LduKaZ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 He can't get away with this!!! Well, I guarantee you she WILL find out. Once a cheater.... Now, if your concern is her well being, then you truly are a good person. But let's be honest here, your concern is not her. You either want her out of the picture, or you just want to see him suffer. Either way, I guarantee you, YOU will not make him come back this way. Its time to face the fact that you've been played. You are absolutely his backup plan, and you will always be even if he does end up back with you somehow. You're doing exactly what he wants you to do! He has you on his hook, and instead of trying to break free, its like you want to go ahead and climb up his fishing pole. Sorry if Im harsh. But you are so much better than a loser like that dude. 2
Author livelife Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 It's for both. The poor girl seems so in love with him from what I see her post online. She has no idea she was kissing a guy that had his mouth somewhere else THE NIGHT BEFORE I need to just tell him let's go back to being strangers, and good luck with your relationship.
Author livelife Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 and how could she find out? She lives in a different state
LduKaZ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 She will. Girls always do.. Just not from you. If you get involved, like someone else said, it is possible that will make their relationship stronger instead. Ive seen it happen before. And he will end up making you look like the psycho jealous ex. Just let them be. Move on with your life. To each what they deserve girl.. The guy was drunk and wanted to ****, the rest he said was to make himself look better in front of you.. You know, in case he ever gets drunk again and wants to ****.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 and how could she find out? She lives in a different state Honestly, who the f*** cares whether or not she knows? Do you know her personally? If you stick your nose in the business, if you EVER wanted a chance to reconcile, it DEFIANTLY wouldnt happen. There is a small chance it happens anyways. Honestly, you are concerned with the "poor girl", it's all about getting revenge for hurting you or you think he might realize he messed up. It wont solve anything other than you look jealous and envious. Honestly dear, you have to let it go. It's SOOOO hard trust me I know the feeling. You have to stay busy.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 He can't get away with this!!! What is the upside for you? What does this possibly get you? I'm sorry, I don't think you are doing this as a moral obligation and to defend the other girl's honor.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 It's for both. The poor girl seems so in love with him from what I see her post online. She has no idea she was kissing a guy that had his mouth somewhere else THE NIGHT BEFORE I need to just tell him let's go back to being strangers, and good luck with your relationship. I don't buy this for a second. This is not your fight, especially since you were the girl he "cheated" with. It looks like a calculated ploy to break them up to get him back. That's the way he'll take it (so good riddance to any chance of reconcilation) and she'll likely take it as you attempting to break them up to get back with him. She's not going to thank you for saving her -- she's going to think that you planned this from the jump. This literally is one of the worst possible plays you could ever make. It was dumb of you to hook up with him -- this would be just adding dumb to dumb. If you really care about this other girl (which I doubt, why would you?) and want her to know, have a third party that can't be traced directly to you to tell her. Even that could come back to you, but it'd be a hell of a lot less moronic than you butting your head into his relationship. I know I'm being blunt, but damn, this is just a tragically horrific idea you have. One of the worst I've read.
geegirl Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 He can't get away with this!!! Get away with what? You knew he had a girlfriend, yet you yourself dabbled with him. YOU let him get away with using you. Accountability lies with you, not with him. Now you want to tell this woman because the "poor thing" doesn't know what she's getting into? Turn the focus on yourself. You are the poor thing that's running around chasing after a cheater. You know what he is yet you are engaging. She doesn't know, so she has an excuse for being with assclown. What's your excuse?
Author livelife Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 If you heard the things he was saying to my roommate about me when I wasn't around you might understand. If you felt the way I do for that guy, you might understand. Sure he is a ****ty guy but when things were good between us, boy were they good. I tried my hardest to stop him. I tried, but he kept trying, and I gave in. I'm sorry. It was a mistake. And i'm trying to fix it.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If you heard the things he was saying to my roommate about me when I wasn't around you might understand. If you felt the way I do for that guy, you might understand. Sure he is a ****ty guy but when things were good between us, boy were they good. I tried my hardest to stop him. I tried, but he kept trying, and I gave in. I'm sorry. It was a mistake. And i'm trying to fix it. You can't fix it. And your feelings for him is the exact reason why this is one of the most horrible ideas ever. There's enough drama -- don't create more. Keep your dignity.
Author livelife Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 You can't fix it. And your feelings for him is the exact reason why this is one of the most horrible ideas ever. There's enough drama -- don't create more. Keep your dignity. I'm not planning on telling her. 1
LduKaZ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If you heard the things he was saying to my roommate about me when I wasn't around you might understand. If you felt the way I do for that guy, you might understand. Sure he is a ****ty guy but when things were good between us, boy were they good. I tried my hardest to stop him. I tried, but he kept trying, and I gave in. I'm sorry. It was a mistake. And i'm trying to fix it. I have felt the way you do, believe me. I know it sucks, but like Simon said you simply can't fix him, you can't fix anyone other than yourself. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you right now. The things he said to your roommate, and the things he said to you, are all lies. Accept it. Why do you want to be with a guy who dumped you for another chick, and then lied to you in the worst possible way just because he was horny and wasted? He sounds like the biggest scumbag in the planet. If this happened to me, (which is what is actually kind of happening to me right now), I'd be so pissed I'd never want to see his stupid face anymore. I'm sorry, but you are not a toy, so stop this girl. Let him go. Erase him even if it's the hardest thing you've ever done. Eventually you will feel better, you just have to be strong for a while.
Author livelife Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 I appreciate it. I hope ill be ok soon. I will keep you all posted. Thanks for your advice thus far.
Author livelife Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Update: He finally told me he " was blacked out" that night which I highly don't believe. I have much proof that he wasn't blackout. Even so, we hooked up the next morning. Regardless, I kinda was messing with him and scaring him that I was gonna tell his girlfriend, It was funny to see him fret over it. Anyways, now me and my roommate/best friend aren't friends because shes been through all of this with me, shes seen me cry, shes seen it all. Day and night I have cried over him, and she thinks its okay to be friends and hang out with him? No.
Author livelife Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 He also tried to throw out there : If you care(d) about me like you say you do then you will let me handle this on my own ( not telling her )
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