Ibegypurpardon Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I'm not sure what to think of this... my boyfriend of almost 1.5 years invited me out to dinner with his friends from work. three other couples and us. all was well but then the checks came. every person had an individual check. With the other couples present the man in the relationship immediately grabbed their girlfriends check and paid for them, no questions asked, no thought involved. my boyfriend did not. I was the only girl that paid for her meal separately. Normally we take turns paying for dinner outings, with him paying about 75% of the time though I do treat him every now and then. I'm just wondering if he is being stingy for leaving me to pay my bill. or is it not that big of a deal and I should forget about it? I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little jealous of the other girls and their hospitable generous boyfriends.
crude Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 First we were told that a man pays for the 1st date, then it became the first three, now you've been together for a year and a half and he pays for 75% of the dates. The amateur hookers are the cheap ones, the johns are the chumps. Your boyfriend is the only man in the group.
Green Light Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I just took my time machine back to 1955 to ask someone about your "problem" and they said that your boyfriend was wrong and that he should be paying for you 100% and they also said that you should have had cookies made for when the two of you got back home. 1
ChatroomHero Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 If he pays 75% of the time I am guessing he was waiting for you to pick up his tab too. It would only be fair for you to do that.
Author Ibegypurpardon Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 haha... I guess maybe you guys are onto something but in my defense there ARE some homemade brownies in our kitchen right now. another thing is the fact that he makes almost 1000 a week while I am employed due to moving. just recently moved 300 miles to close our LDR and haven't found a job in my field yet, thus living off my savings at the moment. Since I'm not working yet I do all of the household chores, cleaning and cook dinner every night. he comes home from work and gets to play video games, watch tv and have sex. maybe I just want an old fashioned relationship that doesn't exist anymore.
Green Light Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 maybe I just want an old fashioned relationship that doesn't exist anymore. Well, if that's what you want then I do think that he should pay for you 100% of the time. Nothing wrong with old fashioned relationships as long both people are happy that way.
Author Ibegypurpardon Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 I guess I was wrong and shouldn't let little things get to me. seeing the other men grab their girls checks made me jealous and left feeling out of place.
crude Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 If your boyfriend saw a woman who was successful, intelligent, and generous, buy her boyfriend a 100" tv, he might get jealous of the man with a new fashioned girlfriend. Not all men want to be beasts of burden for entitled women.
Keenly Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 If this is your biggest relationship problem and you are making this big of a deal about it then I am really rendered speechless.
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