McG Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Hi All, First post as I have been pretty confused of late. About 6 months ago I started to date a co-worker. We work on the same team. I know I know, big mistake right.... yes it was never sh*t were you eat. Anyway, the relationship was pretty doomed from the start and we were arguing a lot and especially when we had some drink. There were some good times but most of the time i felt pretty uncomfortable during the relationship and didn't really want to be in it. But I just went along and jumped in with 2 feet. Something i don't really do. The relationship got pretty full on from the start and we spent a lot of time together out of work and in work. Even to the point were i would have excuses prepared for when she asked me did i want to do something during the week or on the weekend. It just didn't feel right. So we had a weekend away back in November and had an argument that pretty much ended the relationship as I told her she was hard work. That morning she pretty much shouted at me when I was on my phone and not watching her walk around the room in her panties... WTF? She actually said that. Anyway, we broke up and I was totally fine with it for 2 months and she even told me that she was going out with someone else... again... i wasnt bothered at all. I told her good luck. I had the feeling that she still wanted me and I could have had her back but i didnt want to go back into that cauldron of drama again. So then she tells me that she is now seeing someone who sits like 5 desks away from me!! Now shes with him all the time, every time i walk past her desk she emailing him, they come to work together and leave work together. Now, this guy seems like a really nice and placid guy and when I see him with her i feel sorry for him and cant help but think he will be crying on her doorstep in 6 months time begging for her back. Now my issue with this is that its started to make me feel horrible. I am dreading coming into work and starting to think i have feelings for her when i actually don't. I know she is playing a game with me and has pretty much re-bounded off the first guy thats shown any interest in her but its started to affect me. I understand that its probably just jealousy coming up in me and hurt male EGO but it hurts. When I was with her he ex boyfriend was constantly texting her and begging for her back and even showed up at her doorstep once crying and she was shouting down the street at him. She also had a group a male friends who she used to hang out with. They all obviously fancied her and she knew it. This didnt really bother me though. I have the opportunity to move back to my old department in 2 weeks but cant help but think i will be running away from my problems instead of facing them. I told the team i am on that i wanted to leave (not the real reason why) and now they want to keep me and give me more money!! When all i want to do is get the hell out of this. Has anybody got any advice on what I should do here? Should i stay and face my problems and jealousy issues? I mean i am pretty much being served up a massive piece of drama here and a chance to work through some issues but its really really tough. I would appreciate some advice :-) McG
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