping hands. Today is my one year anniversary with my fiance...and we're 119 miles away from each other with no way of seeing each other (school related; Romeo & Juliet drama within our families). For awhile, I was doing "decent"...but it really hurts today. I was sick to my stomach about it yesterday, us being apart, and I made an appointment to talk with my counselor again. I feel like I've backtracked or something! I was doing good for awhile, and now all this. I returned to the dorm me in him lived in the previous year and I feel I have to move out. A part of me, a very selfish part, wishes he'll just walk around the corner and open my door with a kiss ready to plant on my forehead. I know he's not coming back around though. It's been really tough this summer, with his father not liking me too much and my mom totally loathing him, but we made it through that and got stronger/closer. *Shrugs* I don't know what else to do. We talk every evening, we joke and keep each other entertained...we give each other space...I'm lost. I guess what this all boils down to is, Virgil's been physically MIA since May and I want to find ways to stop the grieving. I don't think I'll completely ever stop until we're together again. What are some ways to make the pain less painful? ~MsBlink
tokyo Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 How about getting a webcam and a fast connection to the internet?
Breathe Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Get yourself more involved in things you enjoy (outside your relationship). Stay busy and do things for yourself.
pixie2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Anniversaries come and go. They are not really that big deal. There would be many many more if you could just stop worrying! There is this idiom in my language - which means something like - what the eye can't see the heart don't miss... Best of luck with your LDR...
Selpru Posted September 4, 2004 Posted September 4, 2004 It seems to me you are a bit over invovlved and need to step back. I have been in a LDR for 2 years now and I it has been that way from after our 3rd date and now we are engaged. It is hard leading a different life from the one you love. But working towards the same goal and having schedules to keep it going helps. It is hard. For me it is usually the 2 weeks after we part that is the hardest then I get back into my life and fall into the same routine as before and it gets easier to pass the time. Finding something you like to do for yourself and that has nothing to do with him will make the time pass. It will also rejuvinate your conversations and broaden your character. Good Luck and sometimes holding on too hard makes the next person let go easily. Rebellion against parents often hold people together and when there is nothing to rebel against the relationship fails. Do not let that be your case. Be inlove and stay inlove for the right reasons
pixie2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Originally posted by Selpru Be inlove and stay inlove for the right reasons very very wise words.....
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