Ale khun Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Hi I need a little help here , I been seen this guy for about a year I know him for almost 6 years now and finally the las years we started a "relationship" we'll lately he was acting cold well he has a lot of work and when he is working a lot and with stress I like to give him some space . Here's the situation las weekend I texted him I was cooking and I thought of doing something for him , his response " we'll maybe another day I'm still busy bla -bla- bla " I was a little upset but I didn't make a big deal about it , then on Saturday night I called him and nothing , then Sunday I was angry and I called him and nothing then I call one more time and nothing . At that moment I was really angry and I texted him "maybe you are really sick or busy or you just don't want to talk to me so if that's the case I won't bug you anymore " And he got really upset saying that i shouldn't be like that and that I was overreacting , but seriously what do you think if someone ignores you 3 day in a row?? Well to make the story short he said ill call you tomorrow he didn't call then I waited and waited and then I called him and he said the most horrifying words " lets take some time and see what happen " Obviously y was crying and angry and made the situation worst because seriously I think it's something stupid now . My question is what do I do I really love him but I think he is been really drastic with this I didn't cheat on him or somthing like that that worst that what I did , I know my attitude was childish but I was really hurt . So I bought 3 weeks ago a gift for him for valentine's day I don't have the receipt I can't return them and I don't know what to do should i call him and give it to him or should I just send a package to his place ?? I lost my personal cellphone so he doesn't have where to call I know his number by memory but I don't know what's the best way to give it to him . He says he wants space and I'm willing to give him all he wants I think that all that have been in this situation before knows that no one should wait for someone else and if for one mistake he wants to loose a year of relationship what can I really do ?? Well please tell me what to do ? Should I call him and give the package in person or should I just shipped !! Thank you for listening I feel better now
yessy21 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Im sorry but he is seeing someone else. Sounds like he was just making excuses because he was spending more time with her. and the only reason he feels like you need time is because he feels that there is a potential with the other girl. go NC. Start dating. a man that likes you.... will run after work to be with you. 1
Samilia Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Hi I need a little help here , I been seen this guy for about a year I know him for almost 6 years now and finally the las years we started a "relationship" we'll lately he was acting cold well he has a lot of work and when he is working a lot and with stress I like to give him some space . Here's the situation las weekend I texted him I was cooking and I thought of doing something for him , his response " we'll maybe another day I'm still busy bla -bla- bla " I was a little upset but I didn't make a big deal about it , then on Saturday night I called him and nothing , then Sunday I was angry and I called him and nothing then I call one more time and nothing . At that moment I was really angry and I texted him "maybe you are really sick or busy or you just don't want to talk to me so if that's the case I won't bug you anymore " And he got really upset saying that i shouldn't be like that and that I was overreacting , but seriously what do you think if someone ignores you 3 day in a row?? Well to make the story short he said ill call you tomorrow he didn't call then I waited and waited and then I called him and he said the most horrifying words " lets take some time and see what happen " Obviously y was crying and angry and made the situation worst because seriously I think it's something stupid now . My question is what do I do I really love him but I think he is been really drastic with this I didn't cheat on him or somthing like that that worst that what I did , I know my attitude was childish but I was really hurt . So I bought 3 weeks ago a gift for him for valentine's day I don't have the receipt I can't return them and I don't know what to do should i call him and give it to him or should I just send a package to his place ?? I lost my personal cellphone so he doesn't have where to call I know his number by memory but I don't know what's the best way to give it to him . He says he wants space and I'm willing to give him all he wants I think that all that have been in this situation before knows that no one should wait for someone else and if for one mistake he wants to loose a year of relationship what can I really do ?? Well please tell me what to do ? Should I call him and give the package in person or should I just shipped !! Thank you for listening I feel better now Do not send the gift. I feel like saying it again so it sinks in.. do not send the gift. That's the worst thing you could do right now. That's an equivalent to begging and that's not giving him the space he needs. Although I know this is a bs excuse, since he basically broke up with you. The only thing you can do right now is pick up the pieces of your dignity and move on. Not saying you can turn the switch on what you feel for him, it obviously doesn't work that way. However you need to consider yourself single. Don't call him, don't text, don't send any gift, nada.
yessy21 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Dont send him anything. Just leave it around until you can give it to someone who deserves it. if you call him or ship it ... he will think your a little pathetic. cause he is technically not your boyfriend anymore.
