stupid_ex Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 3 weeks ago, he broke up with me after I pushed him to do so. We had an argument because I wanted to talk about us, sort our problems out but he took it as a joke. I said, I am frustrated, you don't care, if you want... leave me. He always said he couldn't because he was attached to me. He broke up with me and has stuck to his guns. He has told his best friend he still loves and cares for me very much. He is just tired of all the arguments we have been having. He doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I was the first person he has a connection with. A day after I did no contact he started to message me, whats up, whats wrong I am worried about you. After 3 days I wrote back I am ok. Why you texting, you broke up with me. He said, just because I let you go doesn't me I don't care. I called him and I asked him what was going on and if there was no hope for us, to let me go. He blew up and said he will. He removed me as a friend on FB. But kept 9 of my friends who he met but is not in touch with on his FB. It's been 3 weeks since we broke up, the longest we have had with no contact was 4 days. Usually me contacting him. A week and half into the break up, he joined scruff app sex site again, and it breaks my heart. he said he is just using it to talk to people. I don't believe that because I did a couple of test post to him. He was quick to meet me for sex. He also suspected it may have been me. He isn't so sure. Anyhow, every time I would contact him, he responded. But never made the first move. I asked him if we could talk and he said I will try and allocate time for you. He has been hot and cold. Even though he broke up with me, he is still offering to help me out by buying my bus tickets at his work beacuse they are cheaper, or lending me money etc........ This last week he has been cold and ignoring me. He is on the sex site all the time. I sent him a text on Thursday saying: It is with a heavy heart that I send this but I relaise now that you don't want me in your life. I am going to leave you alone. If you change your mind, you know how to contact me. Take care, I have no ill will for you. I basically let him go. What do you guys think is going on with him? He does love and care for me, I asked him just after we broke up if he was in love withe me he said he doesn't know. He posted on his FB wall, empty voids filled with distractions. And also, feel the pain. Is Scruff app site being used to fill the void? Why is he being so cold towards me and ignoring me? Its only been two days since I sent him the let go text. Any insight from you guys? Thanks PS: Last Wednesday night, we had a nice long 2 hour chat on the phone, the next morning he acted all cold. Still is.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Argh I swear its all emotional guys. They over think so much and go back and forth. My ex is like that too. I miss you and still love you. But can't be with you. But when he doesn't get enough sleep he goes cold and aggro. Like wtf. Its your fault. I'm still the same dammit. One minute it's like he regrets it. The next his saying no point talking about the past. And your ex with te sex site? I don't know... Wth is he thinking. I would be so angry with that. Not worth the time if the guy just moves on like that
Author stupid_ex Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 He did break up with me. Its only been 3 weeks. We haven't really had time away. He told me he is using the site to talk to people. I have let him go. As hard as it it, I can still track him on the site. Last night, he was only 1km from my home. He would have had to change trains at the station neat my house. He likes 10km from my house. He loves me, he cares for me but doesn't want to be in a relationship. He is sick and tired of it. Being on the Scruff site is the hardest for me. I feel he will come back to me but by that time I would have moved on. I love this guy very much, I was always there for him, treated him well, supported in everything. He knows I care and love him. Most of our arguments were about him being late, hanging out with his friends, not including me etc.... I asked him, why did he pick me over the other guys. he said, because I was open to doing other things and not trying to get him into bed. I just don't get it. Thank you for your response. I hope you can get some closure.
Author stupid_ex Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 He did break up with me. Its only been 3 weeks. We haven't really had time away. He told me he is using the site to talk to people. I have let him go. As hard as it it, I can still track him on the site. Last night, he was only 1km from my home. He would have had to change trains at the station neat my house. He lives 10km from my house. I really shouldn't be doing it. I am trying not to. He loves me, he cares for me but doesn't want to be in a relationship. He is sick and tired of it. Being on the Scruff site is the hardest for me. Knowing he is talking maybe even meeting up with other guys. I feel he will come back to me but by that time I would have moved on. I love this guy very much, I was always there for him, treated him well, supported in everything. He knows I care and love him. Most of our arguments were about him being late, hanging out with his friends, not including me etc....He said he doesn't see me as a bad person. I hope that after his anger dies down, he will remember how good I was to him. I asked him, why did he pick me over the other guys. he said, because I was open to doing other things and not trying to get him into bed. I just don't get it. Thank you for your response. I hope you can get some closure.
Author stupid_ex Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 I don't think he has moved on.
Author stupid_ex Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 He is back on this app as we speak. I am trying not to look but it hurts so much to think he is talking to other guys.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 He is back on this app as we speak. I am trying not to look but it hurts so much to think he is talking to other guys. Talking to other guys?
Author stupid_ex Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 He said he would never go back to this site. It was his old life. when I first questioned him he said he was on out of curiosity. Now it seems to be all the time. A friend of mine said he wrote on his FB paage "EMPTY VOIDS FILLED WITH DISTRACTIONS" and "FEEL THE PAIN" He said he is only on it to chat to guys. Most guys on it are out for sex. I cant understand how he can be so quick to jump on this app.
Amelie1980 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Talking to other guys? Yes talking to other guys! If I'm not mistaken Scruff is a site for males looking for same sex encounters.
Author stupid_ex Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Update: My ex has been getting many missed calls from a blocked number and also some phone calls insulting him. He thought it was me. (It wasn't) I was at a movie Wednesday night and he finally calls me. 4 days earlier, I sent him a text to say I was leaving him alone. I text back to say I was in a movie. He replies, can you call me after. I said I have nothing to say to you. He sent me another text saying he is going to the police to report these calls and he thinks it is me. He got a text from a public phone when I was in the movie. I called him back to say it wasn't me. The next day I text him to ask how he is. These calls have shaken him up. He said he will come by my work at 5. He cancelled but met me after work at 7pm. This is where I am confused. Our meeting was nice, calm, didn't mention the relationship. He admitted me was FB stalking me. Even though he removed me as a friend he could still read some post. I did this on purpose. I played dumb. He then asked me who was I waiting for to come at the end of February. I didn't let off it was a guy I like who is moving to Australia. I met this guy in London 2 years earlier. We remained friends. He messaged me a week after my ex dumped me that he was moving to Australia. We like each other. My ex said ahh, it's the guy from Lebanon. Don't worry, I am not going to stop you.....(This is the first confusion for me) Then my ex said He was really shocked to me saying I have nothing to say to you brendon. (Why? I didn't ask him why. But I think he took this as me moving on. 5 days before I was asking him to talk to me, he acted cold and basically said go away and now I was acting as if I wasn't interested) Then he asked me what have I been up to. Have I been dating anyone. I said no. He said he was on the gay dating sex site but didn't meet up with anyone. He also said he cancelled his membership. He said it ain't him. He told me he was traveling to Melbourne for a week. He asked if I wanted anything. I said no. Are you sure. I can buy you clothing. I said thank you but I don't need anything.(He broke up with me, yet he has still offered to buy me stuff, even bus tickets and phone credit) We got to street level. I was waiting for my friend. My ex said would you like a hug. I said yes. We hugged each other for about 20 seconds. Then he said bye, he is off to dinner with his friends. (He asked me for a hug)?????? All up we spent about 1.5 hours together. It was really nice. Now I am all confused. I was ready to move on. I still love him. I don't know what all this means. Any ideas?
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