Philomena Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 How can I be so sure he is over his ex? she was his first love and they dated for 2 years, he tells me things were great they knew eachother soo well, he knew what she was thinking and could tell when she was upset and all. They spent a lot of time together and she was who he lost his virginity to. They ended up breaking up because of some mistakes she made, and she cheated on him, and then it just didnt work out for them anymore, he said she changed her whole personality, after being with him, and he began to not like who she became, and after they broke up she changed even more, and now they just dont click together anymore, and she always tries to get him back by saying how much she misses him and loves him, and how all the guys she is with mean nothing to her, and they are nothing compared to him. and he said she just has sex with guys and it means nothing to her. He told me he was so in love with her, and he hurt for the longest time, of losing her. But now that we are together he says he loves me, and that she doesn't even compare to me, and he wishes i were his first love and so on. So what exactly do I make of this, he does say he is over her, and cares for me more than he does her, but i know he is still hurting over her. Should I not be worried at all, he did say she called him and asked him to be with her again, and he said no that he was happy with me, and it was the first time he didnt come back to her. he always went back, but got tired of going back and getting hurt over and over. and now he is happy with me. its just hard for me to know even though he says he cares for me more than her, knowing if he really does mean it, its hard knowing if he is sincere and really does have her out of his mind. Because before he fell for me, she was all he would talk about, about how much she hurt him and how much she cared for him, we got together only a few months after their last break up. I just want to know how to be able to tell beyond his words if he really is serious for me like he says he is. I love him so much, and believe he loves me too, but I do know when first loves come into the picture things get difficult. Im assuming there is nothing to be worried about, by his actions and words, but im just wondering if there is anything i should be worried about, something i am missing... Philomena
tokyo Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Sometimes you feel bad and you have someone to talk to, someone nice and caring, and one day you think you like that person more than the other person and your heartache is gone. It was not my first love though....
GrUmPy1 Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 gurrrrrl! me and u are - welll were in the same boat. ok i got with my boyfriend a month after he broke up with his girl well she dumped him for someother guy. we were friends first and he would talk about how much he loved her and how much he hurt so when we ended up getting together i was scared that he still loved her and to make matters worse they worked together so ya i was triple scared he used to tell me all the things ur man tells you and you know what as time went by my fears began to dissapear because i could see in his eyes and actions that we was 200 percent mine! u have to look around u and see whats there but also follow ur gut. 2ndly my boyfriends first love/ lover was this girl he met and started liking then her mom ended up marrying his brother so she became his step niece by marriage well apperantly his family and hers didnt see anything wrong with this so he fell head over heels for her and lost his virginity to her then she cheated on him and broke his heart well i know that you never forget ur first love so when we seen her at family partys i i would freak out and wonder why he was looking in her direction or why he wanted to walk in her direction when really he wasnt doing either i was just paranoid. he shows me he loves me and only me and while u dont forget ur first love that doesnt mean that u dont stop wanting them. anyways im sorry that this is so long but my point is that if your man is doing all he can to prove he loves u and only you then you should trust him before ur insecureties push him away.
pixie2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 You did not say how long you've been together now... and you seem to be missing the point. HE IS WITH YOU not with HER.
Philomena Posted August 28, 2004 Posted August 28, 2004 well thanks!! Yes we have been together for 4 months, dated for 8. Thanks I guess I should be confident before insecurities bring our relationship to the dumps Philomena
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