cobra123 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 First off i'm a 38 male and suffer from sever depression for the last 10 years, i'm on meds and have seen every therapist I can so I just deal with it, but after this breakup it's gotton worse. I met a 19 year od girl over the internet and I know what everyone says she's 19 but age does'nt mean as much to me as some people as long as they get along and we did. We met in August 2 over the internet on a free dating site and the next day met in person, I stayed at her place the first night no sex and were together from there on out. In the beginning we were not bf and gf although we were having sex. She had a hard child hood where her dad was in prison for beating her mom both were alcohalics and she had a miscarraige in October the year before and her bf at that time left her. She moved out on her own in January to a new town where I lived. The first month was great except for the fact that she still had alot of internet bf's that she had met prior to me, the first month together she cheated twice and had a guy in another state that she was talking to and they were discussing marraige, I'll admit I should have left then but we were just dating so I shrugged it off. The next month was better as she started to focus on me more and the other guys were now fading and she gave up contact with the guy from the other state. She basically moved in and we were getting along great, she got a part time job on the weekend nights at a bar, she started to get alot of phone numbers from who she said were just regulars and friends, we had our first big fight she when came home with a hickey on her neck which set me into a tailspin so I told here this was'st going to work and told here to leave. All of October we were broken up yet still talked over the phone, she got a new bf from the bar but never told me, then broke up with him and got a new bf, dated him for about 2 weeks then had a one night stand from a guy that always came to her work who she said she had a crush on, Nov 1st she called and said she had made some very bad mistakes and wanted to come back, I set down some rules I thought a relationship should be about and she agreed, Nov 1 we got back together but again I found out about some lies she did'nt tell me about in October but since we were not together i guess she had the right to do what she wanted, on the anniversary of her miscarraige she came to my house in the morning and was with her new bf at night which she never told me about, when I found out I broke it of again and we were done, I erased her number had no contact with her at all, she would call but I would not answer the phone, On thankgiving she asked if she could spend it with me and gave her the benifit of the doubt and said she would be invited to dinner since she only had a few friends in town, I did not take her back and told her how she had done me wrong, she apologized over and over, In december we started to talk as friends and she said she wanted me to spend Christmas with her family as they wanted to see me, we got pretty close over the time I knew her, she also asked to come back but needed more time to get herself together, she wanted to move back in wanted to get a new dog for the dog we bought together and started to buy things for my house that I need, simple stuff glasses, plates, etc, all December we talked but in my gut I felt she wasnt being honest, I told her Dec 17 that I would not be coming to Christmas because I had a wierd feeling she was'nt being honest, Jan 2 my friend was on face book and looked up her profile there was a pic of her with another guy in front of the tree and then she had told her friend she met this guy at her bar she had known him for a while and he treated her like a princess, I immedieatly called her and she told me all of December she wanted to come back but when she started to get serious with this guy she liked the way her life was going with him, then I found out on facebook they had been together as a couple since Dec 6 so the whole month she wanted to come back and was with him, she even invited me to Christmas, we then talked and she told me she kept it a secrete not to break my heart. We did have alot of good times in the 5 months we dated I really never got along or felt this way about someone untill I kept finding out about the lies, but my excuse was she's only 19 so I keep giving her second chances. I know all will say I dodge a bullet and I'm better off without her but my depression has gotton worse since she has been gone, by the way her new bf is 41 years old, she still texts me and says how much she cares for me and wants to be friends, but I never reply back, PLEASE HELP ME understand why I feel this way about someone who did me so wrong, and I would'nt mind you bashing her it always makes me feel better when people tell me how crazy she sounds. Sorry for such the long post but as my depression gets worse the more help I need from friends I have seen the doctor to many times already. Again thanks for any help...
LibbyListens Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I'm sorry you're going through this but she is clearly using you. She enjoys having you on the back burner. She gets off on the ego trip of having you and probably many other guys waiting in the wings. You should never trust her.
Recommended Posts