GildedLily Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Oh sweetheart you deserve much better; don't settle for his crumbs. I agree with everyone, treat this like a breakup and go no contact, read every article you can on baggagereclaim.com. Those words weren't horrifying, think about it; you were already alone, he just confirmed it, he didn't bother with you for three days, that's horrifying treatment. Be strong!
Mtlgrrl Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Hi I need a little help here , I been seen this guy for about a year I know him for almost 6 years now and finally the las years we started a "relationship" we'll lately he was acting cold well he has a lot of work and when he is working a lot and with stress I like to give him some space . Here's the situation las weekend I texted him I was cooking and I thought of doing something for him , his response " we'll maybe another day I'm still busy bla -bla- bla " I was a little upset but I didn't make a big deal about it , then on Saturday night I called him and nothing , then Sunday I was angry and I called him and nothing then I call one more time and nothing . At that moment I was really angry and I texted him "maybe you are really sick or busy or you just don't want to talk to me so if that's the case I won't bug you anymore " And he got really upset saying that i shouldn't be like that and that I was overreacting , but seriously what do you think if someone ignores you 3 day in a row?? Well to make the story short he said ill call you tomorrow he didn't call then I waited and waited and then I called him and he said the most horrifying words " lets take some time and see what happen " Obviously y was crying and angry and made the situation worst because seriously I think it's something stupid now . My question is what do I do I really love him but I think he is been really drastic with this I didn't cheat on him or somthing like that that worst that what I did , I know my attitude was childish but I was really hurt . So I bought 3 weeks ago a gift for him for valentine's day I don't have the receipt I can't return them and I don't know what to do should i call him and give it to him or should I just send a package to his place ?? I lost my personal cellphone so he doesn't have where to call I know his number by memory but I don't know what's the best way to give it to him . He says he wants space and I'm willing to give him all he wants I think that all that have been in this situation before knows that no one should wait for someone else and if for one mistake he wants to loose a year of relationship what can I really do ?? Well please tell me what to do ? Should I call him and give the package in person or should I just shipped !! Thank you for listening I feel better now No. Don't send the gift!!! 1. you're on a break 2. he doesn't deserve a gift wtf? He's breaking your heart! Take this moment to reflect on you. If I were you I'd be angry right now, more than sad. Focus on you. I'm sorry girl!
ChessPieceFace Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Sorry but if a girl flipped out after only 3 days of being apart, I'd probably want to 'take some time to see what happens' too. OP the way you type, the thoughts you express and the way you express them make me think you may be the source of the problem. 3 days isn't a long time to be apart, and your response was to flip out and make accusations. That isn't normal or healthy behavior. It's paranoid and/or clingy behavior. It would be easier to listen to the women above saying "oh he's worthless girl it's all his fault you deserve the perfect man blah blah" but if you want to have a happier life, start looking inward at your own behaviors and actions. You may have driven him away. I can't say for certain. But if so, and you don't change the behavior, you may very well end up in this situation again.
mortensorchid Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 I'm sorry this has happened to you. Whatever the case may be, he's not worth your time. You can do better than this a******. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't acknowledge you at all or is so cold and unfeeling towards you? As for the gift you are fretting about, don't give it to him. KEEP IT for yourself or regift it to someone else. THat happened to me a few years ago, I bought a sweater for a guy I was kind of seeing and then he broke it off just before the holidays. I gave it to another guy friend of mine.
veggirl Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 dude you don't send him the gift, period. he dumped you and ignored you. if I ignore you will you buy me a present too? come on now. Throw it out if you can't use it, or donate it. no gift for him, you will look VERY desperate if you send it to him. don't contact him, he wants his "space" and had no problem just taking it without even first talking to you...jerk. 1
Author Ale khun Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 That's why I love this site everybody has something in common I'm wrong I'm acting hurt and its a little sad realize it !!
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