on an ex

[Arsenal33]

So I met this girl two and a half years ago (sep 2010) in college and at the time I thought she was cool but really I just liked her for sex. We hooked up for a few months until I started liking her (she always liked me much more). It was really good but then like eight months into going out (sep 2011) she did something kind of shady and I lost some trust in her and and i wasnt always the best bf and we had like four months of problems but we both loved each other so we tried to fix it but it never seemed to work. Finally it got better in the spring of 2012 but I got really drunk one night and said some mean stuff to her that basically ended it. I graduated college last spring and decided to move to Europe for a year (this was my plan even before I met her) and was leaving in July 2012. Once she found out I was leaving it basically ended all of it and the breakup was miserable. She started talking another guy because she told me she needed someone else or else she would just come right back to me because she was so attached and I find out in August 2012 that they are together and it crushed me. Leaving this girl made me realize how much I love her and my life still isn't the same. We have talked a little bit but nothing too serious but I know she still has feelings for me but I have no idea of she still has a bf but I assume she does. I am planning on going home this may and I don't know if I should try and get a second chance or just leave her alone its been at least nine months since we were together but I still feel likes piece of me is missing without her. I was a pretty bad bf because at that moment in my life I wasn't mature enough or ready for something serious, and not saying I am now, but I'm more mature and I realize how much she means to me. She knows I feel this way but she is super hesitant whenever we talk (we message or something maybe once a month at the most) and I almost feel resentment from her. I am just unsure if I should just leave her alone and let her move on with her life (I think she already has in some sense) or try and get her back because I really do love her. I am just confused as to what I should do because I know she still likes me and when things were good they were perfect and we had talked a lot about something more serious in the past. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks

[Amelie1980]

Life is too short to have regrets.

 

When you get home, arrange to meet. Say youre sorry for what happened and explain how things have changed for you.

 

See how she reacts and take it from there.