Pyro Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 My question is: Can't you have this with 3 people say? Can't you genuinely like 3 people and be in a relationship with all of them. I mean it's not likely that you spend more than 1/3 of your time with you SO. So why should s/he care what you do outside of that time? Also why is sex such a big deal. If your SO is to fall for someone else s/he could with or without sex. Intimacy with someone else is what is dangerous, but you can have just sex. I said it once before already, but being a girls sloppy seconds or sloppy thirds is not my style. Having to make time for three different girls would be difficult enough and having sex with so many different people at once is not my thing either. I'd be too worried about diseases.
clia Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 My question to you is WHY are you in a relationship? Be sincere. - Fear of ending up being alone (since friends might disappear) - Security and comfort of always being sure of having someone (related to above) - Love / infatuation / obsession (although this wont last forever) and can be reached through "casual" connections too. - Being able to build onto each other and therefore develop your lives better together. (again you can do this with more than 1 person too) I really cant see the benefits that a relationship might have and yet I seem to maybe (BIG MAYBE) want one with a particular person. Stability maybe? Idk For me it is primarily about companionship -- having someone to travel with, having someone to hang out with and go out to dinner with, having someone to be my plus one and having someone to have sex with who I trust and love. It doesn't stem from any sort of need to have a close connection or intimacy with another person or finding someone to "build a life with." In fact, I've never had any desire to live with someone or get married and I don't need someone else for financial reasons. I have no fear of being alone. I just like the companionship a relationship offers.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Having relations with many people at once just isn't for me. I can't imagine having to juggle multiple people at once and all the complications inherent in such a system. All the different wants, expectations, understandings, etc. I just want a single person who cares about me.
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