canada807 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I am just wondering what people think of this situation and the best way to handle it? My parents have been married for over 25 years. My dad owns a fair chunk of land and growing up our parents always told us that the land would be distributed among us siblings when our parents got older/divorced/died. Myself and one sibling have been in talks for around 5 years to buy some of this property so we can build our homes...now here is the problem: Last year my mom up and left my dad for another man she had been cheating on him with for a couple of years. She has been refusing to file any papers, and is upset that my dad closed down her access to his bank account- except for a biweekly payment into her account. My dad decided that he is no longer paying for her expenses and now my mom is raging. She has started allegations of abuse against not only herself, but us as well (all untrue). She has told me she is going to rip his world out from underneath him, and take all his land, the house and money. She is making myself and my siblings take sides- one won't get involved, one is on her side (my mom's bf pays all her living expenses) and i am just hoping i can start building my house without my mother taking that away from me in the future. I'm frustrated and at the end of my rope. HELP!
MidwestUSA Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Your dad is going through this, and your concern is about YOU? YOUR house? What a sense of entitlement! I hope you have a backup plan, as in a career/job, and other means of providing for yourself in the future. Our parents owe us nothing; what they have worked hard for over the years should be theirs to enjoy in retirement. It may take all of your dad's resources to resolve the situation with his wife, have you thought of that? Is that so different from having to use it all in the event of a long, protracted illness/convalescence or tragedy? WOW, just wow!
Author canada807 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 The house I am building is going on the land in which I am buying from my dad. He wants me to live on the land that his family has been on for 150 years. The house I am planning on building has been co-designed by my father, and he has big plans to help build it. The whole reason why I dropped a great paying job and moved halfway across the country is to be there for my father. As I am against long term care for my family, my dad will one day be living there with me, which has been discussed time and time again. My father is taking the split rather well. He's happier than he's been in years!
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