kyle77 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 So I guess I will start with some background information first. I am in university and the second semester has just started. In my calculus course there is this girl that I really want to get to know. There is just something special about her to me. From the very first day we have been locking eyes with one another and it has gradually escalated. In the first week of class together we began to sit closer together (typically she sits right behind me). This continued for a while and on the third week I finally mustered up the courage to talk to her. I introduced myself and we hit it off, lots of smiling etc. Now my problem is, where do I go from here? I don't have her number so I can't exactly just text her. I don't want to be too aggressive because well that's just not me. But should I continue to sit with her? Get to know her better? I would like to maybe one day make this girl my girlfriend. I just don't know how to get it to that point. I feel like I introduced myself talked to her etc. so now the ball is in her court? But I really don't know what to do here... Any advice is appreciated.
Mtlgrrl Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Why dont you ask her if she wants to study with you or grab coffee after class?
Author kyle77 Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 But do I continue to sit by her? is the ball in her court or mine?
John123 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 You talked to her once......the ball is in your court!
sid3 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 So I guess I will start with some background information first. I am in university and the second semester has just started. In my calculus course there is this girl that I really want to get to know. There is just something special about her to me. From the very first day we have been locking eyes with one another and it has gradually escalated. In the first week of class together we began to sit closer together (typically she sits right behind me). This continued for a while and on the third week I finally mustered up the courage to talk to her. I introduced myself and we hit it off, lots of smiling etc. Now my problem is, where do I go from here? I don't have her number so I can't exactly just text her. I don't want to be too aggressive because well that's just not me. But should I continue to sit with her? Get to know her better? I would like to maybe one day make this girl my girlfriend. I just don't know how to get it to that point. I feel like I introduced myself talked to her etc. so now the ball is in her court? But I really don't know what to do here... Any advice is appreciated. No the ball isn't in her court. It appears there's a lack of balls on the court. My best advice, stopping being such a pussy. There's nothing to be afraid of. You'll never get what you want if you don't go after it. 3
harnold Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Personally, I always go for a bold approach. Identify the cuter girls in class, sit next to em, lotta joking (kinda cocky-type humor), then tell them to put their number in before we leave. If thats not you, you could take it more gradually. Talk to her in class about whatever, class or non class related stuff. Walk with her out of and after class. Grab food with her. Study with her. Maybe do something with her off campus (go out with her, to a bar, party, with your friends, etc). I would stick with lighter stuff like that, unless you can gauge her and can tell shed be down to do something more formal like the traditional dinner date... but in today's society, and especially in college, thats a rarity.
Cutiepie1976 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 LOL. The ball is still in your court! Sitting next to her in class doesn't move the ball anywhere. It's still in your lap right now. Gertrude or Broomhilda can sit next to her and that wouldn't signal a desire to date her! The ball stays with you until you do something that clearly signals a desire to date her--i.e. you ask her on a date. That's how you get it in play. Since you are nervous, ask her to study together first and exchange phone numbers. Don't just talk about class and school work. Flirt and be somewhat light and playful in your conversation. Show interest in her, not just your class and coursework. Ask about her weekend plans. Unless you get a clear signal that she has zero interest, bite the bullet and ask her on a date at the end of your first or second study session. Good luck!
KungFuJoe Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Write how you feel on a note on a piece of paper...fold it into a tight little square, then chuck it at her so it smacks her right in the back of the head. Either that, or pull her pigtails.
Author kyle77 Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 So do I take a soft approach and just keep talking to her or do I just flat out tell her how I feel in the least awkward way possible?
ChessPieceFace Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 No the ball isn't in her court. It appears there's a lack of balls on the court. My best advice, stopping being such a pussy. There's nothing to be afraid of. You'll never get what you want if you don't go after it. Insulting. Fear of rejection is normal. Not everyone goes through life ignoring potential consequences. No one is impressed by your forum machismo.
harnold Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 So do I take a soft approach and just keep talking to her or do I just flat out tell her how I feel in the least awkward way possible? You said your second semester just started... so you must have been talking to this girl for what... a week or two tops?? I don't know what it is exactly that you want to "tell her" but if it's anything along the lines of "I like you", then that's f*cking weird. Do what I said in my other post. 1
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