CBlasek Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Ok Here goes. I am 19 and I know who I want to spend the rest of my life with. The problem is I lied to her about my past and about my job. I was a real A-Hole. But after she found out, I wanted to tell her, but couldnt bring myself to do it, b/c I was afraid to lose her. Well now I lost her. I love her more than life itself. Ive been in love before, but this one just felt so perfect. I would do anything to get her back. Ive talked with her since it happened, like a month ago, and she just says I dont know how I can trust you again. I really hurt her. She trusted me and I did this. I need some ideas of how to get her back. I always told her I would give her the sun the moon and the stars, so I found one of those star registrys and bought her a star, I sent her a card, balloons, and a teddy bear. I keep writing her little notes and poetry. But I did give her a chain that my uncle gave me before he passed and he told me to give it to my wife, I gave it to her on our one month anniversary, thats how sure I am of this. She has get to give it back, she still wears it. So I think that she felt something. Any ideas are appreciated.
sadgrrl Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Hang in there bud, and keep doing what you're doing. It sounds like you've learned some good things from this (importance of honesty) that a lot of us f--kups much older than you still can't get the hang of. Sounds like you're really dedicated to her, and the things you're doing are very romantic. The gifts are nice, but I like the notes, poetry thing, like you're doing. God, every woman I know would melt for poetry. Also, if there was anyway you could arrange to serenade her (not necessarily singing, maybe guitar?), that's the kind of stuff that she can never forget. People forgive people for much greater crimes than this one. You've learned from this, she can forgive you if it's meant to be, and so keep after her til you feel like you've given your all. Small risk she's the kind of gal that likes to keep her man in the doghouse, and which case she'll play games til you give up and then she'll be begging for you back.
Author CBlasek Posted August 25, 2004 Author Posted August 25, 2004 Thing is I feel like I should just give up. She doesnt answer my calls, so I leave her voicemails on her cell phone. I finally just broke down today and said "Look Holly, I dont know what you want me to do anymore. I am so sorry that I ever hurt you. I keep doing all these things, and you never call me back or when I do talk to you, you say I cant trust you. So just tell me what you want. If you want me out of your life for good, than just say it and I am gone." She hasnt called me back, but she got the message. (I know her voicemail password) Im just getting tired of being depressed all the time about this. I know I wont move on from her and find someone that can mean as much to me as she did
pitprincess Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 She is hurt... You told her something when she believed in you and it wasnt true. "That hurts" You need to let her know how bad you wanted to let her know the truth but you were scared of how it may make things between you and her. Letting her know cant hurt anything because the damage is already done but maybe you guys can work it back together. Give her a little time to cool off then try and talk to her again.
beautiful Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 At 19 you will have many gf and many gurls you "think" you going to spend the rest of your life with. Don't be so hard on yourself. You know you did wrong and now move on. Forgive yourself. You be alright:-)
Author CBlasek Posted August 25, 2004 Author Posted August 25, 2004 Thing is I KNOW FOR A FACT SHE IS THE ONE. She and I complimented each other so well. Even my ex g/f said we should get married. She wanted to do something with me. So she joined the fire department/ems . Im a EMT and a Fire Fighter. I wanted to do something with her so we took dance lessons togethor. I mean from the first day we met, I knew she was it. She could always make me laugh, cry, smile and I could do the same to her. Once she was in a small accident, I wasnt on the ambulance that day, but they called and told me. I called the cops, got one of the ones I know to come pick me up and drive full lights and sirens to the ER that she was at. I mean its just like that. She is def the one for me
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