mistake? Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 my fiance borrowed me some money and in exchange for paying him back he wanted me to do some work for him, so i agreed to it thinking it would benefit us both. well now it has come to my feeling that it was a biiiiig mistake! i feel at his beck and call now to do what he wants me to do till he is paid off. if i say no i do not want to do that, then he has a hissy fit and throws it in my face how much he has helped me. i feel so put out by him asking me to do anything that i cringe when he asks, literally. i do not mind doing any work to pay him back and i have done alot of work for him to pay him back, but i still need to do more work for him. sometimes his asking is just a mattre of bad timing and i get irritated with him asking now but more so i feel he is now my boss and not my boyfriend! so what have i done and how am i going to endure more hours of working for him till he is paid back? i do have a life too but it bothers me that i feel so put out when he asks of me to do something. i want to give to him out of my heart and not a financial obligation.
tanbark813 Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 It's a little hard to respond without knowing how much he lent you, what kind of work you agreed to, and how exactly he went about asking you to fulfill your end of the agreement. That being said, it kind of sounds like you offered to work for him as a gesture thinking that he wouldn't really take you up on it and now that he has, you're offended for one reason or another. Assuming he's not asking for a crazy amount of work, I think you just have to suck it up and fulfill your end of the bargain. I mean, you did agree to it afterall. If you try to back out of the agreement now, I'm guessing he'll resent you for it. Originally posted by mistake? i want to give to him out of my heart and not a financial obligation. I can understand that, but I can almost guarantee he sees it as a financial obligation. You probably wouldn't if you were in his shoes, but I think most guys would see it that way.
mistake? Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 i do not expect him to "forget" this and i would not forget it either because i want a clean conscious.
mistake? Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 okay so the amount was only $200.00 and i am working off $10.00 an hour so that is 20 hours of working for him but it is not consistent enough to get it all paid off in like a week. so today here is an example: i am stuffing some envelopes for him, simple right? well there are two kinds of envelopes with two different things in it and i was not clear which was which so i asked him, then i honestly forgot then his mom confused me! then he confused me, then i had to ask him again! then he blew up at me by saying something about having to tell me a thousand times and why can't i do something so easy? i ended up in the bathroom in tears at his words. i emailed him a while ago and said this was a BIIIIIG mistake by my working for him because it has put him one up on me with now being like my employer instead of my boyfriend! i feel disrespected and demeaned by his words and his impatience with me. this was truly a big mistake but now it has happened and it will never EVER happen again! it is not a crazy amount of work or hard work even it is just his attitude and moods about it all. he was happy to help me, i know that but the price is too high. i will go to the poor house before i let him or anyone make me to feel so worthless and ashamed about myself, GRRRRR.
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