New to this and need :(

[BellaDK]

Hello I need some advice I've been with my husband for 7 years and we have been married for 1. We both have been really stressed out with family, work, money, school... What I assume lots of people stress about. We are on opposite schedules and only see each other couple hours a day.

For the past couple of years we have not been having sex regularly month go by, before when we had first started dating we were all over each other now it's like once every 3 months or if he's been drinking it'll happen. If I try to initiate he says he's tired and I get rejected. So I tried some new things to spice things up which were all about pleasing him it worked for a week we had sex twice but now when I try to initiate it again I get rejected last night I tried and same thing he just turned over and went to sleep then the next morning I came home from class early and saw him masterbating In the shower I was shocked just left the washroom his eyes were closed so he doesn't know I saw him. This wouldn't be a problem if he was sexually active with me I know all guys do this regardless but it's just hurtful because he won't even touch me and I am so willing.

I know he loves me and is not cheating but I feel he is not attracted to me, rejected and alone and that he's only with me now cuz were married.

I don't know what to do anymore there is no passion. Is it the stress with everything else in our life or is he just unsatisfied with me??

[frostfire1337]

Lose weight, use makeup, go do something odd like skydiving, change dinnertime, break the routine. He needs to be nudged out of the rut, change all the inputs you can and his output will change.

[BellaDK]

I have done that I would stay awake until he got home dressed up and everything but still nothing. He kind and sweet and he knows something is wrong but I'm not sure how to bring this topic up and I don't think he would be honest about it.