Sasha Fierce Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 To cut it short The week before we had a talk about I want to have a real commitment as none of us are dating / screwing each other why can't we have a label. He said he's been hurt before and he doesn't bother with relationship now. I said I want someone that believes I'm worth a title. You can't just keep me to yourself without a title and stop me from seeing others. I felt strung along and said I wanna cut ties with him. He said being cut ties that sudden is his nightmare cos its been done to him in the past and took him years to get over it. He said he can't trust me now as he thinks my feelings for him is not stable. We made up at the spot and I promised I won't say things like this again We had a big fight last week and we were both nasty to each other. He said if you are jot happy just leave me or you are waiting for me to do it cos you dont have the courage? I asked if he wants me to go he said no its too late. He ended up cooking the lamb I brought to his house which I was planning to cook, he dance with me like we were in old movies. Then he gave me a gift, I hug him and cried a bit because its a very thoughtful gift. He gave me tissue and then we ate and he washed the dishes. He said I need time to think about our issue cos I dunno if its safe to keep you around me. We went to sleep we cuddle me all night like he never cuddle me before. But we didn't have sex he said I never say no to it. But I'm too upset to do it now. Next day we did it and wen he drop me off he was all silence. He ended it with take it easy. And I let him know I will miss him its my first time doing that. Cos everytime he would ask you miss me and I say yes but he won't let me know how he feels cos he believes woman will treat you badly once they know how he feels. He went MIA for 5 days which is unusual. So I emailed him to break the ice. He replied quickly but in a cold manner. I emailed him today and he was really cold. I confronted him about his coldness, apologize for the hurtful things i said in tr fight and say I know aries are cold like this once they lost Interest. If you are still mad and want to end things I understand and will just wish him well. He replied thanks for the email, thigs haven't been upward for us. I take onboard the part about ending things sudden its the best to meet up for a closure. He said he's very busy this weekend, lets meet up for coffee next week sometime Have a good weekend (my nickname) / (my real name) / (nick name given by him) / (love name given by him) Sorry it's a very long question. Thanks for reading it. I believe there's a care factor from him to me. Anything I can do to get him back?
clia Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Anything I can do to get him back? It's pretty clear he doesn't want the same thing as you, so why do you want him back? He doesn't want a label and he doesn't want a relationship with you. He told you that! You seem to want both things. So, why don't you go find someone who actually wants what you want? Also, this guy is playing you like a fiddle. He knows exactly what to say: He said he can't trust me now as he thinks my feelings for him is not stable. He said I need time to think about our issue cos I dunno if its safe to keep you around me. Cos everytime he would ask you miss me and I say yes but he won't let me know how he feels cos he believes woman will treat you badly once they know how he feels. Are you really falling for this crap?
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I know it sucks, but you guys are not on the same page. He doesn't want a label [and is giving a BS reason] and you are hoping to change his mind. It may be best to cut your losses.
Author Sasha Fierce Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 I acknowledge your point and I do thing his reason is really crap, just that I know after spending time with him for this long, I can see he is a VERY sensitive guy and he does have lots of emotional baggage from the past. Thing I don't understand is him acting all nice to me that night after the fight was just an act? Also the gift he gave me was a very thoughtful one. Which is why I believe he really cares for me
Mtlgrrl Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 If he still likes you, he maybe does but not in the way you are expecting :/ A guy that say doesnt wants labels, is never a good sign. What do you want? You obviously want to be committed or else wouldn't of had that argument with him. You matter too you know, what you want should be just as important as what he wants. If you don't see eye to eye, even if he calls you back and says he likes you yada yada yada you will eventually resent the lack of relationship because you won't be 100% satisfied. Take this time off, to reflect on you, what you want, what you deserve and what you will do. G'luck girl! Sorry this is happening to ya.
Author Sasha Fierce Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 To be honest right now I'm unsure if I want the title, because I see people who are stuck in bad marriages and stuff. In a way I'm a bit commitment phobic you can say. I just want him to like me enough to restart it again. Because he was doing more and more like a BF just without the title
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