cherepaha Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Hello, i'm new to this forum and i joined because i just broke up and its pretty unbearable... i'll try to make it short: We are both 'students from abroad' and attend the same uni. unlike me, he went home to do an internship. we kept in touch via watsapp but skype was always cancelled cuz he had another friend to catch up with (i learned to be ok with that). then he came back for two month and went back home for vacation in Dec. he cancelled skype 5 times before i broke up with him. what followed were messages 'im sorry, i was wrong, i'll make it up to you, lets try again'. my reply was 'not a wartsapp/skype convo, lets discuss it face to face' (a month after). During that month, he kept regular contact with me and we discussed trivial matters bla bla. it was nice. So i though that... it can be ok. When we met, he took his words back and decided he doesnt want to be in a relationship. That hurt. i started crying right there and he ended up saying 'im sorry, give me a few more days, i'll think about it again' to which i said no and left. and now i'm struggling with NC... cuz i have a feeling that if that will be broken, something might happen but... is it wise? P.S. been together for 2 yrs P.S.S. he also said he changed his future plans and will go back home after graduation... (nor am i invited, nor would i ever move there)
FailedFirstLove Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 it is RIDICULOUSLY HARD! I couldn't keep it after awhile. I just wasnt healing. I have a feeling ill have to start again tho. The thing is. It head hard and then I contacted and it felt so good. I could feel how much he was shocked and was too scared to contact. However. It becomes addictive and I can't stop again. I'm starting to think there is no such thing as limited contact because once u do. U can't stop.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 NC is always hard for the first six weeks to two or so months. It does get easier, you just have to miscellaneous through it...
church9832 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Its never easy, but since you guys were LDR, its easier since you got used to him not being there. I was in a LDR and she ended it because it felt like we weren't together. since you were the one who dumped him, he's gonna feel the majority of the pain. Every break up has one person who wanted it more. It's the saddest thing, but it gets easier. Somedays I hate the fact it gets easier because it depeciates my love for her, but its the only road you can take when you break up and theres nothing you can do to fix it. Let the house crumble and start over, but never forget how you built that house. You can't build a house yourself, someone will come help and finish it with you. Just remember theres always something great waiting for you, and if you feel guilty remember theres something great for him also.
Author cherepaha Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 since you were the one who dumped him, he's gonna feel the majority of the pain. Every break up has one person who wanted it more. yeah, i actualy think he dumped me at the end, cuz i did give a chance to tallk it out and i did say i could give him another try (when we met)... he just didnt want it anymore thats why i feel reaaaly stupid alongside the pain... but i just need to manage NC for awhile... i dont even go to the uni library atm
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