endless schooling Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 For the females out there. If a guy were to ask you out on a date and you find him nice, somewhat attractive, somewhat interesting ect. but no necessarily really hits you as "that" guy what would you do? Is that a game breaker that you just don't feel that into him even though he's a decent guy? Then I will add this what if he was a practicing physician or soon to be a practicing physician who are mostly intelligent and very motivated and do make good good money. How does that change your opinion if at all? Im not saying the one that just comes out and says "Im a doctor" but just the ones that it comes up in conversation? And before you roast me on me asking these questions I will tell you what I am getting at. I am about to graduate medical school and my girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago and I need to get back into dating. I have never wanted someone to be interested in me just because of the doctor/money card. I usually don't say what I do until we hit a few dates and even then I will just say student unless they push further, Is this a good or bad way to approach this situation? I mean I am slightly worried that I will find someone that is just there for a good lifestyle and not love me for me, And last question for you girls do you even care that they are a doctor? or just don't care about that. I hope this turns into a decent discussion.
sweetkiwi Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 For me, money has no affect on my attraction at all. Above you said, "even If you're not that into him" which is ALWAYS a game ender. As in, not gonna happen. Period. The only women who are interested in you MORE after you reveal you're a doctor are exactly the type you should avoid. My mother is constantly introducing me to people, then when they walk away she recites their marital status, job, and perceived income. But I have already decided if I like them or not. Income be damned. Money comes and goes. Clinging to money is like holding a handful of sand and expecting it to be there always. I have had both sides of that coin. And having money creates problems just as it holds financial ease.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I think a similar situation could be presented to men as well. I was not crazy about my Ex when I first met her however feelings can develop over time as you learn about someone. People are a lot more than their first impressions. Money is not a big deal as long is it meets your basic needs. I would not consider dating someone in a dead end job or who has no aspirations for a career.
CarrieT Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Actually, a lot of women don't want to date doctors because it is not a conventional career where the hours can be relied upon. The money is irrelevant if the guy has to work crazy rotations or is specializing in a practice that is "not sexy." If a woman is after a guy with money, they go for stock brokers who work "banking hours." A guy's income is way less important than the whole package; respect, consideration, balance of work/play, etc. You are putting way to much emphasis on your profession than you are your personality. I just recently got engaged to a doctor with his own practice and, yes, I seriously considered NOT dating him at all because the money was not a factor in who is was at all. Not all women are as shallow as you are chalking them up to be.
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