Mrlonelyone Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 It's three weeks to that loaded Hallmark holiday that can make one reevaluate relationships. Ladies and gentlemen I ask the question for your consideration. When to give and when not to give? Everyone here is in some kind of a situation where this question will arise in the comming weeks. Some of us have a secure LTR or marriage. Some of us have been dating one person for a while. Some of us are in that ambiguous "hang out" zone which is neither friends nor a couple. Some of us are just crushing on someone. The rest of us are hoping to find someone worth a darn. My personal rule is now as such. If you are at least in that "hang out" zone and have romantically fooled around a bit, or more, then a minimal valentine would be approrpiate. Agree, disagree?
SmileFace Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 As long as you aren't talking about that chick who blocked you. Go ahead. I will be saving my money this year - just like every other yeaer. Unless I am in a relationship ... no thanks. No crushes, hang outs or anything like that.
DollWelch Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Everyone here is in some kind of a situation where this question will arise in the comming weeks. Some of us have a secure LTR or marriage. Some of us have been dating one person for a while. Some of us are in that ambiguous "hang out" zone which is neither friends nor a couple. Some of us are just crushing on someone. Some of us are heartbroken, ugly and too frail to attain a SO and doomed to be forever alone. The rest of us are hoping to find someone worth a darn. You missed a category. 1
Ami1uwant Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Personally I hate the holiday---and I am in a relationship. Its the commercialization of romance ...*I cant stand buying something because I have to. 1
veggirl Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I have always told my boyfriends not to buy me a gift for Vday and that I'd rather us just hang out. I don't think Vday gifts are necessary esp if you are just "hanging out" or "dating". I'd rather have a quiet dinner/spend time together. 1
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 (edited) As long as you aren't talking about that chick who blocked you. Go ahead. I will be saving my money this year - just like every other yeaer. Unless I am in a relationship ... no thanks. No crushes, hang outs or anything like that. But she didn't. She totally disabled her account, it wasn't even about me and was more about being fed up with fb in general. I still don't think I would buy her much of anything. Perhaps a very small chocolate heart, I'd give it in person, and play it by ear on the day itself. (Or just eat it myself). Edited January 25, 2013 by Mrlonelyone
sillyanswer Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Some of us have been dating one person for a while. Some of us are in that ambiguous "hang out" zone which is neither friends nor a couple. Some of us have been multi-dating and might have to make some decisions before Valentine's Day. But as to your question... I think that if you're enough of a couple to have relationship talks (even just "where's this going? oh, just casual dating then? ok") then you're far enough along to have the "what are we doing for Valentine's day?" talk as well... so the the question of gifts or what to do shouldn't be a mystery (even if the details are left as a surprise).
It's Just Me Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I have always been anti-Valentine's Day, much to the relief of the men in my life over the years. In my opinion, love and thoughtfulness should happen all year long when you care about someone. For the record, I also feel the same way about Mother's Day and Father's Day. 1
Treasa Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I told the guy I'm seeing not to get me anything for Valentine's Day, but he said it's too late. I have to admit I'm smiling. He's so very sweet.
sillyanswer Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I told the guy I'm seeing not to get me anything for Valentine's Day, but he said it's too late. I have to admit I'm smiling. He's so very sweet. Aww. That's cute. So what are you getting him?
zebracolors Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Just to give my thoughts on the "holiday". Currently its looking like this will be the 3rd year in a row I'll be alone on that day. Even if the years between 2010 and 2012, I was in an LDR, so technically not single but at the same time could not be together with the guy. But generally I've not cared much for the holiday. But I agree with others, it would be much nicer to just get to spend time with someone special to me on that day, even if its just sitting at home and having dinner while watching movies (or other activities;) ) But I am now crushing on someone and I am currently trying to work on making him a digital illustration, that is unique to him and his interests.
Esoteric Elf Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Some of us are heartbroken, ugly and too frail to attain a SO and doomed to be forever alone. You missed a category. Seconded...sort of...not so much the former parts.
Treasa Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Aww. That's cute. So what are you getting him? If the 49ers win, a new Niners jersey. If they lose, a fleshlight.
sillyanswer Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 If the 49ers win, a new Niners jersey. If they lose, a fleshlight. Don't forget the lube. 1
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